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Dying well is another.</h3></div></a></div></div><span class="bf b ga z fz"><div class="pn ab po ae"><div class="ab q ps"><div class="mf ab"><div class="bm" aria-hidden="false"><button class="l ay ao am" aria-label="Member-only story"><div class=""><div><div class="bm" aria-hidden="false"><svg xmlns="http://www.w3.org/2000/svg" width="16" height="16" fill="none" viewBox="0 0 64 64"><path fill="#FFC017" d="m39.637 40.831-5.771 15.871a1.99 1.99 0 0 1-3.732 0l-5.771-15.87a2.02 2.02 0 0 0-1.194-1.195L7.298 33.866a1.99 1.99 0 0 1 0-3.732l15.87-5.771a2.02 2.02 0 0 0 1.195-1.194l5.771-15.871a1.99 1.99 0 0 1 3.732 0l5.771 15.87a2.02 2.02 0 0 0 1.194 1.195l15.871 5.771a1.99 1.99 0 0 1 0 3.732l-15.87 5.771a2.02 2.02 0 0 0-1.195 1.194"></path></svg></div></div></div></button></div></div>16h ago<div class="h k j i d"><div class="hn pp do ab q"><div class="hw pq pr ab q ps"><div class="ax do du l cv"></div></div><a class="hw ji pr ab q ps" tabindex="-1" rel="noopener follow" 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l"><div class="bh gb"><div class="gb l"><div class="hn gb mg mh mi mj mk ml mm mn mo mp mq mr ms" role="link" data-href="https://medium.com/@coyotesusan/even-though-he-killed-my-kitten-i-cant-hate-my-dog-e87b7f7e7c8d" tabindex="0"><div class="mt"><div aria-label="White kitten with a sad face sits on a towel in an empty stone planter"><div class="mv mw mx my mz"><img alt="White kitten with a sad face sits on a towel in an empty stone planter" class="bh na nb nc nd bx" src="https://miro.medium.com/v2/resize:fit:1358/format:webp/1*yJYbog2eMMv_Z_QCOsP8GQ.jpeg" loading="eager"/></div></div></div><div class="mu ab cc db"><div class="ab db ne bh nf ng nh ni"><div class="nj nk nl nm nn ab q"><div class="cr l"><div><div class="l" aria-hidden="false"><a tabindex="-1" rel="noopener follow" href="/@coyotesusan?source=topic_portal---recommended_stories---death_and_dying---1-107--------------------5f5930d9_0c8c_4680_8429_bfc0be4e4e91-------"><div class="l hn"><img alt="Coyote Susan" class="l hh by 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pa pb ka pc pd pe pf kd pg ph pi cm nt nu nw ny bk">Even Though He Killed My Kitten, I Can’t Hate My Dog</h2></div><div class="pj l"><h3 class="bf b pk z cm pl nt nu pm nw ny fz">It was all my fault.</h3></div></a></div></div><span class="bf b ga z fz"><div class="pn ab po ae"><div class="ab q ps"><div class="mf ab"><div class="bm" aria-hidden="false"><button class="l ay ao am" aria-label="Member-only story"><div class=""><div><div class="bm" aria-hidden="false"><svg xmlns="http://www.w3.org/2000/svg" width="16" height="16" fill="none" viewBox="0 0 64 64"><path fill="#FFC017" d="m39.637 40.831-5.771 15.871a1.99 1.99 0 0 1-3.732 0l-5.771-15.87a2.02 2.02 0 0 0-1.194-1.195L7.298 33.866a1.99 1.99 0 0 1 0-3.732l15.87-5.771a2.02 2.02 0 0 0 1.195-1.194l5.771-15.871a1.99 1.99 0 0 1 3.732 0l5.771 15.87a2.02 2.02 0 0 0 1.194 1.195l15.871 5.771a1.99 1.99 0 0 1 0 3.732l-15.87 5.771a2.02 2.02 0 0 0-1.195 1.194"></path></svg></div></div></div></button></div></div>4d ago<div class="h k j i d"><div 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2v14a.5.5 0 0 0 .805.396L12.5 17l5.695 4.396A.5.5 0 0 0 19 21v-8.5a.5.5 0 0 0-1 0v7.485l-5.195-4.012a.5.5 0 0 0-.61 0L7 19.985z"></path></svg></a></span></div></div></div></div></div></span></div></div></div><div class="lj bh r rc rd re rf rg"></div></div></div></div></div></article></div><div class="py l"><article class=""><div class="mf l"><div class="bh gb"><div class="l"><div class="bh l"><div style="position:relative;display:flex" role="link" data-href="https://medium.com/@jegelkrout/is-heaven-just-an-algorithm-bc385c28a8bd" tabindex="0"><div class="bh nf ng nh ni"><div class="ab"><div class="nj nk nl nm nn ab q"><div class="cr l"><div><div class="l" aria-hidden="false"><a tabindex="-1" rel="noopener follow" href="/@jegelkrout?source=topic_portal---recommended_stories---death_and_dying---3-84--------------------5f5930d9_0c8c_4680_8429_bfc0be4e4e91-------"><div class="l hn"><img alt="John Egelkrout" class="l hh by no np cv" 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cm nt nu nw ny bk">Is Heaven Just an Algorithm?</h2><div class="pj"><h3 class="bf b pk z cm pl nt nu pm nw ny fz">Pondering our eternal reward</h3></div></a></div><div class="h k j i d"><div class="qm qn qo qp qq qr qs qt qu qv l"><span class="bf b ga z fz"><div class="pn ab po ae"><div class="ab q ps"><div class="mf ab"><div class="bm" aria-hidden="false"><button class="l ay ao am" aria-label="Member-only story"><div class=""><div><div class="bm" aria-hidden="false"><svg xmlns="http://www.w3.org/2000/svg" width="16" height="16" fill="none" viewBox="0 0 64 64"><path fill="#FFC017" d="m39.637 40.831-5.771 15.871a1.99 1.99 0 0 1-3.732 0l-5.771-15.87a2.02 2.02 0 0 0-1.194-1.195L7.298 33.866a1.99 1.99 0 0 1 0-3.732l15.87-5.771a2.02 2.02 0 0 0 1.195-1.194l5.771-15.871a1.99 1.99 0 0 1 3.732 0l5.771 15.87a2.02 2.02 0 0 0 1.194 1.195l15.871 5.771a1.99 1.99 0 0 1 0 3.732l-15.87 5.771a2.02 2.02 0 0 0-1.195 1.194"></path></svg></div></div></div></button></div></div>1d ago<div class="h k j i 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Dying well is another.</h3></div></a></div></div><span class="bf b ga z fz"><div class="pn ab po ae"><div class="ab q ps"><div class="mf ab"><div class="bm" aria-hidden="false"><button class="l ay ao am" aria-label="Member-only story"><div class=""><div><div class="bm" aria-hidden="false"><svg xmlns="http://www.w3.org/2000/svg" width="16" height="16" fill="none" viewBox="0 0 64 64"><path fill="#FFC017" d="m39.637 40.831-5.771 15.871a1.99 1.99 0 0 1-3.732 0l-5.771-15.87a2.02 2.02 0 0 0-1.194-1.195L7.298 33.866a1.99 1.99 0 0 1 0-3.732l15.87-5.771a2.02 2.02 0 0 0 1.195-1.194l5.771-15.871a1.99 1.99 0 0 1 3.732 0l5.771 15.87a2.02 2.02 0 0 0 1.194 1.195l15.871 5.771a1.99 1.99 0 0 1 0 3.732l-15.87 5.771a2.02 2.02 0 0 0-1.195 1.194"></path></svg></div></div></div></button></div></div>16h ago<div class="h k j i d"><div class="hn pp do ab q"><div class="hw pq pr ab q ps"><div class="ax do du l cv"></div></div><a class="hw ji pr ab q ps" tabindex="-1" rel="noopener follow" 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Actually we have been at many.</h3></div></a></div></div><span class="bf b ga z fz"><div class="pn ab po ae"><div class="ab q ps"><div class="mf ab"><div class="bm" aria-hidden="false"><button class="l ay ao am" aria-label="Member-only story"><div class=""><div><div class="bm" aria-hidden="false"><svg xmlns="http://www.w3.org/2000/svg" width="16" height="16" fill="none" viewBox="0 0 64 64"><path fill="#FFC017" d="m39.637 40.831-5.771 15.871a1.99 1.99 0 0 1-3.732 0l-5.771-15.87a2.02 2.02 0 0 0-1.194-1.195L7.298 33.866a1.99 1.99 0 0 1 0-3.732l15.87-5.771a2.02 2.02 0 0 0 1.195-1.194l5.771-15.871a1.99 1.99 0 0 1 3.732 0l5.771 15.87a2.02 2.02 0 0 0 1.194 1.195l15.871 5.771a1.99 1.99 0 0 1 0 3.732l-15.87 5.771a2.02 2.02 0 0 0-1.195 1.194"></path></svg></div></div></div></button></div></div>5d ago<div class="h k j i d"><div class="hn pp do ab q"><div class="hw pq pr ab q ps"><div class="ax do du l cv"></div></div><a class="hw ji pr ab q ps" tabindex="-1" rel="noopener follow" 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ab"><div class="bm" aria-hidden="false"><button class="l ay ao am" aria-label="Member-only story"><div class=""><div><div class="bm" aria-hidden="false"><svg xmlns="http://www.w3.org/2000/svg" width="16" height="16" fill="none" viewBox="0 0 64 64"><path fill="#FFC017" d="m39.637 40.831-5.771 15.871a1.99 1.99 0 0 1-3.732 0l-5.771-15.87a2.02 2.02 0 0 0-1.194-1.195L7.298 33.866a1.99 1.99 0 0 1 0-3.732l15.87-5.771a2.02 2.02 0 0 0 1.195-1.194l5.771-15.871a1.99 1.99 0 0 1 3.732 0l5.771 15.87a2.02 2.02 0 0 0 1.194 1.195l15.871 5.771a1.99 1.99 0 0 1 0 3.732l-15.87 5.771a2.02 2.02 0 0 0-1.195 1.194"></path></svg></div></div></div></button></div></div>2d ago<div class="h k j i d"><div class="hn pp do ab q"><div class="hw pq pr ab q ps"><div class="ax do du l cv"></div></div><a class="hw ji pr ab q ps" tabindex="-1" rel="noopener follow" 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