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Be quiet for now, my sister; he is your brother. Don&#8217t take this thing to heart.&#8221 And Tamar lived in her brother Absalom&#8217s house, a desolate woman. <a href="/nlt/2_samuel/13.htm">New Living Translation</a> Her brother Absalom saw her and asked, “Is it true that Amnon has been with you? Well, my sister, keep quiet for now, since he’s your brother. Don’t you worry about it.” So Tamar lived as a desolate woman in her brother Absalom’s house. <a href="/esv/2_samuel/13.htm">English Standard Version</a> And her brother Absalom said to her, “Has Amnon your brother been with you? Now hold your peace, my sister. He is your brother; do not take this to heart.” So Tamar lived, a desolate woman, in her brother Absalom’s house. <a href="/bsb/2_samuel/13.htm">Berean Standard Bible</a> Her brother Absalom said to her, “Has your brother Amnon been with you? Be quiet for now, my sister. He is your brother. Do not take this thing to heart.” So Tamar lived as a desolate woman in the house of her brother Absalom. <a href="/kjv/2_samuel/13.htm">King James Bible</a> And Absalom her brother said unto her, Hath Amnon thy brother been with thee? but hold now thy peace, my sister: he is thy brother; regard not this thing. So Tamar remained desolate in her brother Absalom's house. <a href="/nkjv/2_samuel/13.htm">New King James Version</a> And Absalom her brother said to her, “Has Amnon your brother been with you? But now hold your peace, my sister. He is your brother; do not take this thing to heart.” So Tamar remained desolate in her brother Absalom’s house. <a href="/nasb_/2_samuel/13.htm">New American Standard Bible</a> Then Absalom her brother said to her, “Has Amnon your brother been with you? But now keep silent, my sister, he is your brother; do not take this matter to heart.” So Tamar remained and was isolated in her brother Absalom’s house. <a href="/nasb/2_samuel/13.htm">NASB 1995</a> Then Absalom her brother said to her, &#8220Has Amnon your brother been with you? But now keep silent, my sister, he is your brother; do not take this matter to heart.&#8221 So Tamar remained and was desolate in her brother Absalom&#8217s house. <a href="/nasb77/2_samuel/13.htm">NASB 1977 </a> Then Absalom her brother said to her, “Has Amnon your brother been with you? But now keep silent, my sister, he is your brother; do not take this matter to heart.” So Tamar remained and was desolate in her brother Absalom’s house. <a href="/lsb/2_samuel/13.htm">Legacy Standard Bible </a> So Absalom her brother said to her, “Has Amnon your brother been with you? But now keep silent, my sister, he is your brother; do not take this matter to heart.” So Tamar remained and was desolate in her brother Absalom’s house. <a href="/amp/2_samuel/13.htm">Amplified Bible</a> So her brother Absalom said to her, “Has your brother Amnon been with you? But now keep silent, my sister; he is your brother; do not take this matter to heart.” So Tamar remained secluded in her brother Absalom’s house. <a href="/csb/2_samuel/13.htm">Christian Standard Bible</a> Her brother Absalom said to her, “Has your brother Amnon been with you? Be quiet for now, my sister. He is your brother. Don’t take this thing to heart.” So Tamar lived as a desolate woman in the house of her brother Absalom. <a href="/hcsb/2_samuel/13.htm">Holman Christian Standard Bible</a> Her brother Absalom said to her: &#8220Has your brother Amnon been with you? Be quiet for now, my sister. He is your brother. Don&#8217t take this thing to heart.&#8221 So Tamar lived as a desolate woman in the house of her brother Absalom. <a href="/asv/2_samuel/13.htm">American Standard Version</a> And Absalom her brother said unto her, Hath Amnon thy brother been with thee? but now hold thy peace, my sister: he is thy brother; take not this thing to heart. So Tamar remained desolate in her brother Absalom's house. <a href="/cev/2_samuel/13.htm">Contemporary English Version</a> Tamar's brother Absalom said to her, "How could Amnon have done such a terrible thing to you! But since he's your brother, don't tell anyone what happened. Just try not to think about it." Tamar soon moved into Absalom's house, but she was always sad and lonely. <a href="/erv/2_samuel/13.htm">English Revised Version</a> And Absalom her brother said unto her, Hath Amnon thy brother been with thee? but now hold thy peace, my sister: he is thy brother; take not this thing to heart. So Tamar remained desolate in her brother Absalom's house. <a href="/gwt/2_samuel/13.htm">GOD'S WORD® Translation</a> Her brother Absalom asked her, "Has your brother Amnon been with you? Sister, be quiet for now. He's your brother. Don't dwell on this matter." So Tamar stayed there at the home of her brother Absalom and was depressed. <a href="/gnt/2_samuel/13.htm">Good News Translation</a> When her brother Absalom saw her, he asked, "Has Amnon molested you? Please, sister, don't let it upset you so much. He is your half brother, so don't tell anyone about it." So Tamar lived in Absalom's house, sad and lonely. <a href="/isv/2_samuel/13.htm">International Standard Version</a> Later, her brother Absalom asked her, "Has Amnon, that brother of yours, raped you? Then keep quiet about your half-brother for now, my sister. Stop taking this so personally." From that time on, Tamar lived in continuous desolation within her brother Absalom's house. <a href="/msb/2_samuel/13.htm">Majority Standard Bible</a> Her brother Absalom said to her, ?Has your brother Amnon been with you? Be quiet for now, my sister. He is your brother. Do not take this thing to heart.? So Tamar lived as a desolate woman in the house of her brother Absalom. <a href="/net/2_samuel/13.htm">NET Bible</a> Her brother Absalom said to her, "Was Amnon your brother with you? Now be quiet, my sister. He is your brother. Don't take it so seriously!" Tamar, devastated, lived in the house of her brother Absalom. <a href="/nheb/2_samuel/13.htm">New Heart English Bible</a> And her brother Absalom said to her, "Has Amnon your brother been with you? Be quiet for now, my sister. He is your brother. Do not take this too seriously. " So Tamar, devastated, lived in her brother Absalom's house. <a href="/wbt/2_samuel/13.htm">Webster's Bible Translation</a> And Absalom her brother said to her, Hath Amnon thy brother been with thee? but hold now thy peace, my sister: he is thy brother; regard not this thing. So Tamar remained desolate in her brother Absalom's house. <a href="/web/2_samuel/13.htm">World English Bible</a> Absalom her brother said to her, “Has Amnon your brother been with you? But now hold your peace, my sister. He is your brother. Don’t take this thing to heart.” So Tamar remained desolate in her brother Absalom’s house. <div class="vheading2">Literal Translations</div><a href="/lsv/2_samuel/13.htm">Literal Standard Version</a> and her brother Absalom says to her, “Has your brother Amnon been with you? And now, my sister, keep silent, he [is] your brother; do not set your heart to this thing”; and Tamar dwells—but desolate—in the house of her brother Absalom. <a href="/ylt/2_samuel/13.htm">Young's Literal Translation</a> and Absalom her brother saith unto her, 'Hath Amnon thy brother been with thee? and now, my sister, keep silent, he is thy brother; set not thy heart to this thing;' and Tamar dwelleth -- but desolate -- in the house of Absalom her brother. <a href="/slt/2_samuel/13.htm">Smith's Literal Translation</a> And Absalom her brother will say to her Was Amnon thy brother with thee? and now my sister be silent, he is thy brother; thou shalt not set thy heart to this word. And Tamar will remain, and she was desolate in the house of Absalom her brother.<div class="vheading2">Catholic Translations</div><a href="/drb/2_samuel/13.htm">Douay-Rheims Bible</a> And Absalom her brother said to her: Hath thy brother Amnon lain with thee? but now, sister, hold thy peace, he is thy brother: and afflict not thy heart for this thing. So Thamar remained pining away in the house of Absalom her brother. <a href="/cpdv/2_samuel/13.htm">Catholic Public Domain Version</a> Then her brother Absalom said to her: “Has your brother Amnon lain with you? But now, sister, be quiet. For he is your brother. And you should not afflict your heart because of this matter.” And so, Tamar remained, wasting away in the house of her brother Absalom. <a href="/nabre/2_samuel/13.htm">New American Bible</a> Her brother Absalom said to her: “Has your brother Amnon been with you? Keep still now, my sister; he is your brother. Do not take this so to heart.” So Tamar remained, devastated, in the house of her brother Absalom. <a href="/nrsvce/2_samuel/13.htm">New Revised Standard Version</a> Her brother Absalom said to her, “Has Amnon your brother been with you? Be quiet for now, my sister; he is your brother; do not take this to heart.” So Tamar remained, a desolate woman, in her brother Absalom’s house.<div class="vheading2">Translations from Aramaic</div><a href="/lamsa/2_samuel/13.htm">Lamsa Bible</a> And Absalom her brother said to her, Has Amnon your brother lain with you? But hold now your peace, my sister; he is your brother; do not take this deed to your heart. So Tamar remained horrified in the house of Absalom her brother. <a href="/hpbt/2_samuel/13.htm">Peshitta Holy Bible Translated</a> Abishlum, the brother of Khamnun, said to her: “Your brother has lain with you. Now my sister, quiet yourself. He is your brother. Do not let this deed overcome your heart.” And Tamar dwelt and was stupified in the house of Abishlum her brother<div class="vheading2">OT Translations</div><a href="/jps/2_samuel/13.htm">JPS Tanakh 1917</a> And Absalom her brother said unto her: 'Hath Amnon thy brother been with thee? but now hold thy peace, my sister: he is thy brother; take not this thing to heart.' So Tamar remained desolate in her brother, Absalom's house. <a href="/sep/2_samuel/13.htm">Brenton Septuagint Translation</a> And Abessalom her brother said to her, Has thy brother Amnon been with thee? now then, my sister, be silent, for he is thy brother: be not careful to mention this matter. So Themar dwelt as a widow in the house of her brother Abessalom. <a href="/parallel/2_samuel/13-20.htm">Additional Translations ...</a></div></div></div><div id="centbox"><div class="padcent"><a name="audio" id="audio"></a><div class="vheadingv">Audio Bible</div><iframe width="100%" src="https://www.youtube.com/embed/_0ajZHUzMKw?start=3422" title="YouTube video player" frameborder="0" allow="accelerometer; autoplay; clipboard-write; encrypted-media; gyroscope; picture-in-picture; web-share" allowfullscreen></iframe> <div class="vheadingv">Context</div><a href="/bsb/2_samuel/13.htm">Amnon and Tamar</a> …19And Tamar put ashes on her head and tore her robe. And putting her hand on her head, she went away crying bitterly. 20<a href="/hebrew/251.htm" title="251: ’ā·ḥî·hā (N-msc:: 3fs) -- A brother. A primitive word; a brother (like 'ab).">Her brother</a> <a href="/hebrew/53.htm" title="53: ’aḇ·šā·lō·wm (N-proper-ms) -- Or babshalowm; from 'ab and shalowm; father of peace; Abshalom, a son of David; also a later Israelite.">Absalom</a> <a href="/hebrew/559.htm" title="559: way·yō·mer (Conj-w:: V-Qal-ConsecImperf-3ms) -- To utter, say. A primitive root; to say.">said</a> <a href="/hebrew/413.htm" title="413: ’ê·le·hā (Prep:: 3fs) -- To, into, towards. ">to her,</a> <a href="/hebrew/251.htm" title="251: ’ā·ḥîḵ (N-msc:: 2fs) -- A brother. A primitive word; a brother (like 'ab).">“Has your brother</a> <a href="/hebrew/550.htm" title="550: ha·’ă·mî·nō·wn (Art:: N-proper-ms) -- Faithful, two Isr. Or uamiynown; from 'aman; faithful; Amnon, a son of David.">Amnon</a> <a href="/hebrew/1961.htm" title="1961: hā·yāh (V-Qal-Perf-3ms) -- To fall out, come to pass, become, be. A primitive root; to exist, i.e. Be or become, come to pass.">been</a> <a href="/hebrew/5973.htm" title="5973: ‘im·māḵ (Prep:: 2fs) -- From amam; adverb or preposition, with, in varied applications; specifically, equally with; often with prepositional prefix.">with you?</a> <a href="/hebrew/2790.htm" title="2790: ha·ḥă·rî·šî (V-Hifil-Imp-fs) -- To cut in, engrave, plow, devise.">Be quiet</a> <a href="/hebrew/6258.htm" title="6258: wə·‘at·tāh (Conj-w:: Adv) -- Now. From eth; at this time, whether adverb, conjunction or expletive.">for now,</a> <a href="/hebrew/269.htm" title="269: ’ă·ḥō·w·ṯî (N-fsc:: 1cs) -- Sister. Irregular feminine of 'ach; a sister (like 'Ezrachiy), literally and figuratively).">my sister.</a> <a href="/hebrew/1931.htm" title="1931: hū (Pro-3ms) -- He, she, it. ">He</a> <a href="/hebrew/251.htm" title="251: ’ā·ḥîḵ (N-msc:: 2fs) -- A brother. A primitive word; a brother (like 'ab).">is your brother.</a> <a href="/hebrew/408.htm" title="408: ’al- (Adv) -- Not (a subjective neg.). A negative particle; not; once as a noun, nothing.">Do not</a> <a href="/hebrew/7896.htm" title="7896: tā·šî·ṯî (V-Qal-Imperf-2fs) -- To put, set. A primitive root; to place.">take</a> <a href="/hebrew/853.htm" title="853: ’eṯ- (DirObjM) -- Apparent contracted from 'owth in the demonstrative sense of entity; properly, self."></a> <a href="/hebrew/2088.htm" title="2088: haz·zeh (Art:: Pro-ms) -- This, here. A primitive word; the masculine demonstrative pronoun, this or that.">this</a> <a href="/hebrew/1697.htm" title="1697: lad·dā·ḇār (Prep-l, Art:: N-ms) -- Speech, word. From dabar; a word; by implication, a matter or thing; adverbially, a cause.">thing</a> <a href="/hebrew/3820.htm" title="3820: lib·bêḵ (N-msc:: 2fs) -- A form of lebab; the heart; also used very widely for the feelings, the will and even the intellect; likewise for the centre of anything.">to heart.”</a> <a href="/hebrew/8559.htm" title="8559: tā·mār (N-proper-fs) -- The same as tamar; Tamar, the name of three women and a place.">So Tamar</a> <a href="/hebrew/3427.htm" title="3427: wat·tê·šeḇ (Conj-w:: V-Qal-ConsecImperf-3fs) -- A primitive root; properly, to sit down; by implication, to dwell, to remain; causatively, to settle, to marry.">lived</a> <a href="/hebrew/8076.htm" title="8076: wə·šō·mê·māh (Conj-w:: V-Qal-Prtcpl-fs) -- Devastated. From shamem; ruined.">as a desolate</a> <a href="/hebrew/1004.htm" title="1004: bêṯ (N-msc) -- A house. Probably from banah abbreviated; a house.">woman in the house</a> <a href="/hebrew/251.htm" title="251: ’ā·ḥî·hā (N-msc:: 3fs) -- A brother. A primitive word; a brother (like 'ab).">of her brother</a> <a href="/hebrew/53.htm" title="53: ’aḇ·šā·lō·wm (N-proper-ms) -- Or babshalowm; from 'ab and shalowm; father of peace; Abshalom, a son of David; also a later Israelite.">Absalom.</a> 21When King David heard all this, he was furious.…<div class="cred"><a href="//berean.bible">Berean Standard Bible</a> · <a href="//berean.bible/downloads.htm">Download</a></div> <a name="crossref" id="crossref"></a><div class="vheading">Cross References</div><div id="crf"><a href="/genesis/34-5.htm">Genesis 34:5-7</a> Jacob heard that Shechem had defiled his daughter Dinah, but since his sons were with his livestock in the field, he remained silent about it until they returned. / Meanwhile, Shechem’s father Hamor came to speak with Jacob. / When Jacob’s sons heard what had happened, they returned from the field. They were filled with grief and fury, because Shechem had committed an outrage in Israel by lying with Jacob’s daughter—a thing that should not be done. <a href="/genesis/34-25.htm">Genesis 34:25-31</a> Three days later, while they were still in pain, two of Jacob’s sons (Dinah’s brothers Simeon and Levi) took their swords, went into the unsuspecting city, and slaughtered every male. / They killed Hamor and his son Shechem with their swords, took Dinah out of Shechem’s house, and went away. / Jacob’s other sons came upon the slaughter and looted the city, because their sister had been defiled. ... <a href="/deuteronomy/22-25.htm">Deuteronomy 22:25-27</a> But if the man encounters a betrothed woman in the open country, and he overpowers her and lies with her, only the man who has done this must die. / Do nothing to the young woman, because she has committed no sin worthy of death. This case is just like one in which a man attacks his neighbor and murders him. / When he found her in the field, the betrothed woman cried out, but there was no one to save her. <a href="/judges/19-22.htm">Judges 19:22-30</a> While they were enjoying themselves, suddenly the wicked men of the city surrounded the house. Pounding on the door, they said to the old man who owned the house, “Bring out the man who came to your house, so we can have relations with him!” / The owner of the house went out and said to them, “No, my brothers, do not do this wicked thing! After all, this man is a guest in my house. Do not commit this outrage. / Look, let me bring out my virgin daughter and the man’s concubine, and you can use them and do with them as you wish. But do not do such a vile thing to this man.” ... <a href="/2_samuel/12-10.htm">2 Samuel 12:10-12</a> Now, therefore, the sword will never depart from your house, because you have despised Me and have taken the wife of Uriah the Hittite to be your own.’ / This is what the LORD says: ‘I will raise up adversity against you from your own house. Before your very eyes I will take your wives and give them to another, and he will lie with them in broad daylight. / You have acted in secret, but I will do this thing in broad daylight before all Israel.’” <a href="/2_samuel/3-28.htm">2 Samuel 3:28-29</a> Afterward, David heard about this and said, “I and my kingdom are forever guiltless before the LORD concerning the blood of Abner son of Ner. / May it whirl over the head of Joab and over the entire house of his father, and may the house of Joab never be without one having a discharge or skin disease, or one who leans on a staff or falls by the sword or lacks food.” <a href="/2_samuel/16-21.htm">2 Samuel 16:21-22</a> Ahithophel replied, “Sleep with your father’s concubines, whom he has left to take care of the palace. When all Israel hears that you have become a stench to your father, then the hands of all who are with you will be strengthened.” / So they pitched a tent for Absalom on the roof, and he slept with his father’s concubines in the sight of all Israel. <a href="/1_kings/2-13.htm">1 Kings 2:13-25</a> Now Adonijah son of Haggith went to Bathsheba the mother of Solomon, and she asked, “Do you come in peace?” “Yes, in peace,” he replied. / Then he said, “I have something to tell you.” “Say it,” she answered. / “You know that the kingship was mine,” he said. “All Israel expected that I should reign, but the kingship has turned to my brother, for it has come to him from the LORD. ... <a href="/psalms/55-12.htm">Psalm 55:12-14</a> For it is not an enemy who insults me; that I could endure. It is not a foe who rises against me; from him I could hide. / But it is you, a man like myself, my companion and close friend. / We shared sweet fellowship together; we walked with the crowd into the house of God. <a href="/proverbs/18-19.htm">Proverbs 18:19</a> An offended brother is harder to win than a fortified city, and disputes are like the bars of a castle. <a href="/proverbs/25-28.htm">Proverbs 25:28</a> Like a city whose walls are broken down is a man who does not control his temper. <a href="/matthew/5-23.htm">Matthew 5:23-24</a> So if you are offering your gift at the altar and there remember that your brother has something against you, / leave your gift there before the altar. First go and be reconciled to your brother; then come and offer your gift. <a href="/matthew/18-15.htm">Matthew 18:15-17</a> If your brother sins against you, go and confront him privately. If he listens to you, you have won your brother over. / But if he will not listen, take one or two others along, so that ‘every matter may be established by the testimony of two or three witnesses.’ / If he refuses to listen to them, tell it to the church. And if he refuses to listen even to the church, regard him as you would a pagan or a tax collector. <a href="/luke/17-3.htm">Luke 17:3-4</a> Watch yourselves. If your brother sins, rebuke him; and if he repents, forgive him. / Even if he sins against you seven times in a day, and seven times returns to say, ‘I repent,’ you must forgive him.” <a href="/romans/12-17.htm">Romans 12:17-21</a> Do not repay anyone evil for evil. Carefully consider what is right in the eyes of everybody. / If it is possible on your part, live at peace with everyone. / Do not avenge yourselves, beloved, but leave room for God’s wrath. For it is written: “Vengeance is Mine; I will repay, says the Lord.” ...</div> <a name="tsk" id="tsk"><div class="vheading">Treasury of Scripture</div>And Absalom her brother said to her, Has Amnon your brother been with you? but hold now your peace, my sister: he is your brother; regard not this thing. So Tamar remained desolate in her brother Absalom's house.Amnon [heb] Aminon <a href="/proverbs/26-24.htm">Proverbs 26:24</a> He that hateth dissembleth with his lips, and layeth up deceit within him;<a href="/romans/12-19.htm">Romans 12:19</a> Dearly beloved, avenge not yourselves, but rather give place unto wrath: for it is written, Vengeance is mine; I will repay, saith the Lord.<a href="/genesis/34-2.htm">Genesis 34:2</a> And when Shechem the son of Hamor the Hivite, prince of the country, saw her, he took her, and lay with her, and defiled her.<a href="/genesis/46-15.htm">Genesis 46:15</a> These be the sons of Leah, which she bare unto Jacob in Padanaram, with his daughter Dinah: all the souls of his sons and his daughters were thirty and three.<div class="vheading">Jump to Previous</div><a href="/2_samuel/13-4.htm">Absalom</a> <a href="/2_samuel/13-4.htm">Absalom's</a> <a href="/2_samuel/13-4.htm">Ab'salom's</a> <a href="/2_samuel/13-15.htm">Amnon</a> <a href="/deuteronomy/25-9.htm">Brother's</a> <a href="/2_samuel/13-19.htm">Crying</a> <a href="/1_samuel/23-24.htm">Desolate</a> <a href="/2_samuel/7-2.htm">Dwelleth</a> <a href="/2_samuel/9-13.htm">Dwelt</a> <a href="/2_samuel/11-19.htm">End</a> <a href="/2_samuel/10-12.htm">Heart</a> <a href="/2_samuel/13-11.htm">Hold</a> <a href="/2_samuel/13-8.htm">House</a> <a href="/2_samuel/1-4.htm">Matter</a> <a href="/2_samuel/10-19.htm">Peace</a> <a href="/1_samuel/14-9.htm">Quiet</a> <a href="/2_samuel/9-8.htm">Regard</a> <a href="/1_samuel/10-27.htm">Silent</a> <a href="/2_samuel/13-11.htm">Sister</a> <a href="/2_samuel/13-19.htm">Tamar</a> <a href="/isaiah/54-11.htm">Uncomforted</a><div class="vheading2">Jump to Next</div><a href="/2_samuel/13-22.htm">Absalom</a> <a href="/2_samuel/13-23.htm">Absalom's</a> <a href="/2_samuel/14-30.htm">Ab'salom's</a> <a href="/2_samuel/13-21.htm">Amnon</a> <a href="/1_kings/2-15.htm">Brother's</a> <a href="/2_samuel/18-26.htm">Crying</a> <a href="/1_kings/9-8.htm">Desolate</a> <a href="/2_samuel/14-28.htm">Dwelleth</a> <a href="/2_samuel/14-24.htm">Dwelt</a> <a href="/2_samuel/13-36.htm">End</a> <a href="/2_samuel/13-28.htm">Heart</a> <a href="/2_samuel/15-5.htm">Hold</a> <a href="/2_samuel/14-8.htm">House</a> <a href="/2_samuel/14-20.htm">Matter</a> <a href="/2_samuel/14-17.htm">Peace</a> <a href="/1_kings/22-3.htm">Quiet</a> <a href="/1_kings/8-28.htm">Regard</a> <a href="/2_samuel/19-10.htm">Silent</a> <a href="/2_samuel/13-22.htm">Sister</a> <a href="/2_samuel/13-22.htm">Tamar</a> <a href="/job/30-28.htm">Uncomforted</a><div class="vheading2">2 Samuel 13</div>1. <a href="/2_samuel/13-1.htm">Amnon loving Tamar, by Jonadab's counsel feigning himself sick, ravishes her.</a> 15. <a href="/2_samuel/13-15.htm">He hates her, and shamefully turns her away</a> 19. <a href="/2_samuel/13-19.htm">Absalom entertains her, and conceals his purpose</a> 23. <a href="/2_samuel/13-23.htm">At a sheep-shearing among all the king's sons, he kills Amnon</a> 31. <a href="/2_samuel/13-31.htm">David grieving at the news, is comforted by Jonadab</a> 37. <a href="/2_samuel/13-37.htm">Absalom flies to Talmai at Geshur</a> </div></div><div id="mdd"><div align="center"><div class="bot2"><table align="center" width="100%"><tr><td><div align="center"> <script id="3d27ed63fc4348d5b062c4527ae09445"> (new Image()).src = 'https://capi.connatix.com/tr/si?token=51ce25d5-1a8c-424a-8695-4bd48c750f35&cid=3a9f82d0-4344-4f8d-ac0c-e1a0eb43a405'; </script> <script id="b817b7107f1d4a7997da1b3c33457e03"> (new Image()).src = 'https://capi.connatix.com/tr/si?token=cb0edd8b-b416-47eb-8c6d-3cc96561f7e8&cid=3a9f82d0-4344-4f8d-ac0c-e1a0eb43a405'; </script>  <div id='div-gpt-ad-1529103594582-2'> </div>  <div id='div-gpt-ad-1529103594582-0' style='max-width: 300px;'> </div>  <div id='div-gpt-ad-1529103594582-3'> </div>  <div id='div-gpt-ad-1529103594582-1' style='max-width: 300px;'> </div>  <div align="center" id='div-gpt-ad-1531425649696-0'> </div> <ins class="adsbygoogle" style="display:inline-block;width:200px;height:200px" data-ad-client="ca-pub-3753401421161123" data-ad-slot="3592799687"></ins> <script> (adsbygoogle = window.adsbygoogle || []).push({}); </script> </div> </td></tr></table></div></div></div><div id="combox"><div class="padcom"><a name="study" id="study"></a><div class="vheading"><table width="100%"><tr><td width="99%" valign="top"><a href="/study/2_samuel/13.htm">Study Bible</a></td><td width="1%" valign="top"><a href="/study/2_samuel/" title="Book Summary and Study">Book ◦</a> <a href="/study/chapters/2_samuel/13.htm" title="Chapter summary and Study">Chapter </a></tr></table></div>Her brother Absalom said to her, Absalom, the third son of King David, is introduced here as a protective figure for his sister Tamar. This familial relationship is significant, as it sets the stage for the ensuing conflict within David's household. Absalom's role as a brother is crucial, as it highlights the familial duty and honor that were highly valued in ancient Israelite culture.“Has your brother Amnon been with you? Amnon, the firstborn son of David, is implicated in a grievous sin against Tamar. The question posed by Absalom suggests an awareness of Amnon's actions, reflecting the lack of privacy and the close-knit nature of royal family life. This inquiry also underscores the gravity of Amnon's offense, as it was not only a personal violation but also a breach of familial and societal norms.Be quiet for now, my sister. Absalom's advice to Tamar to remain silent can be seen as a protective measure, possibly to prevent further shame or scandal. In the cultural context of ancient Israel, a woman's honor was closely tied to her family's reputation, and public knowledge of such an incident could have severe repercussions. This counsel reflects the complex dynamics of honor and shame in the biblical world.He is your brother. This phrase emphasizes the familial bond and the expectation of loyalty and protection within the family unit. It also highlights the tragic irony of the situation, as the perpetrator of the crime is a close relative, which would have compounded the emotional and social turmoil for Tamar.Do not take this thing to heart.” Absalom's attempt to console Tamar may reflect a desire to mitigate her distress, though it also underscores the limitations of his ability to provide justice or healing. This phrase can be seen as an acknowledgment of the deep emotional impact of the event, while also suggesting a need to maintain composure in the face of adversity.So Tamar lived as a desolate woman The term "desolate" indicates Tamar's profound sense of loss and isolation following the incident. In the ancient Near Eastern context, a woman's prospects for marriage and social standing were severely diminished by such an event, leaving her in a state of vulnerability and marginalization. This reflects the harsh realities faced by women in biblical times.in the house of her brother Absalom. Tamar's residence with Absalom signifies his role as her protector and provider in the absence of a husband. This arrangement also foreshadows Absalom's eventual rebellion against David, as the unresolved injustice against Tamar becomes a catalyst for further familial strife. The narrative highlights the long-term consequences of sin and the breakdown of family relationships within the royal household.<div class="vheading2">Persons / Places / Events</div>1. <a href="/topical/a/absalom.htm">Absalom</a> The son of King David and brother to both Amnon and Tamar. He plays a significant role in comforting Tamar and later avenging her. 2. <a href="/topical/t/tamar.htm">Tamar</a> The daughter of King David, who is violated by her half-brother Amnon. She is left desolate and lives in Absalom's house after the incident. 3. <a href="/topical/a/amnon.htm">Amnon</a> The firstborn son of King David, who commits a grievous sin against his half-sister Tamar, leading to familial strife and his eventual death. 4. <a href="/topical/d/david's_household.htm">David's Household</a> The royal family of Israel, experiencing internal turmoil and moral failure, which has broader implications for the kingdom. 5. <a href="/topical/d/desolation.htm">Desolation</a> The state in which Tamar finds herself, reflecting the deep personal and familial consequences of sin and injustice.<div class="vheading2">Teaching Points</div><a href="/topical/t/the_consequences_of_sin.htm">The Consequences of Sin</a> Sin, especially within families, can lead to devastating consequences that affect not only the individuals directly involved but also the broader community. <a href="/topical/t/the_importance_of_justice.htm">The Importance of Justice</a> The lack of immediate justice for Tamar's situation highlights the need for righteous leadership and the pursuit of justice in our communities. <a href="/topical/t/the_role_of_silence_and_speaking_out.htm">The Role of Silence and Speaking Out</a> Absalom's advice to Tamar to "be quiet" reflects a tension between silence and the need to speak out against injustice. Believers are called to discern when to speak and when to remain silent. <a href="/topical/g/god's_comfort_in_desolation.htm">God's Comfort in Desolation</a> Even in times of desolation and despair, God offers comfort and hope. Believers can find solace in God's presence and promises. <a href="/topical/f/family_dynamics_and_forgiveness.htm">Family Dynamics and Forgiveness</a> The account challenges us to consider the complexities of family relationships and the role of forgiveness and reconciliation in healing brokenness.<div class="vheading2">Lists and Questions</div><a href="/top10/lessons_from_2_samuel_13.htm">Top 10 Lessons from 2 Samuel 13</a> <a href="/q/evidence_for_events_in_2_samuel_13.htm">Are there any archaeological discoveries or historical records supporting the events in 2 Samuel 13?</a> <a href="/q/how_reconcile_2_sam_13_1-22_with_laws.htm">How do we reconcile the events of 2 Samuel 13:1–22 with biblical laws condemning incest and rape? </a> <a href="/q/what_lessons_from_amnon's_bible_story.htm">What lessons does Amnon's story in the Bible teach?</a> <a href="/q/was_abijah's_mother_michaiah_or_maachah.htm">What was King Abijah's mother's name: Michaiah (2 Chronicles 13:2) or Maachah (2 Chronicles 11:20), given Absalom's only daughter was Tamar (2 Samuel 14:27)?</a><a name="commentary" id="commentary"></a><div class="vheading2"><a href="/commentaries/ellicott/2_samuel/13.htm">Ellicott's Commentary for English Readers</a></div>(20) Hath Amnon.--The Hebrew, by a clerical error, has here Aminon. Absalom at once sees how the case stands, comforts his sister, but counsels silence as necessary to the purpose of revenge he had at once formed, and takes his desolate sister to his own house.<div class="vheading2"><a href="/commentaries/pulpit/2_samuel/13.htm">Pulpit Commentary</a></div>Verse 20. - Hath Amnon? The Hebrew has Aminon, a diminutive, which some authorities regard as expressive of contempt. More probably it is an accidental variety of spelling. Hold now thy peace. We must not suppose that Absalom did not comfort his sister, and make her conscious of his love. He was, in fact, so indignant at her treatment as to have purposed the sternest vengeance. But this he concealed from her, and counselled patience, net merely because she would have dissuaded him from a course so full of danger to himself, but because it was the duty of both to wait and see what course David would take. Where polygamy is permitted, it is the duty especially of the brothers to defend their sisters' honour (<a href="/genesis/34-31.htm">Genesis 34:31</a>). But David was both her father and the chief magistrate; and, moreover, he had been made an instrument in his daughter's wrong. They must be patient, and only if David failed in his duty would Absalom's turn come. Meanwhile, Tamar dwelt in his house desolate, as one whose honour and happiness had been laid waste. <a href="/commentaries/2_samuel/13-20.htm">Parallel Commentaries ...</a> <a name="lexicon" id="lexicon"></a><div class="vheading">Hebrew</div>Her brother אָחִ֗יהָ (’ā·ḥî·hā) Noun - masculine singular construct | third person feminine singular <a href="/hebrew/strongs_251.htm">Strong's 251: </a> A brother, ) Absalom אַבְשָׁל֣וֹם (’aḇ·šā·lō·wm) Noun - proper - masculine singular <a href="/hebrew/strongs_53.htm">Strong's 53: </a> Absalom -- 'my father is peace', two Israelites said וַיֹּ֨אמֶר (way·yō·mer) Conjunctive waw | Verb - Qal - Consecutive imperfect - third person masculine singular <a href="/hebrew/strongs_559.htm">Strong's 559: </a> To utter, say to her: אֵלֶ֜יהָ (’ê·le·hā) Preposition | third person feminine singular <a href="/hebrew/strongs_413.htm">Strong's 413: </a> Near, with, among, to “Has your brother אָחִיךְ֮ (’ā·ḥîḵ) Noun - masculine singular construct | second person feminine singular <a href="/hebrew/strongs_251.htm">Strong's 251: </a> A brother, ) Amnon הַאֲמִינ֣וֹן (ha·’ă·mî·nō·wn) Article | Noun - proper - masculine singular <a href="/hebrew/strongs_550.htm">Strong's 550: </a> Amnon -- 'faithful', two Israelites been הָיָ֣ה (hā·yāh) Verb - Qal - Perfect - third person masculine singular <a href="/hebrew/strongs_1961.htm">Strong's 1961: </a> To fall out, come to pass, become, be with you? עִמָּךְ֒ (‘im·māḵ) Preposition | second person feminine singular <a href="/hebrew/strongs_5973.htm">Strong's 5973: </a> With, equally with Be quiet הַחֲרִ֙ישִׁי֙ (ha·ḥă·rî·šî) Verb - Hifil - Imperative - feminine singular <a href="/hebrew/strongs_2790.htm">Strong's 2790: </a> To cut in, engrave, plow, devise for now, וְעַתָּ֞ה (wə·‘at·tāh) Conjunctive waw | Adverb <a href="/hebrew/strongs_6258.htm">Strong's 6258: </a> At this time my sister. אֲחוֹתִ֤י (’ă·ḥō·w·ṯî) Noun - feminine singular construct | first person common singular <a href="/hebrew/strongs_269.htm">Strong's 269: </a> Sister -- a sister He ה֔וּא (hū) Pronoun - third person masculine singular <a href="/hebrew/strongs_1931.htm">Strong's 1931: </a> He, self, the same, this, that, as, are is your brother. אָחִ֣יךְ (’ā·ḥîḵ) Noun - masculine singular construct | second person feminine singular <a href="/hebrew/strongs_251.htm">Strong's 251: </a> A brother, ) Do not אַל־ (’al-) Adverb <a href="/hebrew/strongs_408.htm">Strong's 408: </a> Not take תָּשִׁ֥יתִי (tā·šî·ṯî) Verb - Qal - Imperfect - second person feminine singular <a href="/hebrew/strongs_7896.htm">Strong's 7896: </a> To put, set this הַזֶּ֑ה (haz·zeh) Article | Pronoun - masculine singular <a href="/hebrew/strongs_2088.htm">Strong's 2088: </a> This, that thing לַדָּבָ֣ר (lad·dā·ḇār) Preposition-l, Article | Noun - masculine singular <a href="/hebrew/strongs_1697.htm">Strong's 1697: </a> A word, a matter, thing, a cause to heart.” לִבֵּ֖ךְ (lib·bêḵ) Noun - masculine singular construct | second person feminine singular <a href="/hebrew/strongs_3820.htm">Strong's 3820: </a> The heart, the feelings, the will, the intellect, centre So Tamar תָּמָר֙ (tā·mār) Noun - proper - feminine singular <a href="/hebrew/strongs_8559.htm">Strong's 8559: </a> Tamar -- daughter-in-law of Judah, also two Israelite women, also a place South of the Dead Sea lived וַתֵּ֤שֶׁב (wat·tê·šeḇ) Conjunctive waw | Verb - Qal - Consecutive imperfect - third person feminine singular <a href="/hebrew/strongs_3427.htm">Strong's 3427: </a> To sit down, to dwell, to remain, to settle, to marry as a desolate וְשֹׁ֣מֵמָ֔ה (wə·šō·mê·māh) Conjunctive waw | Verb - Qal - Participle - feminine singular <a href="/hebrew/strongs_8076.htm">Strong's 8076: </a> Devastated woman in the house בֵּ֖ית (bêṯ) Noun - masculine singular construct <a href="/hebrew/strongs_1004.htm">Strong's 1004: </a> A house of her brother אָחִֽיהָ׃ (’ā·ḥî·hā) Noun - masculine singular construct | third person feminine singular <a href="/hebrew/strongs_251.htm">Strong's 251: </a> A brother, ) Absalom. אַבְשָׁל֥וֹם (’aḇ·šā·lō·wm) Noun - proper - masculine singular <a href="/hebrew/strongs_53.htm">Strong's 53: </a> Absalom -- 'my father is peace', two Israelites <div class="vheading">Links</div><a href="/niv/2_samuel/13-20.htm">2 Samuel 13:20 NIV</a> <a href="/nlt/2_samuel/13-20.htm">2 Samuel 13:20 NLT</a> <a href="/esv/2_samuel/13-20.htm">2 Samuel 13:20 ESV</a> <a href="/nasb/2_samuel/13-20.htm">2 Samuel 13:20 NASB</a> <a href="/kjv/2_samuel/13-20.htm">2 Samuel 13:20 KJV</a> <a href="//bibleapps.com/2_samuel/13-20.htm">2 Samuel 13:20 BibleApps.com</a> <a href="//bibliaparalela.com/2_samuel/13-20.htm">2 Samuel 13:20 Biblia Paralela</a> <a href="//holybible.com.cn/2_samuel/13-20.htm">2 Samuel 13:20 Chinese Bible</a> <a href="//saintebible.com/2_samuel/13-20.htm">2 Samuel 13:20 French Bible</a> <a href="/catholic/2_samuel/13-20.htm">2 Samuel 13:20 Catholic Bible</a> <a href="/2_samuel/13-20.htm">OT History: 2 Samuel 13:20 Absalom her brother said to her Has (2Sa iiSam 2 Sam ii sam) </a></div></div></td></tr></table></div><div id="left"><a href="/2_samuel/13-19.htm" onmouseover='lft.src="/leftgif.png"' onmouseout='lft.src="/left.png"' title="2 Samuel 13:19"><img src="/left.png" name="lft" border="0" alt="2 Samuel 13:19" /></a></div><div id="right"><a href="/2_samuel/13-21.htm" onmouseover='rght.src="/rightgif.png"' onmouseout='rght.src="/right.png"' title="2 Samuel 13:21"><img src="/right.png" name="rght" border="0" alt="2 Samuel 13:21" /></a></div><div id="botleft"><a href="#" onmouseover='botleft.src="/botleftgif.png"' onmouseout='botleft.src="/botleft.png"' title="Top of Page"><img src="/botleft.png" name="botleft" border="0" alt="Top of Page" /></a></div><div id="botright"><a href="#" onmouseover='botright.src="/botrightgif.png"' onmouseout='botright.src="/botright.png"' title="Top of Page"><img src="/botright.png" name="botright" border="0" alt="Top of Page" /></a></div><div id="bot"><iframe width="100%" height="1500" scrolling="no" src="/botmenubhnew2.htm" frameborder="0"></iframe></div></td></tr></table></div></body></html>