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tag-polyamory-married-dating tag-showtime tag-tv"> <header class="entry-header"> <h2 class="entry-title"><a href="https://openingup.net/2012/08/30/poly-reality-show-wraps-stars-grace-dr-drew-and-radio/" rel="bookmark">Poly reality show wraps; stars grace Dr. Drew and radio</a></h2> </header> <div class="entry-content"> <p><img class="alignleft size-full wp-image-3188" title="The quad on Dr. Drew" src="https://openingup.net/wp-content/uploads/2012/08/dr-drew.png" alt="" width="350" height="197" srcset="https://openingup.net/wp-content/uploads/2012/08/dr-drew.png 350w, https://openingup.net/wp-content/uploads/2012/08/dr-drew-300x168.png 300w" sizes="(max-width: 350px) 85vw, 350px" />The poly community has been anxiously following the reality show <em>Polyamory: Married and Dating</em> since it <a title="“Polyamory” reality series premieres on Showtime this Thursday" href="https://openingup.net/2012/07/09/polyamory-reality-series-premieres-on-showtime-july-12/">premiered on July 12th on Showtime</a>. Many folks have written <a title="Bloggers weigh in on poly reality show" href="https://openingup.net/2012/08/06/bloggers-weigh-in-on-poly-reality-show/">posts and reviews of the show</a>. Now, the seven-episode-long season has concluded, the last of the recaps are being written, and the stars of the show are hitting the media circuit.</p> <p>Alan M. wrote about <a href="http://polyinthemedia.blogspot.com/2012/08/as-showtimes-polyamory-nears-its-wrapup.html">episodes 4 and 5</a>, <a href="http://polyinthemedia.blogspot.com/2012/08/best-yet-coming-out-episode-on.html">episode 6</a> (which he called "the best, most serious, most moving episode yet"), and the <a href="http://polyinthemedia.blogspot.com/2012/08/the-last-showtime-polyamory-episode.html">final episode</a>. Modern Poly has <a href="http://www.modernpoly.com/tags/polyamory-married-and-dating">continued publishing recaps</a> as well. Alan sums up his feelings about the show succinctly:</p> <blockquote><p>My own view remains that for all the imperfections and humanity of the cast, the show is the best thing that has happened for public understanding of polyamory in ages.</p></blockquote> <p>The San Diego quad (Kamala, Michael, Jen, and Tahl) even made <a href="http://www.hlntv.com/video/2012/08/22/can-you-be-married-and-date-they-say-yes">an appearance on the Dr. Drew Show</a>, which thankfully <a href="http://polyinthemedia.blogspot.com/2012/08/san-diego-quad-does-us-proud-on-dr-drew.html">didn't go as badly as expected</a>, while two members of the triad, Anthony and Vanessa, were interviewed for the <a href="http://polyweekly.com/2012/08/pw-332-the-reality-behind-showtimes-polyamory/">Polyamory Weekly podcast</a> as well as <a href="http://www.kpfa.org/archive/id/83736">on KPFA public radio</a>.</p> <p>You can <a href="https://www.facebook.com/PolyamoryOnShowtime">follow the show on Facebook</a> and <a href="https://www.facebook.com/PolyamoryMarriedandDatingFamily">follow the quad on Facebook</a> to keep track of upcoming appearances. It is unknown whether the show will be renewed for a second season.</p> </div> <footer class="entry-footer"> <span class="byline"><span class="author vcard"><img alt='' src='https://secure.gravatar.com/avatar/4222149fcbe106311037bab248184e81?s=49&r=g' srcset='https://secure.gravatar.com/avatar/4222149fcbe106311037bab248184e81?s=98&r=g 2x' class='avatar avatar-49 photo' height='49' width='49' /><span class="screen-reader-text">Author </span> <a class="url fn n" href="https://openingup.net/author/admin/">Tristan Taormino</a></span></span><span class="posted-on"><span class="screen-reader-text">Posted on </span><a href="https://openingup.net/2012/08/30/poly-reality-show-wraps-stars-grace-dr-drew-and-radio/" rel="bookmark"><time class="entry-date published" datetime="2012-08-30T06:45:58-05:00">August 30, 2012</time><time class="updated" datetime="2012-10-07T02:26:59-05:00">October 7, 2012</time></a></span><span class="cat-links"><span class="screen-reader-text">Categories </span><a href="https://openingup.net/category/media/" rel="category tag">Media</a>, <a href="https://openingup.net/category/non-monogamy/" rel="category tag">Non-monogamy</a>, <a href="https://openingup.net/category/open-relationships/" rel="category tag">Open Relationships</a>, <a href="https://openingup.net/category/polyamory-2/" rel="category tag">Polyamory</a></span><span class="tags-links"><span class="screen-reader-text">Tags </span><a href="https://openingup.net/tag/alan-m/" rel="tag">Alan M.</a>, <a href="https://openingup.net/tag/dr-drew/" rel="tag">Dr. Drew</a>, <a href="https://openingup.net/tag/modern-poly/" rel="tag">Modern Poly</a>, <a href="https://openingup.net/tag/poly-in-the-media/" rel="tag">Poly in the Media</a>, <a href="https://openingup.net/tag/polyamory-weekly/" rel="tag">Polyamory Weekly</a>, <a href="https://openingup.net/tag/polyamory-married-dating/" rel="tag">Polyamory: Married & Dating</a>, <a href="https://openingup.net/tag/showtime/" rel="tag">Showtime</a>, <a href="https://openingup.net/tag/tv/" rel="tag">TV</a></span> </footer> </article> <article id="post-2959" class="post-2959 post type-post status-publish format-standard hentry category-non-monogamy category-open-relationships category-polyamory-2 tag-ireland tag-poly-in-the-media"> <header class="entry-header"> <h2 class="entry-title"><a href="https://openingup.net/2012/08/27/poly-makes-the-rounds-in-irish-press/" rel="bookmark">Poly makes the rounds in Irish press</a></h2> </header> <div class="entry-content"> <p><img class="alignleft size-full wp-image-3093" title="Triad in Hot Press" src="https://openingup.net/wp-content/uploads/2012/08/hotpresstriad.png" alt="" width="300" height="397" srcset="https://openingup.net/wp-content/uploads/2012/08/hotpresstriad.png 300w, https://openingup.net/wp-content/uploads/2012/08/hotpresstriad-226x300.png 226w" sizes="(max-width: 300px) 85vw, 300px" />Polyamory has been the topic of choice in a couple recent articles in Irish newspapers and magazines. The first piece, published in the <em>Herald</em> of Dublin, asks, "<a href="http://www.herald.ie/lifestyle/is-this-the-end-of-fidelity-3179144.html">Is this the end of fidelity?</a>" The article ponders whether the Irish can accept a concept as progressive as polyamory, and interviews a young poly woman named Alison who does a great job of debunking myths and clarifying confusions.</p> <p>Hat tip to Randy, organizer of a <a href="http://www.meetup.com/Polyamory-Ireland/">Dublin poly group</a>, for alerting Alan at <a href="http://polyinthemedia.blogspot.com/2012/08/new-attention-to-poly-in-ireland.html">Poly in the Media</a> to the second story about three poly folks in the Irish music-focused magazine <em>Hot Press</em>. The article is not available online, but Alan published scans that are available below.</p> <p>The three subjects -- Ariel, Maki, and Aoife -- talk in depth about communication, crafting the relationship they want, trans and queer identities, jealousy, safe sex, and discrimination in Ireland.</p> <blockquote><p>"In polyamory there is no real standard model of relationship," says Maki, "so rather than have any kind of unspoken ideas of what the relationship should be, you really have to communicate — to work out what the relationship is going to be."</p> <p>. . . Aoife agrees. "Obviously it's nice to have the option to have lots of lovely relationships with more than one person and that's great! But for me, as somebody who has been in poly and mono relationships, one thing that comes through is that we're making it up as we go along. We create the relationship to suit ourselves. 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Calling themselves a "throuple," Benny, Jason, and Adrian have been together for four years and run the gay porn studio CockyBoys.</p> <p>The arrangement began after Jason and Adrian had been together for nine years, when Jason had a fling with a guy he met named Benny. A threesome came next, then a sexual relationship, and finally shared love between the three. Now, they live together and enjoy a domestic home life that most would not expect from the owners of a gay porn studio.</p> <p>Author Molly Young, whose portrait of the men is quite thoughtful, spent enough time with them to observe just how successful their relationship is.</p> <blockquote><p>Still, the impression I have from spending time with Benny, Jason, and Adrian over the past months is that the men are glisteningly, boringly happy. This seems to be the consensus. "No matter how hard I try, I can't wrap my head around it," says <em>Paper</em>’s Elliott. "It's amazing. It's modern. 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Funds raised will go toward printing the book, paying editors and designers, shipping, and a launch party.</p> <p>Having been in a successful open marriage since 2006, Fraser hopes to bring her unique experience to the table to publish a book that is relatable, honest, and useful.</p> <blockquote><p><em>Not Your Mother’s Playground: A realistic guide to honest, happy and healthy open relationships </em>(<em>NYMP</em>) is a book on modern open relationships aimed at a new generation, discussing everything from swinging to polyamory (multiple loves). It includes personal triumphs and challenges mixed in to give it a relatable, intimate feel.</p> <p>. . . The idea behind <em>Not Your Mother’s Playground</em> is to walk the reader through everything they will encounter should they choose to open up their relationship. It will show all sides from the good to the bad, not ignoring the reality that these relationships come with complications that can put even the strongest couples to the test.</p></blockquote> <p>Here's the video from the Indiegogo page:</p> <p style="text-align: center;"><iframe width="500" height="281" src="https://www.youtube.com/embed/rwflIa99MJ0?feature=oembed" frameborder="0" allowfullscreen></iframe></p> <p>Depending on the dollar amount of contribution, those who donate can be rewarded with tweets, ebooks, printed copies of the book, thank you cards, and even coaching sessions.</p> <p><a href="http://www.indiegogo.com/nympsam">Donate today</a> and spread the word!</p> </div> <footer class="entry-footer"> <span class="byline"><span class="author vcard"><img alt='' src='https://secure.gravatar.com/avatar/4222149fcbe106311037bab248184e81?s=49&r=g' srcset='https://secure.gravatar.com/avatar/4222149fcbe106311037bab248184e81?s=98&r=g 2x' class='avatar avatar-49 photo' height='49' 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