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This covenant reflects commitment, companionship, and mutual support. According to <a href="/proverbs/18-22.htm">Proverbs 18:22</a>, “He who finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favor from the LORD.” This principle highlights God’s blessing upon marital union.<p><b>Biblical Criteria for a Spouse</b><p>1. Reverence for God: A spouse who loves God wholeheartedly will strive to honor Him (see <a href="/matthew/6-33.htm">Matthew 6:33</a>).<p>2. Shared Beliefs: <a href="/2_corinthians/6-14.htm">2 Corinthians 6:14</a> urges not to be “unequally yoked.” Spiritual compatibility fosters unity.<p>3. Commitment to Covenant: Marriage reflects Christ’s relationship with believers (<a href="/ephesians/5-25.htm">Ephesians 5:25</a>).<p><b>Spiritual Compatibility</b><p>When assessing a potential spouse, consider shared devotion to prayer, worship, and Scripture. <a href="/acts/2-42.htm">Acts 2:42</a> describes early believers who “devoted themselves to the apostles’ teaching”. Shared spiritual disciplines help couples grow closer to God together.<p><b>Character Traits to Seek</b><p>• Love and Kindness: “Love is patient, love is kind” (<a href="/1_corinthians/13-4.htm">1 Corinthians 13:4</a>). Patience and kindness are markers of genuine care.<p>• Humility: Pride divides relationships, whereas humility fosters peace (<a href="/james/4-6.htm">James 4:6</a>).<p>• Forgiveness: <a href="/colossians/3-13.htm">Colossians 3:13</a> instructs believers to “forgive as the Lord forgave you.” Gracious forgiveness prevents resentment from taking root.<p>• Servant-Heartedness: <a href="/ephesians/5-21.htm">Ephesians 5:21</a> says, “Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ.” A spouse who willingly serves is living out Christlike love.<p><b>Importance of Counsel and Community</b><p>Scripture often emphasizes the role of wise counsel. <a href="/proverbs/11-14.htm">Proverbs 11:14</a> notes, “In an abundance of counselors there is victory.” Family, pastors, and trusted mentors can offer insight into the relational maturity of a potential spouse and help guard against purely emotional decisions.<p><b>Prayerful Discernment</b><p>In <a href="/bsb/genesis/24.htm">Genesis 24</a>, Abraham’s servant sought God’s guidance to find Isaac’s wife. Prayer preceded discovery, underscoring reliance on divine leading. Likewise, <a href="/james/1-5.htm">James 1:5</a> reminds, “If any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask God.” Humbly asking God for clarity is essential.<p><b>Practical Steps</b><p>• Examine Fruit Over Feelings: Consistent patterns of behavior often reveal true character (<a href="/matthew/7-16.htm">Matthew 7:16</a>).<p>• Observe Interactions: How someone treats family, friends, and strangers illuminates genuine traits.<p>• Seek Accountability: Invite your church community into the process for encouragement and correction.<p>• Emphasize Growth: A potential spouse should show willingness to mature in faith, humility, and love.<p><b>Continual Growth Together</b><p>Even the most compatible couple will face challenges. Persevere in prayer and scriptural study, remembering that marriage is a journey of sanctification. 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