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Praslova, Ph.D.</a> on <span class="teaser-lg__published_on">December 21, 2023</span></p> <p class="teaser-lg__summary teaser-lg__teaser--desktop"> People from marginalized groups often overwork trying to override the impact of prejudice. We are also often pushed into overwork. Here, I share four principles that help me cope. </p> </div> </div> <p class="teaser-lg__summary teaser-lg__teaser--mobile"> People from marginalized groups often overwork trying to override the impact of prejudice. We are also often pushed into overwork. 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Praslova, Ph.D.</a> on <span class="teaser-lg__published_on">September 28, 2023</span></p> <p class="teaser-lg__summary teaser-lg__teaser--desktop"> The data speak clearly: Disabled people are highly qualified and essential contributors to the workplace. </p> </div> </div> <p class="teaser-lg__summary teaser-lg__teaser--mobile"> The data speak clearly: Disabled people are highly qualified and essential contributors to the workplace. </p> </article> </div> <div class="teaser-listing-item views-row"> <article class="teaser teaser-lg blog-entry--teaser" data-nid="5011314"> <div class="teaser-lg--main"> <div class="teaser-lg__image"> <a href="/sg/blog/positively-different/202309/what-is-structural-neuroableism-at-work"><img loading="lazy" src="https://cdn2.psychologytoday.com/assets/styles/manual_crop_1_1_288x288/public/teaser_image/blog_entry/2023-09/wepik-export-202309180824278sG3_%40fanjianhua.jpeg.jpg?itok=DAlNLR16" width="288" height="288" alt="" title="fanjianhua / Freepik " /> </a> </div> <div class="teaser-lg__details"> <h6 class="teaser-lg__topic text-uppercase-primary-small"> <a href="/sg/basics/neurodiversity" hreflang="en-sg">Neurodiversity</a> </h6> <div class="h2 teaser-lg__title"> <a href="/sg/blog/positively-different/202309/what-is-structural-neuroableism-at-work" rel="bookmark">What Is Structural Neuroableism at Work? </a> </div> <p class="teaser-lg__byline"><a href="/sg/contributors/ludmila-n-praslova-phd" hreflang="en">Ludmila N. Praslova, Ph.D.</a> on <span class="teaser-lg__published_on">September 27, 2023</span></p> <p class="teaser-lg__summary teaser-lg__teaser--desktop"> Neurodistinct professionals work hard but often can’t get ahead. It is as if an invisible force were holding them back and pushing them out: structural neuroableism. </p> </div> </div> <p class="teaser-lg__summary teaser-lg__teaser--mobile"> Neurodistinct professionals work hard but often can’t get ahead. 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Praslova, Ph.D.</a> on <span class="teaser-lg__published_on">September 25, 2023</span></p> <p class="teaser-lg__summary teaser-lg__teaser--desktop"> Flexible work is disability justice. My research on companies that thrive while supporting disabled and neurodivergent workers demonstrates that it is also a win-win for all. </p> </div> </div> <p class="teaser-lg__summary teaser-lg__teaser--mobile"> Flexible work is disability justice. My research on companies that thrive while supporting disabled and neurodivergent workers demonstrates that it is also a win-win for all. </p> </article> </div> <div class="teaser-listing-item views-row"> <article class="teaser teaser-lg blog-entry--teaser" data-nid="5008102"> <div class="teaser-lg--main"> <div class="teaser-lg__image"> <a href="/sg/blog/positively-different/202306/disability-at-work-the-forgotten-diversity"><img loading="lazy" src="https://cdn2.psychologytoday.com/assets/styles/manual_crop_1_1_288x288/public/teaser_image/blog_entry/2023-06/wepik-export-20230629073427Uapx.png.jpg?itok=p00m05K1" width="288" height="288" alt="" title="anastasimorozova1995, freepik" /> </a> </div> <div class="teaser-lg__details"> <h6 class="teaser-lg__topic text-uppercase-primary-small"> <a href="/sg/basics/career" hreflang="en-sg">Career</a> </h6> <div class="h2 teaser-lg__title"> <a href="/sg/blog/positively-different/202306/disability-at-work-the-forgotten-diversity" rel="bookmark">Disability at Work: The Forgotten Diversity</a> </div> <p class="teaser-lg__byline"><a href="/sg/contributors/ludmila-n-praslova-phd" hreflang="en">Ludmila N. Praslova, Ph.D.</a> on <span class="teaser-lg__published_on">June 29, 2023</span></p> <p class="teaser-lg__summary teaser-lg__teaser--desktop"> Fully including disabled individuals at work goes beyond individual–level accommodations. It calls for systemic change to make organizations more just. </p> </div> </div> <p class="teaser-lg__summary teaser-lg__teaser--mobile"> Fully including disabled individuals at work goes beyond individual–level accommodations. It calls for systemic change to make organizations more just. </p> </article> </div> <div class="teaser-listing-item views-row"> <article class="teaser teaser-lg blog-entry--teaser" data-nid="5008065"> <div class="teaser-lg--main"> <div class="teaser-lg__image"> <a href="/sg/blog/positively-different/202306/adult-accomplished-autistic-the-late-diagnosis-diaries"><img loading="lazy" src="https://cdn2.psychologytoday.com/assets/styles/manual_crop_1_1_288x288/public/teaser_image/blog_entry/2023-06/woman%20in%20red%20wepik-export-20230627231735iDhu.png.jpg?itok=SfSUM4nN" width="288" height="288" alt="" title="tawatchai07/Freepik" /> </a> </div> <div class="teaser-lg__details"> <h6 class="teaser-lg__topic text-uppercase-primary-small"> <a href="/sg/basics/autism" hreflang="en-sg">Autism</a> </h6> <div class="h2 teaser-lg__title"> <a href="/sg/blog/positively-different/202306/adult-accomplished-autistic-the-late-diagnosis-diaries" rel="bookmark">Adult, Accomplished, Autistic: The Late Diagnosis Diaries</a> </div> <p class="teaser-lg__byline"><a href="/sg/contributors/ludmila-n-praslova-phd" hreflang="en">Ludmila N. Praslova, Ph.D.</a> on <span class="teaser-lg__published_on">June 28, 2023</span></p> <p class="teaser-lg__summary teaser-lg__teaser--desktop"> A late autism diagnosis can bring on a range of feelings. Sadness. Relief. The joy of finding “your tribe.” And there are many choices to make—including the choice to celebrate. </p> </div> </div> <p class="teaser-lg__summary teaser-lg__teaser--mobile"> A late autism diagnosis can bring on a range of feelings. Sadness. Relief. The joy of finding “your tribe.” And there are many choices to make—including the choice to celebrate. </p> </article> </div> <div class="teaser-listing-item views-row"> <article class="teaser teaser-lg blog-entry--teaser" data-nid="5007703"> <div class="teaser-lg--main"> <div class="teaser-lg__image"> <a href="/sg/blog/positively-different/202306/how-to-nurture-creativity-by-savoring-your-time"><img loading="lazy" src="https://cdn2.psychologytoday.com/assets/styles/manual_crop_1_1_288x288/public/teaser_image/blog_entry/2023-06/hand_painted_watercolour_image_of_female_in_yoga_pose_in_tropical_landscape_2106.jpg?h=77bc09d9&itok=luJfbKGw" width="288" height="288" alt="" title="@ kjpargeter / Freepik" /> </a> </div> <div class="teaser-lg__details"> <h6 class="teaser-lg__topic text-uppercase-primary-small"> <a href="/sg/basics/creativity" hreflang="en-sg">Creativity</a> </h6> <div class="h2 teaser-lg__title"> <a href="/sg/blog/positively-different/202306/how-to-nurture-creativity-by-savoring-your-time" rel="bookmark">How to Nurture Creativity by Savoring Your Time</a> </div> <p class="teaser-lg__byline"><a href="/sg/contributors/ludmila-n-praslova-phd" hreflang="en">Ludmila N. Praslova, Ph.D.</a> on <span class="teaser-lg__published_on">June 20, 2023</span></p> <p class="teaser-lg__summary teaser-lg__teaser--desktop"> Living more creatively is intricately linked to setting boundaries. Boundaries let us dedicate the necessary time and mental space to our creative pursuits. </p> </div> </div> <p class="teaser-lg__summary teaser-lg__teaser--mobile"> Living more creatively is intricately linked to setting boundaries. Boundaries let us dedicate the necessary time and mental space to our creative pursuits. </p> </article> </div> <div class="teaser-listing-item views-row"> <article class="teaser teaser-lg blog-entry--teaser" data-nid="1182777"> <div class="teaser-lg--main"> <div class="teaser-lg__image"> <a href="/sg/blog/positively-different/202212/workplace-bullying-types-intervention-prevention"><img loading="lazy" src="https://cdn2.psychologytoday.com/assets/styles/manual_crop_1_1_288x288/public/teaser_image/blog_entry/2023-03/4129ccb2-694a-4dcc-b302-8c1fe66f3b50.png.jpg?itok=bIIJk1nq" width="288" height="288" alt="" title="user18437304/freepik" /> </a> </div> <div class="teaser-lg__details"> <h6 class="teaser-lg__topic text-uppercase-primary-small"> <a href="/sg/basics/bullying" hreflang="en-sg">Bullying</a> </h6> <div class="h2 teaser-lg__title"> <a href="/sg/blog/positively-different/202212/workplace-bullying-types-intervention-prevention" rel="bookmark">Workplace Bullying: Types, Intervention, Prevention </a> </div> <p class="teaser-lg__byline"><a href="/sg/contributors/ludmila-n-praslova-phd" hreflang="en">Ludmila N. Praslova, Ph.D.</a> on <span class="teaser-lg__published_on">March 29, 2023</span></p> <p class="teaser-lg__summary teaser-lg__teaser--desktop"> Organizations are systems, and bullying prevention mechanisms should be built into these systems. </p> </div> </div> <p class="teaser-lg__summary teaser-lg__teaser--mobile"> Organizations are systems, and bullying prevention mechanisms should be built into these systems. </p> </article> </div> <div class="teaser-listing-item views-row"> <article class="teaser teaser-lg blog-entry--teaser" data-nid="5001150"> <div class="teaser-lg--main"> <div class="teaser-lg__image"> <a href="/sg/blog/positively-different/202212/how-to-overcome-the-trauma-of-teamwork"><img loading="lazy" src="https://cdn2.psychologytoday.com/assets/styles/manual_crop_1_1_288x288/public/teaser_image/blog_entry/2023-03/flying%20birds.png.jpg?itok=eamPRp2X" width="288" height="288" alt="" title="Kichigin/Freepik" /> </a> </div> <div class="teaser-lg__details"> <h6 class="teaser-lg__topic text-uppercase-primary-small"> <a href="/sg/basics/trauma" hreflang="en-sg">Trauma</a> </h6> <div class="h2 teaser-lg__title"> <a href="/sg/blog/positively-different/202212/how-to-overcome-the-trauma-of-teamwork" rel="bookmark">How to Overcome the Trauma of Teamwork</a> </div> <p class="teaser-lg__byline"><a href="/sg/contributors/ludmila-n-praslova-phd" hreflang="en">Ludmila N. Praslova, Ph.D.</a> on <span class="teaser-lg__published_on">March 26, 2023</span></p> <p class="teaser-lg__summary teaser-lg__teaser--desktop"> Bad collaboration experiences can turn us into lone wolves. </p> </div> </div> <p class="teaser-lg__summary teaser-lg__teaser--mobile"> Bad collaboration experiences can turn us into lone wolves. </p> </article> </div> <div class="teaser-listing-item views-row"> <article class="teaser teaser-lg blog-entry--teaser" data-nid="5002253"> <div class="teaser-lg--main"> <div class="teaser-lg__image"> <a href="/sg/blog/positively-different/202301/research-is-in-work-stress-is-not-just-in-your-head"><img loading="lazy" src="https://cdn2.psychologytoday.com/assets/styles/manual_crop_1_1_288x288/public/teaser_image/blog_entry/2023-01/priscilla-du-preez-dOnEFhQ7ojs-unsplash.jpg?h=cefe39db&itok=1XTpeAqR" width="288" height="288" alt="" title="Priscilla Du Preez/Unsplash" /> </a> </div> <div class="teaser-lg__details"> <h6 class="teaser-lg__topic text-uppercase-primary-small"> <a href="/sg/basics/stress" hreflang="en-sg">Stress</a> </h6> <div class="h2 teaser-lg__title"> <a href="/sg/blog/positively-different/202301/research-is-in-work-stress-is-not-just-in-your-head" rel="bookmark">Research Is In: Work Stress Is Not “Just in Your Head”</a> </div> <p class="teaser-lg__byline"><a href="/sg/contributors/ludmila-n-praslova-phd" hreflang="en">Ludmila N. Praslova, Ph.D.</a> on <span class="teaser-lg__published_on">January 27, 2023</span></p> <p class="teaser-lg__summary teaser-lg__teaser--desktop"> Currently, 43 percent of employees are “often” or “always” exhausted at the end of work. The culture of the workplace needs to shift systemically to address toxic stress. </p> </div> </div> <p class="teaser-lg__summary teaser-lg__teaser--mobile"> Currently, 43 percent of employees are “often” or “always” exhausted at the end of work. 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