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bk"><span class="bf b">A story of God's love for a pair of looney tune drunks.</span></p></div></div></div><div class="t nk v nl x nm nn no np ab q"><div class="nq nr ns df dj"><div class="ab q"><p class="bf b nt nu dw dx dy dz eh eb ej ed ds"><span class="bf b ds">2019</span></p><span class="nv l" aria-hidden="true"><span class="bf b nt nu dw dx dy dz eh eb ej ed ds">·</span></span><div class="bf b nt nu dw dx dy dz eh eb ej ed ds"><div class="k j i d"><span class="bf b ds">Deb Palmer</span>, et al.</div><div class="h"><span class="bf b ds">Deb Palmer</span>, <span class="bf b ds">Sandy Palmer</span></div></div></div></div><div class="k j i d"><svg xmlns="http://www.w3.org/2000/svg" width="18" height="18" fill="none" viewBox="0 0 18 18" class="mw"><path stroke="#242424" stroke-linecap="round" stroke-linejoin="round" stroke-width="1.5" d="m4.5 13.5 9-9M6.188 4.5H13.5v7.313"></path></svg></div><div class="h"><svg xmlns="http://www.w3.org/2000/svg" width="24" height="24" fill="none" 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song</h3></div></a></div><div class="h k"><div class="pz qa qb qc qd qe qf qg qh qi l"><span class="bf b dt z ds"><div class="jv ab hi ae"><div class="ab q qn"><div class="oc ab"><div class="bm" aria-hidden="false"><button class="l ay ao am" aria-label="Member-only story"><div class=""><div><div class="bm" aria-hidden="false"><svg xmlns="http://www.w3.org/2000/svg" width="16" height="16" fill="none" viewBox="0 0 64 64"><path fill="#FFC017" d="m39.637 40.831-5.771 15.871a1.99 1.99 0 0 1-3.732 0l-5.771-15.87a2.02 2.02 0 0 0-1.194-1.195L7.298 33.866a1.99 1.99 0 0 1 0-3.732l15.87-5.771a2.02 2.02 0 0 0 1.195-1.194l5.771-15.871a1.99 1.99 0 0 1 3.732 0l5.771 15.87a2.02 2.02 0 0 0 1.194 1.195l15.871 5.771a1.99 1.99 0 0 1 0 3.732l-15.87 5.771a2.02 2.02 0 0 0-1.195 1.194"></path></svg></div></div></div></button></div></div><span>Nov 18</span><div class="h k j i d"><div class="dq qj qk ab q"><div class="fm ql qm ab q qn"><div class="ax qk qo l fo"></div></div><a class="fm lx qm ab q qn" 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src="https://miro.medium.com/v2/da:true/resize:fill:160:106/0*FX1zKOYlO8k1guHB" width="80" height="53" loading="lazy"/></div><div class="h k"><img alt="giant ear image with skull earring" class="bx my" src="https://miro.medium.com/v2/da:true/resize:fill:320:214/0*FX1zKOYlO8k1guHB" width="160" height="107" loading="lazy"/></div></div></div></div><div class="qx j i d"><span class="bf b dt z ds"><div class="jv ab hi ae"><div class="ab q qn"><div class="oc ab"><div class="bm" aria-hidden="false"><button class="l ay ao am" aria-label="Member-only story"><div class=""><div><div class="bm" aria-hidden="false"><svg xmlns="http://www.w3.org/2000/svg" width="16" height="16" fill="none" viewBox="0 0 64 64"><path fill="#FFC017" d="m39.637 40.831-5.771 15.871a1.99 1.99 0 0 1-3.732 0l-5.771-15.87a2.02 2.02 0 0 0-1.194-1.195L7.298 33.866a1.99 1.99 0 0 1 0-3.732l15.87-5.771a2.02 2.02 0 0 0 1.195-1.194l5.771-15.871a1.99 1.99 0 0 1 3.732 0l5.771 15.87a2.02 2.02 0 0 0 1.194 1.195l15.871 5.771a1.99 1.99 0 0 1 0 3.732l-15.87 5.771a2.02 2.02 0 0 0-1.195 1.194"></path></svg></div></div></div></button></div></div><span>Nov 18</span><div class="h k j i d"><div class="dq qj qk ab q"><div class="fm ql qm ab q qn"><div class="ax qk qo l fo"></div></div><a class="fm lx qm ab q qn" tabindex="-1" rel="noopener follow" href="/the-perfect-earworm-138c0aa576fa?source=user_profile_page---------6-------------35a4f6e2493e---------------"><div><div class="ab" aria-hidden="false"><div class="ab q gl"><svg xmlns="http://www.w3.org/2000/svg" width="16" height="16" fill="#6B6B6B" viewBox="0 0 16 16"><path fill="#6B6B6B" d="M12.344 11.458A5.28 5.28 0 0 0 14 7.526C14 4.483 11.391 2 8.051 2S2 4.483 2 7.527c0 3.051 2.712 5.526 6.059 5.526a6.6 6.6 0 0 0 1.758-.236q.255.223.554.414c.784.51 1.626.768 2.512.768a.37.37 0 0 0 .355-.214.37.37 0 0 0-.03-.384 4.7 4.7 0 0 1-.857-1.958v.014z"></path></svg><span>20</span></div></div></div></a></div></div></div><div class="ab q qp qq"><div class="h k j i d"><div><div class="bm" aria-hidden="false"><span><a class="af ag ah ai aj ak al am an ao ap aq ar as at" href="https://medium.com/m/signin?actionUrl=https%3A%2F%2Fmedium.com%2F_%2Fbookmark%2Fp%2F138c0aa576fa&operation=register&redirect=https%3A%2F%2Fmedium.com%2Fgood-vibes-club%2Fthe-perfect-earworm-138c0aa576fa&source=---------6-------------35a4f6e2493e----bookmark_preview-----------" rel="noopener follow"><svg xmlns="http://www.w3.org/2000/svg" width="25" height="25" fill="none" viewBox="0 0 25 25" class="ds qr qs" aria-label="Add to list bookmark button"><path fill="currentColor" d="M18 2.5a.5.5 0 0 1 1 0V5h2.5a.5.5 0 0 1 0 1H19v2.5a.5.5 0 1 1-1 0V6h-2.5a.5.5 0 0 1 0-1H18zM7 7a1 1 0 0 1 1-1h3.5a.5.5 0 0 0 0-1H8a2 2 0 0 0-2 2v14a.5.5 0 0 0 .805.396L12.5 17l5.695 4.396A.5.5 0 0 0 19 21v-8.5a.5.5 0 0 0-1 0v7.485l-5.195-4.012a.5.5 0 0 0-.61 0L7 19.985z"></path></svg></a></span></div></div></div></div></div></span></div></div></div><div class="qy bh r qz ra rb rc rd"></div></div></div></div></div></article></div></div></div><div class="ab cn"><div class="ij bh ik il im in"><div class="re bh l"><article class=""><div class="oc l"><div class="bh dp"><div class="l"><div class="bh l"><div style="position:relative;display:flex" role="link" data-href="https://debpalmer999.medium.com/mourning-the-milestone-that-almost-was-b574c5e5f22f" tabindex="0"><div class="bh oh oi oj ok"><div class="ab"><div class="mf ol om on oo ab q"><div class="op l"><div><div class="l" aria-hidden="false"><a href="https://medium.com/middle-pause?source=user_profile_page---------7-------------35a4f6e2493e---------------" rel="noopener follow"><div class="dq ab"><img alt="Middle-Pause" class="my gr gs fo" src="https://miro.medium.com/v2/resize:fill:40:40/1*k6adZm3uTGISccg7GHzyVQ.png" width="20" height="20" loading="lazy"/><div class="my l gs gr fm n fl fn"></div></div></a></div></div></div><div class="oq l"><p class="bf b dt z ds">Published in</p></div><div class="l"><div><div 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class="jv ab hi ae"><div class="ab q qn"><div class="oc ab"><div class="bm" aria-hidden="false"><button class="l ay ao am" aria-label="Member-only story"><div class=""><div><div class="bm" aria-hidden="false"><svg xmlns="http://www.w3.org/2000/svg" width="16" height="16" fill="none" viewBox="0 0 64 64"><path fill="#FFC017" d="m39.637 40.831-5.771 15.871a1.99 1.99 0 0 1-3.732 0l-5.771-15.87a2.02 2.02 0 0 0-1.194-1.195L7.298 33.866a1.99 1.99 0 0 1 0-3.732l15.87-5.771a2.02 2.02 0 0 0 1.195-1.194l5.771-15.871a1.99 1.99 0 0 1 3.732 0l5.771 15.87a2.02 2.02 0 0 0 1.194 1.195l15.871 5.771a1.99 1.99 0 0 1 0 3.732l-15.87 5.771a2.02 2.02 0 0 0-1.195 1.194"></path></svg></div></div></div></button></div></div><span>Nov 11</span><div class="h k j i d"><div class="dq qj qk ab q"><div class="fm ql qm ab q qn"><div class="ax qk qo l fo"></div></div><a class="fm lx qm ab q qn" tabindex="-1" rel="noopener follow" 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my" src="https://miro.medium.com/v2/resize:fill:160:106/1*6spLl3EPvR9vAhL-BU5jFA.jpeg" width="80" height="53" loading="lazy"/></div><div class="h k"><img alt="Mother and daugther smiling" class="bx my" src="https://miro.medium.com/v2/resize:fill:320:214/1*6spLl3EPvR9vAhL-BU5jFA.jpeg" width="160" height="107" loading="lazy"/></div></div></div></div><div class="qx j i d"><span class="bf b dt z ds"><div class="jv ab hi ae"><div class="ab q qn"><div class="oc ab"><div class="bm" aria-hidden="false"><button class="l ay ao am" aria-label="Member-only story"><div class=""><div><div class="bm" aria-hidden="false"><svg xmlns="http://www.w3.org/2000/svg" width="16" height="16" fill="none" viewBox="0 0 64 64"><path fill="#FFC017" d="m39.637 40.831-5.771 15.871a1.99 1.99 0 0 1-3.732 0l-5.771-15.87a2.02 2.02 0 0 0-1.194-1.195L7.298 33.866a1.99 1.99 0 0 1 0-3.732l15.87-5.771a2.02 2.02 0 0 0 1.195-1.194l5.771-15.871a1.99 1.99 0 0 1 3.732 0l5.771 15.87a2.02 2.02 0 0 0 1.194 1.195l15.871 5.771a1.99 1.99 0 0 1 0 3.732l-15.87 5.771a2.02 2.02 0 0 0-1.195 1.194"></path></svg></div></div></div></button></div></div><span>Nov 11</span><div class="h k j i d"><div class="dq qj qk ab q"><div class="fm ql qm ab q qn"><div class="ax qk qo l fo"></div></div><a class="fm lx qm ab q qn" tabindex="-1" rel="noopener follow" href="/mourning-the-milestone-that-almost-was-b574c5e5f22f?source=user_profile_page---------7-------------35a4f6e2493e---------------"><div><div class="ab" aria-hidden="false"><div class="ab q gl"><svg xmlns="http://www.w3.org/2000/svg" width="16" height="16" fill="#6B6B6B" viewBox="0 0 16 16"><path fill="#6B6B6B" d="M12.344 11.458A5.28 5.28 0 0 0 14 7.526C14 4.483 11.391 2 8.051 2S2 4.483 2 7.527c0 3.051 2.712 5.526 6.059 5.526a6.6 6.6 0 0 0 1.758-.236q.255.223.554.414c.784.51 1.626.768 2.512.768a.37.37 0 0 0 .355-.214.37.37 0 0 0-.03-.384 4.7 4.7 0 0 1-.857-1.958v.014z"></path></svg><span>38</span></div></div></div></a></div></div></div><div class="ab q qp qq"><div class="h k j i d"><div><div class="bm" aria-hidden="false"><span><a class="af ag ah ai aj ak al am an ao ap aq ar as at" href="https://medium.com/m/signin?actionUrl=https%3A%2F%2Fmedium.com%2F_%2Fbookmark%2Fp%2Fb574c5e5f22f&operation=register&redirect=https%3A%2F%2Fmedium.com%2Fmiddle-pause%2Fmourning-the-milestone-that-almost-was-b574c5e5f22f&source=---------7-------------35a4f6e2493e----bookmark_preview-----------" rel="noopener follow"><svg xmlns="http://www.w3.org/2000/svg" width="25" height="25" fill="none" viewBox="0 0 25 25" class="ds qr qs" aria-label="Add to list bookmark button"><path fill="currentColor" d="M18 2.5a.5.5 0 0 1 1 0V5h2.5a.5.5 0 0 1 0 1H19v2.5a.5.5 0 1 1-1 0V6h-2.5a.5.5 0 0 1 0-1H18zM7 7a1 1 0 0 1 1-1h3.5a.5.5 0 0 0 0-1H8a2 2 0 0 0-2 2v14a.5.5 0 0 0 .805.396L12.5 17l5.695 4.396A.5.5 0 0 0 19 21v-8.5a.5.5 0 0 0-1 0v7.485l-5.195-4.012a.5.5 0 0 0-.61 0L7 19.985z"></path></svg></a></span></div></div></div></div></div></span></div></div></div><div class="qy bh r qz ra rb rc 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