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How had I spent 11 years living on this mountain, somewhat peacefully, calling it home, only to find out it was a volcano? <strong class="oh he"><em class="pk">He was a volcano.</em></strong></p><p id="bc75" class="pw-post-body-paragraph of og hd oh b hx oi oj ok ia ol om on oo op oq or os ot ou ov ow ox oy oz pa gw bk">More of my essence escaped with each verbal assault as I sat there in the driver’s seat of my car. My mom’s car actually; my dying mom.</p><p id="2ea0" class="pw-post-body-paragraph of og hd oh b hx oi oj ok ia ol om on oo op oq or os ot ou ov ow ox oy oz pa gw bk"><em class="pk">“How could he harbor so much wrath for me, especially </em><strong class="oh he"><em class="pk">now</em></strong>?” I wondered.</p><p id="c7f9" class="pw-post-body-paragraph of og hd oh b hx oi oj ok ia ol om on oo op oq or os ot ou ov ow ox oy oz pa gw bk">She didn’t have much longer to live. After 40 years of meth use followed by a <strong class="oh he"><em class="pk">horrific overdose,</em></strong> I sacrificed jobs and opportunities to save her life when no one else would. My family was willing to let her die all alone on her couch, caked in dried piss, mouth flapping like a fish out of water, bones like an archaeological site, eyes grey with death’s curtain.</p><p id="f258" class="pw-post-body-paragraph of og hd oh b hx oi oj ok ia ol om on oo op oq or os ot ou ov ow ox oy oz pa gw bk"><strong class="oh he"><em class="pk">I saved her. </em></strong>I worked miracles and nurtured her with healthy food and love when everyone said it couldn’t be done.</p><p id="1a46" class="pw-post-body-paragraph of og hd oh b hx oi oj ok ia ol om on oo op oq or os ot ou ov ow ox oy oz pa gw bk">Mom didn’t just spring back to life, but she even quit meth and made amends with everyone. 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