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href="https://openingup.net/2012/03/19/have-you-completed-the-polyamory-and-marriage-survey/" rel="bookmark">Have you completed the polyamory and marriage survey?</a></h2> </header> <div class="entry-content"> <p>Saturday, March 31 is the deadline for participation in the Loving More sponsored <a href="http://www.mynewsletterbuilder.com/tools/refer.php?s=5542676739&u=25777771&v=3&key=2262&skey=794b664de9&url=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.surveymonkey.com%2Fs%2F5DPR63H">polyamory and marriage survey</a>, which means there are less than two weeks left to submit you answers. The survey is meant to gauge how polyamorous people feel about marriage.</p> <p>The survey is fairly brief and all responses will be kept confidential. No individually identifying information will be collected.</p> <p><a href="http://www.mynewsletterbuilder.com/tools/refer.php?s=5542676739&u=25777771&v=3&key=2262&skey=794b664de9&url=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.surveymonkey.com%2Fs%2F5DPR63H">Take the survey here</a>!</p> </div> <footer class="entry-footer"> <span class="byline"><span class="author vcard"><img alt='' src='https://secure.gravatar.com/avatar/4222149fcbe106311037bab248184e81?s=49&r=g' srcset='https://secure.gravatar.com/avatar/4222149fcbe106311037bab248184e81?s=98&r=g 2x' class='avatar avatar-49 photo' height='49' width='49' /><span class="screen-reader-text">Author </span> <a class="url fn n" href="https://openingup.net/author/admin/">Tristan Taormino</a></span></span><span class="posted-on"><span class="screen-reader-text">Posted on </span><a href="https://openingup.net/2012/03/19/have-you-completed-the-polyamory-and-marriage-survey/" rel="bookmark"><time class="entry-date published" datetime="2012-03-19T08:04:45-05:00">March 19, 2012</time><time class="updated" datetime="2012-03-12T21:52:13-05:00">March 12, 2012</time></a></span><span class="cat-links"><span class="screen-reader-text">Categories </span><a href="https://openingup.net/category/call-for-participants/" rel="category tag">Call for Participants</a>, <a href="https://openingup.net/category/non-monogamy/" rel="category tag">Non-monogamy</a>, <a href="https://openingup.net/category/polyamory-2/" rel="category tag">Polyamory</a></span><span class="tags-links"><span class="screen-reader-text">Tags </span><a href="https://openingup.net/tag/loving-more/" rel="tag">Loving More</a>, <a href="https://openingup.net/tag/survey/" rel="tag">survey</a></span><span class="comments-link"><a href="https://openingup.net/2012/03/19/have-you-completed-the-polyamory-and-marriage-survey/#comments">2 Comments<span class="screen-reader-text"> on Have you completed the polyamory and marriage survey?</span></a></span> </footer> </article> <article id="post-2107" class="post-2107 post type-post status-publish format-standard hentry category-non-monogamy category-open-relationships category-polyamory-2 tag-marcia-baczynski tag-videos"> <header class="entry-header"> <h2 class="entry-title"><a href="https://openingup.net/2012/03/16/video-tips-for-successful-non-monogamy/" rel="bookmark">Video tips for successful non-monogamy</a></h2> </header> <div class="entry-content"> <p><a href="http://successfulnonmonogamy.com/"><img class="aligncenter size-full wp-image-2115" title="" src="https://openingup.net/wp-content/uploads/2012/03/successfulnon-monogamy.jpg" alt="" width="500" height="77" srcset="https://openingup.net/wp-content/uploads/2012/03/successfulnon-monogamy.jpg 500w, https://openingup.net/wp-content/uploads/2012/03/successfulnon-monogamy-300x46.jpg 300w" sizes="(max-width: 500px) 85vw, 500px" /></a></p> <p>Marcia Baczynski, open relationship coach and co-creator of Cuddle Party, has launched <a href="http://successfulnonmonogamy.com">a website</a> and series of videos featuring tips for successful non-monogamy. Baczynski has been working with open and poly folks for 8 years, so she has seen patterns, success stories, and missteps in her clients' relationships.</p> <p>The first video, which is live on <a href="http://successfulnonmonogamy.com">Baczynski's website</a>, is about the three things that successful open relationships have in common. The following videos -- which can be accessed by submitting a name and email address -- detail the common mistakes that couples make when opening up their relationships, and how to avoid them.</p> <p>Baczynski is holding a free teleclass on Thursday, March 22nd to answer viewer questions. She can also be found <a href="http://twitter.com/ibmarcia">on Twitter</a>.</p> </div> <footer class="entry-footer"> <span class="byline"><span class="author vcard"><img alt='' src='https://secure.gravatar.com/avatar/4222149fcbe106311037bab248184e81?s=49&r=g' srcset='https://secure.gravatar.com/avatar/4222149fcbe106311037bab248184e81?s=98&r=g 2x' class='avatar avatar-49 photo' height='49' width='49' /><span class="screen-reader-text">Author </span> <a class="url fn n" href="https://openingup.net/author/admin/">Tristan Taormino</a></span></span><span class="posted-on"><span class="screen-reader-text">Posted on </span><a href="https://openingup.net/2012/03/16/video-tips-for-successful-non-monogamy/" rel="bookmark"><time class="entry-date published" datetime="2012-03-16T08:14:54-05:00">March 16, 2012</time><time class="updated" datetime="2012-03-15T19:57:24-05:00">March 15, 2012</time></a></span><span class="cat-links"><span class="screen-reader-text">Categories </span><a href="https://openingup.net/category/non-monogamy/" rel="category tag">Non-monogamy</a>, <a href="https://openingup.net/category/open-relationships/" rel="category tag">Open Relationships</a>, <a href="https://openingup.net/category/polyamory-2/" rel="category tag">Polyamory</a></span><span class="tags-links"><span class="screen-reader-text">Tags </span><a href="https://openingup.net/tag/marcia-baczynski/" rel="tag">Marcia Baczynski</a>, <a href="https://openingup.net/tag/videos/" rel="tag">videos</a></span> </footer> </article> <article id="post-1848" class="post-1848 post type-post status-publish format-standard hentry category-media category-non-monogamy category-polyamory-2 tag-alan-m tag-poly-in-the-media tag-poly-living"> <header class="entry-header"> <h2 class="entry-title"><a href="https://openingup.net/2012/03/14/alan-m-on-where-polyamorys-headed/" rel="bookmark">Alan M. on where polyamory’s headed</a></h2> </header> <div class="entry-content"> <p>Alan M. of <a href="http://polyinthemedia.blogspot.com">Poly in the Media</a> gave the keynote speech at the Poly Living 2012 conference in Philadelphia, and the full text is <a href="http://polyinthemedia.blogspot.com/2012/02/my-keynote-speech-at-poly-living-2012.html">available on Alan's blog</a>. Entitled "Busting Loose: Polyamory in the Next Five Years," Alan's speech details all the recent wins for the poly community, citing positive news stories as indicative of a shift in the public perception and media portrayal of poly folks.</p> <blockquote><p>For instance: Unlike in <em>previous</em> cheating-politician scandals... (laughter)... the Newt Gingrich open-marriage episode two weeks ago became <a title="The media’s renewed interest in open relationships continues" href="https://openingup.net/2012/02/06/the-medias-renewed-interest-in-open-relationships-continues/">a vehicle for major media attention to <em>good</em> open and poly relationships</a>, contrasting with how Gingrich did it . . . Representatives for <em>poly done well</em> are suddenly in demand to I think an unprecedented degree.</p> <p>. . . Our own presenters Anita and Tim Illig and Michael Rios and Sarah Taub here this weekend were riding this wave last night <a title="Poly folks on local news TV" href="https://openingup.net/2012/02/23/poly-folks-on-local-news-tv/">on the Channel Seven news in DC</a>, representing us and our values just beautifully.</p> <p>. . . Other milestones in the last month or so: In the space of one week, we saw poly triad families, each with a kid, profiled positively on ABC's Morning Edition, Nightline, and the <a title="Triad on National Geographic’s “Taboo”" href="https://openingup.net/2012/01/24/triad-on-national-geographics-taboo/">National Geographic Channel</a>. More and more of the public is getting acquainted with what multi-partner families actually look like. We are becoming more familiar; on the way to being normalized.</p> <p>That same week, we also saw a broadcast-TV drama, ABC's "Private Practice," <a title="A polyfi triad on ABC’s “Private Practice”" href="https://openingup.net/2012/01/12/a-polyfi-triad-on-abcs-private-practice/">present a <em>fictional</em> polyamorous triad family</a> — explicitly called that by name, so viewers would be sure to get it -- treated so well, and at such length, that it reminded me of the first breakthrough shows treating gay characters with understanding and respect.</p> <p>. . . we've by and large successfully represented the modern polyamory movement to the public as what we know ourselves to be: ethical people who care deeply about good relationships -- smart, verbal, interesting, friendly people -- nonthreatening and respectful of all well-considered relationship choices, monogamy included — and by and large just kind of adorable. Every year we are better entrenching this public image, firming up our defense against future moral panics.</p></blockquote> <p>Alan's keynote goes on to explain how poly culture could influence the direction and survival of Western civilization 150-200 years from now. In all, it's a refreshingly optimistic speech. 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