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Parents often wonder, maybe he’s just gay? Maybe she’s reacting to misogyny or objectification? Maybe my child is mimicking/copying a friend? A competent gender therapist can help you and your child sort all of this out.</p><h2 id="3491" class="oj ok hd bf ol om on dy oo op oq ea or os ot ou ov ow ox oy oz pa pb pc pd hj bk">Get a Child or Family Therapist</h2><p id="469e" class="pw-post-body-paragraph pe pf hd pg b ig ph pi pj ij pk pl pm os pn po pp ow pq pr ps pa pt pu pv pw gw bk">I also recommend working with a separate therapist just to discuss potential issues independent of, or peripheral to, gender transition — social anxieties, teenage emotions, relational challenges, family stuff. (Make sure this counselor is trans-aware and trans-supportive.)</p><h2 id="af02" class="oj ok hd bf ol om on dy oo op oq ea or os ot ou ov ow ox oy oz pa pb pc pd hj bk">Speak With School Administrators</h2><p id="d49a" class="pw-post-body-paragraph pe pf hd pg b ig ph pi pj ij pk pl pm os pn po pp ow pq pr ps pa pt pu pv pw gw bk">It is important to notify the school, and work with the school administration in ensuring no bullying takes place (either from students or from teachers).</p><h2 id="4b6b" class="oj ok hd bf ol om on dy oo op oq ea or os ot ou ov ow ox oy oz pa pb pc pd hj bk">Find an endocrinologist</h2><p id="9a2a" class="pw-post-body-paragraph pe pf hd pg b ig ph pi pj ij pk pl pm os pn po pp ow pq pr ps pa pt pu pv pw gw bk">You should speak to an endocrinologist. 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