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Bianca Bagnarelli</span></figcaption></figure><div class="ProjectGrid_copy__uDBOA"><h2 class="ProjectGrid_hed___QZPV"><a data-event-element="title" href="https://www.theatlantic.com/family/archive/2024/12/mom-manipulate-boyfriend-holidays/681078/" class="ProjectGrid_link__Y0YMC">Dear Therapist: How Do I Deal With My Hostile Sister?</a></h2><div class="ProjectGrid_dek__oLwxO"><span>My boyfriend is uncomfortable around her, but my mom wants him to come for the holidays.</span></div><div class="ProjectGrid_authors__VyKeP"><a data-event-element="author" class="ProjectGrid_link__Y0YMC" href="https://www.theatlantic.com/author/lori-gottlieb/">Lori Gottlieb</a></div><time class="ProjectGrid_time__laZaC" dateTime="2024-12-23T12:00:00Z">December 23, 2024</time></div></article></div><div class="ProjectGrid_li__NnOLw"><article data-event-position="2" class="ProjectGrid_article__coS6b"><figure class="ProjectGrid_figure__C_rxH"><a data-event-element="image" 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height="277"/></picture></a><figcaption class="ProjectGrid_attribution__J6t_U"><span>Illustration by Bianca Bagnarelli</span></figcaption></figure><div class="ProjectGrid_copy__uDBOA"><h2 class="ProjectGrid_hed___QZPV"><a data-event-element="title" href="https://www.theatlantic.com/family/archive/2024/11/in-law-parents-divorce-holiday-plans/680769/" class="ProjectGrid_link__Y0YMC">Dear Therapist: No One Wants to Host My In-Laws for the Holidays</a></h2><div class="ProjectGrid_dek__oLwxO"><span>My husband’s parents are divorcing, and they are worried about being alone.</span></div><div class="ProjectGrid_authors__VyKeP"><a data-event-element="author" class="ProjectGrid_link__Y0YMC" href="https://www.theatlantic.com/author/lori-gottlieb/">Lori Gottlieb</a></div><time class="ProjectGrid_time__laZaC" dateTime="2024-11-25T12:00:00Z">November 25, 2024</time></div></article></div><gpt-ad class="GptAd_root__pAvcS Injector_root__U1KQn Injector_shaded__u8fiA Injector_noBorder__IzK3j 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https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/m2aqMy85cKYu9D6JQdYoro4p4N4=/384x0:4609x2813/1396x930/media/img/mt/2024/10/How_Can_I_Get_My_Brother_to_Leave_His_Wife_final_B/original.jpg 1396w, https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/tL1EhMAm4VNeEVJiTGflt35EbuU=/384x0:4609x2813/1480x985/media/img/mt/2024/10/How_Can_I_Get_My_Brother_to_Leave_His_Wife_final_B/original.jpg 1480w" src="https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/jsW5DYq-oCdOJHjuA59jDh2mu4k=/384x0:4609x2813/416x277/media/img/mt/2024/10/How_Can_I_Get_My_Brother_to_Leave_His_Wife_final_B/original.jpg" width="416" height="277"/></picture></a><figcaption class="ProjectGrid_attribution__J6t_U"><span>Illustration by Bianca Bagnarelli</span></figcaption></figure><div class="ProjectGrid_copy__uDBOA"><h2 class="ProjectGrid_hed___QZPV"><a data-event-element="title" href="https://www.theatlantic.com/family/archive/2024/10/brother-wife-relationship-abuse/680385/" class="ProjectGrid_link__Y0YMC">Dear Therapist: I’m Worried About My Brother</a></h2><div class="ProjectGrid_dek__oLwxO"><span>His wife’s behavior has made him a shell of his former self.</span></div><div class="ProjectGrid_authors__VyKeP"><a data-event-element="author" class="ProjectGrid_link__Y0YMC" href="https://www.theatlantic.com/author/lori-gottlieb/">Lori Gottlieb</a></div><time class="ProjectGrid_time__laZaC" dateTime="2024-10-28T11:00:00Z">October 28, 2024</time></div></article></div><div class="ProjectGrid_li__NnOLw"><article data-event-position="4" class="ProjectGrid_article__coS6b"><figure class="ProjectGrid_figure__C_rxH"><a data-event-element="image" href="https://www.theatlantic.com/family/archive/2024/09/assault-therapy-tell-later/680035/"><picture class="ProjectGrid_picture__km9UT"><img alt="a woman stands in front of a large faceless man" loading="lazy" class="Image_root__XxsOp Image_lazy__hYWHV" sizes="(min-width: 1440px) 416px, (min-width: 1024px) calc(33.3vw - 64px), (min-width: 768px) 360px, calc(100vw - 32px)" srcSet="https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/t5RuqqGp-0bjGeKL_cBbt-fyzSY=/387x0:4570x2785/360x240/media/img/mt/2024/09/Do_I_Need_to_Tell_People_About_the_Man_Who_Raped_Me_final/original.jpg 360w, https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/sjMGB6wmlbUw-ROarGlM9j7K5aE=/387x0:4570x2785/416x277/media/img/mt/2024/09/Do_I_Need_to_Tell_People_About_the_Man_Who_Raped_Me_final/original.jpg 416w, https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/XusCKUlwUuITfcxPRsTR8IdIvyI=/387x0:4570x2785/720x479/media/img/mt/2024/09/Do_I_Need_to_Tell_People_About_the_Man_Who_Raped_Me_final/original.jpg 720w, https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/3G_OpuBDj9ZNm7T1dwbmu91svmQ=/387x0:4570x2785/832x554/media/img/mt/2024/09/Do_I_Need_to_Tell_People_About_the_Man_Who_Raped_Me_final/original.jpg 832w, https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/cwwPTtamXWevoqVkq2bLTBPSh8Y=/387x0:4570x2785/1024x682/media/img/mt/2024/09/Do_I_Need_to_Tell_People_About_the_Man_Who_Raped_Me_final/original.jpg 1024w, https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/AjrAkr_-XodOAb8CFXswSr6HfjA=/387x0:4570x2785/1280x852/media/img/mt/2024/09/Do_I_Need_to_Tell_People_About_the_Man_Who_Raped_Me_final/original.jpg 1280w, https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/HUiGBxhAY8YubT7SlSYYaMLfEkQ=/387x0:4570x2785/1396x930/media/img/mt/2024/09/Do_I_Need_to_Tell_People_About_the_Man_Who_Raped_Me_final/original.jpg 1396w, https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/yP_t3EAs2uo2XNg5Zid1p8qjDBA=/387x0:4570x2785/1480x985/media/img/mt/2024/09/Do_I_Need_to_Tell_People_About_the_Man_Who_Raped_Me_final/original.jpg 1480w" src="https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/sjMGB6wmlbUw-ROarGlM9j7K5aE=/387x0:4570x2785/416x277/media/img/mt/2024/09/Do_I_Need_to_Tell_People_About_the_Man_Who_Raped_Me_final/original.jpg" width="416" height="277"/></picture></a><figcaption class="ProjectGrid_attribution__J6t_U"><span>Illustration by Bianca Bagnarelli</span></figcaption></figure><div class="ProjectGrid_copy__uDBOA"><h2 class="ProjectGrid_hed___QZPV"><a data-event-element="title" href="https://www.theatlantic.com/family/archive/2024/09/assault-therapy-tell-later/680035/" class="ProjectGrid_link__Y0YMC">Dear Therapist: I Ran Into the Man Who Raped Me</a></h2><div class="ProjectGrid_dek__oLwxO"><span>The assault was seven years ago. Should I expose him now?</span></div><div class="ProjectGrid_authors__VyKeP"><a data-event-element="author" class="ProjectGrid_link__Y0YMC" href="https://www.theatlantic.com/author/lori-gottlieb/">Lori Gottlieb</a></div><time class="ProjectGrid_time__laZaC" dateTime="2024-09-30T11:00:00Z">September 30, 2024</time></div></article></div><div class="ProjectGrid_li__NnOLw"><article data-event-position="5" class="ProjectGrid_article__coS6b"><figure class="ProjectGrid_figure__C_rxH"><a data-event-element="image" href="https://www.theatlantic.com/family/archive/2024/08/abuse-relatives-no-contact/679594/"><picture class="ProjectGrid_picture__km9UT"><img alt="a person stands in a dark forest apart from their family at the dinner table" loading="lazy" class="Image_root__XxsOp Image_lazy__hYWHV" sizes="(min-width: 1440px) 416px, (min-width: 1024px) calc(33.3vw - 64px), (min-width: 768px) 360px, calc(100vw - 32px)" srcSet="https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/zEg2aMQtMD9V0C9zcw2sSTqq2Kc=/548x0:4351x2532/360x240/media/img/mt/2024/08/My_Extended_Family_Doesnt_Approve_of_How_Ive_Dealt_With_My_Abusive_Parents_final/original.jpg 360w, https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/Kl7r7FIWWFpI_0i5raXMn7U7yV8=/548x0:4351x2532/416x277/media/img/mt/2024/08/My_Extended_Family_Doesnt_Approve_of_How_Ive_Dealt_With_My_Abusive_Parents_final/original.jpg 416w, https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/AvASu2UpnDVquzmAUS36uVgMwfA=/548x0:4351x2532/720x479/media/img/mt/2024/08/My_Extended_Family_Doesnt_Approve_of_How_Ive_Dealt_With_My_Abusive_Parents_final/original.jpg 720w, https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/qb7ob1GXGvev1sqHDll614t3ZOg=/548x0:4351x2532/832x554/media/img/mt/2024/08/My_Extended_Family_Doesnt_Approve_of_How_Ive_Dealt_With_My_Abusive_Parents_final/original.jpg 832w, https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/nyNj86K3KKa06_rWkO4WGVno_FM=/548x0:4351x2532/1024x682/media/img/mt/2024/08/My_Extended_Family_Doesnt_Approve_of_How_Ive_Dealt_With_My_Abusive_Parents_final/original.jpg 1024w, https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/TTOlZzve4K8MkjzIrvNruV2_bhE=/548x0:4351x2532/1280x852/media/img/mt/2024/08/My_Extended_Family_Doesnt_Approve_of_How_Ive_Dealt_With_My_Abusive_Parents_final/original.jpg 1280w, https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/wmxBwOVmnags65gkuaKawAZ4sNY=/548x0:4351x2532/1396x930/media/img/mt/2024/08/My_Extended_Family_Doesnt_Approve_of_How_Ive_Dealt_With_My_Abusive_Parents_final/original.jpg 1396w, https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/dcnj2A4Rtw92myEYpkMrBJnfqD0=/548x0:4351x2532/1480x985/media/img/mt/2024/08/My_Extended_Family_Doesnt_Approve_of_How_Ive_Dealt_With_My_Abusive_Parents_final/original.jpg 1480w" src="https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/Kl7r7FIWWFpI_0i5raXMn7U7yV8=/548x0:4351x2532/416x277/media/img/mt/2024/08/My_Extended_Family_Doesnt_Approve_of_How_Ive_Dealt_With_My_Abusive_Parents_final/original.jpg" width="416" height="277"/></picture></a><figcaption class="ProjectGrid_attribution__J6t_U"><span>Illustration by Bianca Bagnarelli</span></figcaption></figure><div class="ProjectGrid_copy__uDBOA"><h2 class="ProjectGrid_hed___QZPV"><a data-event-element="title" href="https://www.theatlantic.com/family/archive/2024/08/abuse-relatives-no-contact/679594/" class="ProjectGrid_link__Y0YMC">Dear Therapist: My Relatives Don’t Believe My Parents Were Abusive</a></h2><div class="ProjectGrid_dek__oLwxO"><span>How do I maintain a relationship with my extended family without feeling so unheard?</span></div><div class="ProjectGrid_authors__VyKeP"><a data-event-element="author" class="ProjectGrid_link__Y0YMC" href="https://www.theatlantic.com/author/lori-gottlieb/">Lori Gottlieb</a></div><time class="ProjectGrid_time__laZaC" dateTime="2024-08-26T10:30:00Z">August 26, 2024</time></div></article></div><div class="ProjectGrid_li__NnOLw"><article data-event-position="6" class="ProjectGrid_article__coS6b"><figure class="ProjectGrid_figure__C_rxH"><a data-event-element="image" href="https://www.theatlantic.com/family/archive/2024/07/family-secret-share-shame-guilt/679231/"><picture class="ProjectGrid_picture__km9UT"><img alt="A locked chest, with a family tree engraved on it, being opened—green smoke spills out" loading="lazy" class="Image_root__XxsOp Image_lazy__hYWHV" sizes="(min-width: 1440px) 416px, (min-width: 1024px) calc(33.3vw - 64px), (min-width: 768px) 360px, calc(100vw - 32px)" srcSet="https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/8TvvBkiOPV1Mp0axiuT6UMAsv1o=/430x0:5077x3094/360x240/media/img/mt/2024/07/Family_secrets_final/original.jpg 360w, https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/DK8PRLYhFCn4U80CA35Io4td4DI=/430x0:5077x3094/416x277/media/img/mt/2024/07/Family_secrets_final/original.jpg 416w, https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/uHXuRukAfr6S8otFX-CF_0TvZAU=/430x0:5077x3094/720x479/media/img/mt/2024/07/Family_secrets_final/original.jpg 720w, https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/xa5lipE9BIm1ndYUwKPXkkDsdWQ=/430x0:5077x3094/832x554/media/img/mt/2024/07/Family_secrets_final/original.jpg 832w, https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/ZDQ7VpOWttmB_ToIywJiAFIZYNQ=/430x0:5077x3094/1024x682/media/img/mt/2024/07/Family_secrets_final/original.jpg 1024w, https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/CF7tu_vkkzAlZVic1w8G2jWqyzg=/430x0:5077x3094/1280x852/media/img/mt/2024/07/Family_secrets_final/original.jpg 1280w, https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/Hkpz8D7iSu-l0Ond9GOndbOZdCI=/430x0:5077x3094/1396x930/media/img/mt/2024/07/Family_secrets_final/original.jpg 1396w, https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/6m1AZMBK4ZK9Kwg3zJDGOeioryE=/430x0:5077x3094/1480x985/media/img/mt/2024/07/Family_secrets_final/original.jpg 1480w" src="https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/DK8PRLYhFCn4U80CA35Io4td4DI=/430x0:5077x3094/416x277/media/img/mt/2024/07/Family_secrets_final/original.jpg" width="416" height="277"/></picture></a><figcaption class="ProjectGrid_attribution__J6t_U"><span>Illustration by Bianca Bagnarelli</span></figcaption></figure><div class="ProjectGrid_copy__uDBOA"><h2 class="ProjectGrid_hed___QZPV"><a data-event-element="title" href="https://www.theatlantic.com/family/archive/2024/07/family-secret-share-shame-guilt/679231/" class="ProjectGrid_link__Y0YMC">Dear Therapist: I Inherited Unwanted Family Secrets</a></h2><div class="ProjectGrid_dek__oLwxO"><span>I didn’t ask to be the custodian of their guilt and shame.</span></div><div class="ProjectGrid_authors__VyKeP"><a data-event-element="author" class="ProjectGrid_link__Y0YMC" href="https://www.theatlantic.com/author/lori-gottlieb/">Lori Gottlieb</a></div><time class="ProjectGrid_time__laZaC" dateTime="2024-07-29T10:30:00Z">July 29, 2024</time></div></article></div><div class="ProjectGrid_li__NnOLw"><article data-event-position="7" class="ProjectGrid_article__coS6b"><figure class="ProjectGrid_figure__C_rxH"><a data-event-element="image" href="https://www.theatlantic.com/family/archive/2024/06/father-death-estate-work-appreciation/678762/"><picture class="ProjectGrid_picture__km9UT"><img alt="A photo illustration of woman's silhouette and a hand signing a last will and testament." loading="lazy" class="Image_root__XxsOp Image_lazy__hYWHV" sizes="(min-width: 1440px) 416px, (min-width: 1024px) calc(33.3vw - 64px), (min-width: 768px) 360px, calc(100vw - 32px)" srcSet="https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/B_f387-4ngEhvflDbKUn2kceBbc=/387x0:4570x2785/360x240/media/img/mt/2024/06/My_Father_Died_Im_Doing_All_the_Estate_Work_and_No_One_Appreciates_Me_final/original.jpg 360w, https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/WjuEAwP2CiJRSodvkB4OaCAsmhc=/387x0:4570x2785/416x277/media/img/mt/2024/06/My_Father_Died_Im_Doing_All_the_Estate_Work_and_No_One_Appreciates_Me_final/original.jpg 416w, https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/Uq9XsScdryqGOuP-A6oZHBo7NYg=/387x0:4570x2785/720x479/media/img/mt/2024/06/My_Father_Died_Im_Doing_All_the_Estate_Work_and_No_One_Appreciates_Me_final/original.jpg 720w, https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/VJpThaoAcAFN7ZfaqSGWG0wDABQ=/387x0:4570x2785/832x554/media/img/mt/2024/06/My_Father_Died_Im_Doing_All_the_Estate_Work_and_No_One_Appreciates_Me_final/original.jpg 832w, https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/oefJrG0fPGeYST6I8iOSdwZsiv0=/387x0:4570x2785/1024x682/media/img/mt/2024/06/My_Father_Died_Im_Doing_All_the_Estate_Work_and_No_One_Appreciates_Me_final/original.jpg 1024w, https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/AVMZ3YVUdlt70UcAWmxOGAMPIoQ=/387x0:4570x2785/1280x852/media/img/mt/2024/06/My_Father_Died_Im_Doing_All_the_Estate_Work_and_No_One_Appreciates_Me_final/original.jpg 1280w, https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/14hjSomhQJtfKHlANjsOJEKuZ7A=/387x0:4570x2785/1396x930/media/img/mt/2024/06/My_Father_Died_Im_Doing_All_the_Estate_Work_and_No_One_Appreciates_Me_final/original.jpg 1396w, https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/_aIDvRqO2TKf0XWl547thJmoj78=/387x0:4570x2785/1480x985/media/img/mt/2024/06/My_Father_Died_Im_Doing_All_the_Estate_Work_and_No_One_Appreciates_Me_final/original.jpg 1480w" src="https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/WjuEAwP2CiJRSodvkB4OaCAsmhc=/387x0:4570x2785/416x277/media/img/mt/2024/06/My_Father_Died_Im_Doing_All_the_Estate_Work_and_No_One_Appreciates_Me_final/original.jpg" width="416" height="277"/></picture></a><figcaption class="ProjectGrid_attribution__J6t_U"><span>Bianca Bagnarelli</span></figcaption></figure><div class="ProjectGrid_copy__uDBOA"><h2 class="ProjectGrid_hed___QZPV"><a data-event-element="title" href="https://www.theatlantic.com/family/archive/2024/06/father-death-estate-work-appreciation/678762/" class="ProjectGrid_link__Y0YMC">Dear Therapist: I’m the Golden Child, and My Siblings Resent Me for It</a></h2><div class="ProjectGrid_dek__oLwxO"><span>I never asked for this role.</span></div><div class="ProjectGrid_authors__VyKeP"><a data-event-element="author" class="ProjectGrid_link__Y0YMC" href="https://www.theatlantic.com/author/lori-gottlieb/">Lori Gottlieb</a></div><time class="ProjectGrid_time__laZaC" dateTime="2024-06-24T10:30:00Z">June 24, 2024</time></div></article></div><div class="ProjectGrid_li__NnOLw"><article data-event-position="8" class="ProjectGrid_article__coS6b"><figure class="ProjectGrid_figure__C_rxH"><a data-event-element="image" href="https://www.theatlantic.com/family/archive/2024/05/surprise-son-wife-mother/678504/"><picture class="ProjectGrid_picture__km9UT"><img alt="A man considering a tree while a woman stands a bit away from him" loading="lazy" class="Image_root__XxsOp Image_lazy__hYWHV" sizes="(min-width: 1440px) 416px, (min-width: 1024px) calc(33.3vw - 64px), (min-width: 768px) 360px, calc(100vw - 32px)" srcSet="https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/nuHQztY0fxeZA49WcWt6-KvUTJI=/384x0:4609x2813/360x240/media/img/mt/2024/05/I_Have_a_Son_and_Five_Grandchildren_I_Didnt_Know_About_final_1/original.jpg 360w, https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/08puGcdpM5a_Aja0rQTrwlDkL84=/384x0:4609x2813/416x277/media/img/mt/2024/05/I_Have_a_Son_and_Five_Grandchildren_I_Didnt_Know_About_final_1/original.jpg 416w, https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/S1nRBWrUA88Wt-SEnfuPhLxZhuI=/384x0:4609x2813/720x479/media/img/mt/2024/05/I_Have_a_Son_and_Five_Grandchildren_I_Didnt_Know_About_final_1/original.jpg 720w, https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/xFjBTXeiXDljnJogiK1k4vlR8qg=/384x0:4609x2813/832x554/media/img/mt/2024/05/I_Have_a_Son_and_Five_Grandchildren_I_Didnt_Know_About_final_1/original.jpg 832w, https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/8J3IBgpdOWWkFzY6u72OmAbZxq4=/384x0:4609x2813/1024x682/media/img/mt/2024/05/I_Have_a_Son_and_Five_Grandchildren_I_Didnt_Know_About_final_1/original.jpg 1024w, https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/IU8bv0aoacboULrK58dTI9XsQeI=/384x0:4609x2813/1280x852/media/img/mt/2024/05/I_Have_a_Son_and_Five_Grandchildren_I_Didnt_Know_About_final_1/original.jpg 1280w, https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/gI4YZjPxC0Lf94cQdCIuilIlv2Q=/384x0:4609x2813/1396x930/media/img/mt/2024/05/I_Have_a_Son_and_Five_Grandchildren_I_Didnt_Know_About_final_1/original.jpg 1396w, https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/S4ZE8LPzOD1Fv_3W8BXk5KhwC-k=/384x0:4609x2813/1480x985/media/img/mt/2024/05/I_Have_a_Son_and_Five_Grandchildren_I_Didnt_Know_About_final_1/original.jpg 1480w" src="https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/08puGcdpM5a_Aja0rQTrwlDkL84=/384x0:4609x2813/416x277/media/img/mt/2024/05/I_Have_a_Son_and_Five_Grandchildren_I_Didnt_Know_About_final_1/original.jpg" width="416" height="277"/></picture></a><figcaption class="ProjectGrid_attribution__J6t_U"><span>Bianca Bagnarelli</span></figcaption></figure><div class="ProjectGrid_copy__uDBOA"><h2 class="ProjectGrid_hed___QZPV"><a data-event-element="title" href="https://www.theatlantic.com/family/archive/2024/05/surprise-son-wife-mother/678504/" class="ProjectGrid_link__Y0YMC">Dear Therapist: A Son I Didn’t Know Existed Just Found Me</a></h2><div class="ProjectGrid_dek__oLwxO"><span>And my wife is very upset about me reconnecting with his mother.</span></div><div class="ProjectGrid_authors__VyKeP"><a data-event-element="author" class="ProjectGrid_link__Y0YMC" href="https://www.theatlantic.com/author/lori-gottlieb/">Lori Gottlieb</a></div><time class="ProjectGrid_time__laZaC" dateTime="2024-05-27T10:30:00Z">May 27, 2024</time></div></article></div><gpt-ad class="GptAd_root__pAvcS Injector_root__U1KQn Injector_shaded__u8fiA Injector_noBorder__IzK3j ProjectGrid_li__NnOLw ProjectGrid_ad__QBJU8" format="injector" sizes-at-0="mobile-wide" targeting-pos="boxinjector-2" sizes-at-976="desktop-wide"></gpt-ad><div class="ProjectGrid_li__NnOLw"><article data-event-position="9" class="ProjectGrid_article__coS6b"><figure class="ProjectGrid_figure__C_rxH"><a data-event-element="image" href="https://www.theatlantic.com/family/archive/2024/04/sibling-argument-anger-apology/678200/"><picture class="ProjectGrid_picture__km9UT"><img alt="An illustration of a woman with fire coming off her as she yells at a man" loading="lazy" class="Image_root__XxsOp Image_lazy__hYWHV" sizes="(min-width: 1440px) 416px, (min-width: 1024px) calc(33.3vw - 64px), (min-width: 768px) 360px, calc(100vw - 32px)" srcSet="https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/Fxui9VVmlN8AL7ApsOOLkdDKM9M=/410x0:4915x3000/360x240/media/img/mt/2024/04/I_Cant_Control_My_Rage_When_Im_Around_My_Brother_final/original.jpg 360w, https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/naFQn7NcsTW34YoyZUg34CorV3s=/410x0:4915x3000/416x277/media/img/mt/2024/04/I_Cant_Control_My_Rage_When_Im_Around_My_Brother_final/original.jpg 416w, https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/ewg2F6wBFW_2Z6FXteEtRweTA3g=/410x0:4915x3000/720x479/media/img/mt/2024/04/I_Cant_Control_My_Rage_When_Im_Around_My_Brother_final/original.jpg 720w, https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/QZVB2oyX7WTOoepexTuEd1sUv0g=/410x0:4915x3000/832x554/media/img/mt/2024/04/I_Cant_Control_My_Rage_When_Im_Around_My_Brother_final/original.jpg 832w, https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/Dso3TnsNRJGoO9qTGNoVDLod0R0=/410x0:4915x3000/1024x682/media/img/mt/2024/04/I_Cant_Control_My_Rage_When_Im_Around_My_Brother_final/original.jpg 1024w, https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/KmYwFaQ_nDSz9AOnp7ZJ-iv2iPg=/410x0:4915x3000/1280x852/media/img/mt/2024/04/I_Cant_Control_My_Rage_When_Im_Around_My_Brother_final/original.jpg 1280w, https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/cNDNR9PhgPb70PJl4k_Fj14dWsw=/410x0:4915x3000/1396x930/media/img/mt/2024/04/I_Cant_Control_My_Rage_When_Im_Around_My_Brother_final/original.jpg 1396w, https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/Fg0dwiLL_7EOhmsuOSLcPR5dM2E=/410x0:4915x3000/1480x985/media/img/mt/2024/04/I_Cant_Control_My_Rage_When_Im_Around_My_Brother_final/original.jpg 1480w" src="https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/naFQn7NcsTW34YoyZUg34CorV3s=/410x0:4915x3000/416x277/media/img/mt/2024/04/I_Cant_Control_My_Rage_When_Im_Around_My_Brother_final/original.jpg" width="416" height="277"/></picture></a><figcaption class="ProjectGrid_attribution__J6t_U"><span>Bianca Bagnarelli</span></figcaption></figure><div class="ProjectGrid_copy__uDBOA"><h2 class="ProjectGrid_hed___QZPV"><a data-event-element="title" href="https://www.theatlantic.com/family/archive/2024/04/sibling-argument-anger-apology/678200/" class="ProjectGrid_link__Y0YMC">Dear Therapist: I Flipped Out at My Brother, and I Regret It</a></h2><div class="ProjectGrid_dek__oLwxO"><span>How can I apologize to him, but also explain that he makes me feel small?</span></div><div class="ProjectGrid_authors__VyKeP"><a data-event-element="author" class="ProjectGrid_link__Y0YMC" href="https://www.theatlantic.com/author/lori-gottlieb/">Lori Gottlieb</a></div><time class="ProjectGrid_time__laZaC" dateTime="2024-04-29T10:30:00Z">April 29, 2024</time></div></article></div><div class="ProjectGrid_li__NnOLw"><article data-event-position="10" class="ProjectGrid_article__coS6b"><figure class="ProjectGrid_figure__C_rxH"><a data-event-element="image" href="https://www.theatlantic.com/family/archive/2024/03/parent-elder-care-homophobia/677857/"><picture class="ProjectGrid_picture__km9UT"><img alt="An illustration of a young woman on the phone with visages of parents haunting her" loading="lazy" class="Image_root__XxsOp Image_lazy__hYWHV" sizes="(min-width: 1440px) 416px, (min-width: 1024px) calc(33.3vw - 64px), (min-width: 768px) 360px, calc(100vw - 32px)" srcSet="https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/HZ7yqS2Jve0bjDdi0w7SLH5Xdw0=/387x0:4570x2785/360x240/media/img/mt/2024/03/elderly_parents_care_final/original.jpg 360w, https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/oypRkG5zK-bgNLGbu10HVLhPRm4=/387x0:4570x2785/416x277/media/img/mt/2024/03/elderly_parents_care_final/original.jpg 416w, https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/455dvBWRXy9dpIJy1tDZRwNMSC4=/387x0:4570x2785/720x479/media/img/mt/2024/03/elderly_parents_care_final/original.jpg 720w, https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/zhqYSml0Uhd9BT7SxRlmUu56C14=/387x0:4570x2785/832x554/media/img/mt/2024/03/elderly_parents_care_final/original.jpg 832w, https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/_8EoMfdSLr4Zvc_Yzs5pLLQTf8E=/387x0:4570x2785/1024x682/media/img/mt/2024/03/elderly_parents_care_final/original.jpg 1024w, https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/8x2B5fYM-cKADK4kxTz4lloc9T0=/387x0:4570x2785/1280x852/media/img/mt/2024/03/elderly_parents_care_final/original.jpg 1280w, https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/JhTKTUhf4p-Hl8whzfCgUvzPrdA=/387x0:4570x2785/1396x930/media/img/mt/2024/03/elderly_parents_care_final/original.jpg 1396w, https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/Po_Ps5axMeYvllUj3-mjXLSY3AI=/387x0:4570x2785/1480x985/media/img/mt/2024/03/elderly_parents_care_final/original.jpg 1480w" src="https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/oypRkG5zK-bgNLGbu10HVLhPRm4=/387x0:4570x2785/416x277/media/img/mt/2024/03/elderly_parents_care_final/original.jpg" width="416" height="277"/></picture></a><figcaption class="ProjectGrid_attribution__J6t_U"><span>Bianca Bagnarelli</span></figcaption></figure><div class="ProjectGrid_copy__uDBOA"><h2 class="ProjectGrid_hed___QZPV"><a data-event-element="title" href="https://www.theatlantic.com/family/archive/2024/03/parent-elder-care-homophobia/677857/" class="ProjectGrid_link__Y0YMC">Dear Therapist: I Don’t Want to Take Care of My Aging, Homophobic Parents</a></h2><div class="ProjectGrid_dek__oLwxO"><span>What do I owe them if they caused me pain growing up?</span></div><div class="ProjectGrid_authors__VyKeP"><a data-event-element="author" class="ProjectGrid_link__Y0YMC" href="https://www.theatlantic.com/author/lori-gottlieb/">Lori Gottlieb</a></div><time class="ProjectGrid_time__laZaC" dateTime="2024-03-25T10:30:00Z">March 25, 2024</time></div></article></div><div class="ProjectGrid_li__NnOLw"><article data-event-position="11" class="ProjectGrid_article__coS6b"><figure class="ProjectGrid_figure__C_rxH"><a data-event-element="image" href="https://www.theatlantic.com/family/archive/2024/02/sex-aging-widow-relationships-advice/677551/"><picture class="ProjectGrid_picture__km9UT"><img alt="A woman in profile, a hand stroking her hair" loading="lazy" class="Image_root__XxsOp Image_lazy__hYWHV" sizes="(min-width: 1440px) 416px, (min-width: 1024px) calc(33.3vw - 64px), (min-width: 768px) 360px, calc(100vw - 32px)" srcSet="https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/S8MVnlf4kmM8RPxMn927gDY9wd8=/711x0:5590x3249/360x240/media/img/mt/2024/02/Im_Old_but_Id_Still_Like_to_Have_Sex_final/original.jpg 360w, https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/nr1YvuWz4P_C5QkajjI6lB88PnM=/711x0:5590x3249/416x277/media/img/mt/2024/02/Im_Old_but_Id_Still_Like_to_Have_Sex_final/original.jpg 416w, https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/VRsjsPvVhq4Ht-tOocAXbDvflhY=/711x0:5590x3249/720x479/media/img/mt/2024/02/Im_Old_but_Id_Still_Like_to_Have_Sex_final/original.jpg 720w, https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/0sTVALh0RHnBbzliQW2PwgiUG60=/711x0:5590x3249/832x554/media/img/mt/2024/02/Im_Old_but_Id_Still_Like_to_Have_Sex_final/original.jpg 832w, https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/xcMsdEHTsermaqq23oxrufIx3Nk=/711x0:5590x3249/1024x682/media/img/mt/2024/02/Im_Old_but_Id_Still_Like_to_Have_Sex_final/original.jpg 1024w, https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/BpQWcGRq0Or4V4rX1u_2Hb1NEUU=/711x0:5590x3249/1280x852/media/img/mt/2024/02/Im_Old_but_Id_Still_Like_to_Have_Sex_final/original.jpg 1280w, https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/h5Cr7O_mB4rOtUKudLAE9CfejtM=/711x0:5590x3249/1396x930/media/img/mt/2024/02/Im_Old_but_Id_Still_Like_to_Have_Sex_final/original.jpg 1396w, https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/Y_Yvj5uWZBuQ6Ih-bPmsUcIJN08=/711x0:5590x3249/1480x985/media/img/mt/2024/02/Im_Old_but_Id_Still_Like_to_Have_Sex_final/original.jpg 1480w" src="https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/nr1YvuWz4P_C5QkajjI6lB88PnM=/711x0:5590x3249/416x277/media/img/mt/2024/02/Im_Old_but_Id_Still_Like_to_Have_Sex_final/original.jpg" width="416" height="277"/></picture></a><figcaption class="ProjectGrid_attribution__J6t_U"><span>Bianca Bagnarelli</span></figcaption></figure><div class="ProjectGrid_copy__uDBOA"><h2 class="ProjectGrid_hed___QZPV"><a data-event-element="title" href="https://www.theatlantic.com/family/archive/2024/02/sex-aging-widow-relationships-advice/677551/" class="ProjectGrid_link__Y0YMC">Dear Therapist: I Miss Having Sex</a></h2><div class="ProjectGrid_dek__oLwxO"><span>I’m a 70-year-old widow, and I don’t know how to get my needs met.</span></div><div class="ProjectGrid_authors__VyKeP"><a data-event-element="author" class="ProjectGrid_link__Y0YMC" href="https://www.theatlantic.com/author/lori-gottlieb/">Lori Gottlieb</a></div><time class="ProjectGrid_time__laZaC" dateTime="2024-02-26T11:30:00Z">February 26, 2024</time></div></article></div><div class="ProjectGrid_li__NnOLw"><article data-event-position="12" class="ProjectGrid_article__coS6b"><figure class="ProjectGrid_figure__C_rxH"><a data-event-element="image" href="https://www.theatlantic.com/family/archive/2024/01/ex-husband-daughter-strained-relationship/677247/"><picture class="ProjectGrid_picture__km9UT"><img alt="A man cutting a limb off of a tree" loading="lazy" class="Image_root__XxsOp Image_lazy__hYWHV" sizes="(min-width: 1440px) 416px, (min-width: 1024px) calc(33.3vw - 64px), (min-width: 768px) 360px, calc(100vw - 32px)" srcSet="https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/LIhix3WoDMcFzH5GQBGWgY7ocSk=/387x0:4570x2785/360x240/media/img/mt/2024/01/Cutting_ties_final/original.jpg 360w, https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/mzBvw43gfV4MWo225YyYMcfAiCg=/387x0:4570x2785/416x277/media/img/mt/2024/01/Cutting_ties_final/original.jpg 416w, https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/KEFXTloGpJOic0nEnh62LUj76No=/387x0:4570x2785/720x479/media/img/mt/2024/01/Cutting_ties_final/original.jpg 720w, https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/arPPYDH1hQRL4oVUbqjecmtiOhU=/387x0:4570x2785/832x554/media/img/mt/2024/01/Cutting_ties_final/original.jpg 832w, https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/UBIZms_Wny3N5Cv6Zwjjq94Jk8w=/387x0:4570x2785/1024x682/media/img/mt/2024/01/Cutting_ties_final/original.jpg 1024w, https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/a5JD9tMz-_qBNGHrOLAXQ2MHxnQ=/387x0:4570x2785/1280x852/media/img/mt/2024/01/Cutting_ties_final/original.jpg 1280w, https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/pLjIwHZG-AP8HAaIzizdWBexsoM=/387x0:4570x2785/1396x930/media/img/mt/2024/01/Cutting_ties_final/original.jpg 1396w, https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/eS---dWfJkRvM3LvDkQWBJ--aBY=/387x0:4570x2785/1480x985/media/img/mt/2024/01/Cutting_ties_final/original.jpg 1480w" src="https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/mzBvw43gfV4MWo225YyYMcfAiCg=/387x0:4570x2785/416x277/media/img/mt/2024/01/Cutting_ties_final/original.jpg" width="416" height="277"/></picture></a><figcaption class="ProjectGrid_attribution__J6t_U"><span>Bianca Bagnarelli</span></figcaption></figure><div class="ProjectGrid_copy__uDBOA"><h2 class="ProjectGrid_hed___QZPV"><a data-event-element="title" href="https://www.theatlantic.com/family/archive/2024/01/ex-husband-daughter-strained-relationship/677247/" class="ProjectGrid_link__Y0YMC">Dear Therapist: My Daughter Tried to Confront My Ex-husband’s New Wife</a></h2><div class="ProjectGrid_dek__oLwxO"><span>Now he has cut her off and expects an apology.</span></div><div class="ProjectGrid_authors__VyKeP"><a data-event-element="author" class="ProjectGrid_link__Y0YMC" href="https://www.theatlantic.com/author/lori-gottlieb/">Lori Gottlieb</a></div><time class="ProjectGrid_time__laZaC" dateTime="2024-01-29T11:30:00Z">January 29, 2024</time></div></article></div><div class="ProjectGrid_li__NnOLw"><article data-event-position="13" class="ProjectGrid_article__coS6b"><figure class="ProjectGrid_figure__C_rxH"><a data-event-element="image" href="https://www.theatlantic.com/family/archive/2023/12/does-my-boyfriend-still-love-his-ex/676929/"><picture class="ProjectGrid_picture__km9UT"><img alt="An illustration of trapeze artists and a woman on a platform." loading="lazy" class="Image_root__XxsOp Image_lazy__hYWHV" sizes="(min-width: 1440px) 416px, (min-width: 1024px) calc(33.3vw - 64px), (min-width: 768px) 360px, calc(100vw - 32px)" srcSet="https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/gmtYunqhmvb_GH5qN8DxoKU1b3c=/387x0:4570x2785/360x240/media/img/mt/2023/12/Im_Worried_My_Boyfriend_Still_Has_Feelings_for_His_Ex_final_B/original.jpg 360w, https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/lpKJ-rnmQKA7QrEXbFcVCG_iGy0=/387x0:4570x2785/416x277/media/img/mt/2023/12/Im_Worried_My_Boyfriend_Still_Has_Feelings_for_His_Ex_final_B/original.jpg 416w, https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/lQPXsLcOOochZ3xaqDlfDkJW7fw=/387x0:4570x2785/720x479/media/img/mt/2023/12/Im_Worried_My_Boyfriend_Still_Has_Feelings_for_His_Ex_final_B/original.jpg 720w, https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/sWlT0KFqS_VlYuGNg4oqzgF3M_0=/387x0:4570x2785/832x554/media/img/mt/2023/12/Im_Worried_My_Boyfriend_Still_Has_Feelings_for_His_Ex_final_B/original.jpg 832w, https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/YsMp_l_McbmR1dIetKnszuVwU5g=/387x0:4570x2785/1024x682/media/img/mt/2023/12/Im_Worried_My_Boyfriend_Still_Has_Feelings_for_His_Ex_final_B/original.jpg 1024w, https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/b9iIWyivSezE0IM4bB_A1hPFkF0=/387x0:4570x2785/1280x852/media/img/mt/2023/12/Im_Worried_My_Boyfriend_Still_Has_Feelings_for_His_Ex_final_B/original.jpg 1280w, https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/0IJCu-iOBAWKGfMadp4v2cI-Yd8=/387x0:4570x2785/1396x930/media/img/mt/2023/12/Im_Worried_My_Boyfriend_Still_Has_Feelings_for_His_Ex_final_B/original.jpg 1396w, https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/NtQydzLEO6-YBFQZRy4HwfvGXAI=/387x0:4570x2785/1480x985/media/img/mt/2023/12/Im_Worried_My_Boyfriend_Still_Has_Feelings_for_His_Ex_final_B/original.jpg 1480w" src="https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/lpKJ-rnmQKA7QrEXbFcVCG_iGy0=/387x0:4570x2785/416x277/media/img/mt/2023/12/Im_Worried_My_Boyfriend_Still_Has_Feelings_for_His_Ex_final_B/original.jpg" width="416" height="277"/></picture></a><figcaption class="ProjectGrid_attribution__J6t_U"><span>Bianca Bagnarelli</span></figcaption></figure><div class="ProjectGrid_copy__uDBOA"><h2 class="ProjectGrid_hed___QZPV"><a data-event-element="title" href="https://www.theatlantic.com/family/archive/2023/12/does-my-boyfriend-still-love-his-ex/676929/" class="ProjectGrid_link__Y0YMC">Dear Therapist: How Do I Talk to My Boyfriend About His Ex?</a></h2><div class="ProjectGrid_dek__oLwxO"><span>I think he may still have feelings for her.</span></div><div class="ProjectGrid_authors__VyKeP"><a data-event-element="author" class="ProjectGrid_link__Y0YMC" href="https://www.theatlantic.com/author/lori-gottlieb/">Lori Gottlieb</a></div><time class="ProjectGrid_time__laZaC" dateTime="2023-12-25T11:30:00Z">December 25, 2023</time></div></article></div><div class="ProjectGrid_li__NnOLw"><article data-event-position="14" class="ProjectGrid_article__coS6b"><figure class="ProjectGrid_figure__C_rxH"><a data-event-element="image" href="https://www.theatlantic.com/family/archive/2023/11/not-spending-christmas-holiday-with-family-mom/676055/"><picture class="ProjectGrid_picture__km9UT"><img alt="An illustration of a grandmother with her daughter and granddaughter surrounded by gift boxes" loading="lazy" class="Image_root__XxsOp Image_lazy__hYWHV" sizes="(min-width: 1440px) 416px, (min-width: 1024px) calc(33.3vw - 64px), (min-width: 768px) 360px, calc(100vw - 32px)" srcSet="https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/5V3ZbOI3VnY3-eS6_wwGxp5jcLI=/387x0:4570x2785/360x240/media/img/mt/2023/11/boundary_with_my_mom_at_Christmas_final_1/original.jpg 360w, https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/LgdQtheL4tjv23xJwbHeri_pDLc=/387x0:4570x2785/416x277/media/img/mt/2023/11/boundary_with_my_mom_at_Christmas_final_1/original.jpg 416w, https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/c86JmFyo5Iqm0aXJ0tsxv1jtuw4=/387x0:4570x2785/720x479/media/img/mt/2023/11/boundary_with_my_mom_at_Christmas_final_1/original.jpg 720w, https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/Llj9LtNBvqAdSlumN0IZ6ZrHZ6w=/387x0:4570x2785/832x554/media/img/mt/2023/11/boundary_with_my_mom_at_Christmas_final_1/original.jpg 832w, https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/uauetfxxnQzmOm8yuIu70Oqu-TM=/387x0:4570x2785/1024x682/media/img/mt/2023/11/boundary_with_my_mom_at_Christmas_final_1/original.jpg 1024w, https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/72ShZKL4n6-2PUb-sKPbMaSuMHM=/387x0:4570x2785/1280x852/media/img/mt/2023/11/boundary_with_my_mom_at_Christmas_final_1/original.jpg 1280w, https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/kgBNlTvcdUhppTW2qDeOsJbp2kc=/387x0:4570x2785/1396x930/media/img/mt/2023/11/boundary_with_my_mom_at_Christmas_final_1/original.jpg 1396w, https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/lRUDFWD_r7KPzbnqkd41yJ82xQ8=/387x0:4570x2785/1480x985/media/img/mt/2023/11/boundary_with_my_mom_at_Christmas_final_1/original.jpg 1480w" src="https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/LgdQtheL4tjv23xJwbHeri_pDLc=/387x0:4570x2785/416x277/media/img/mt/2023/11/boundary_with_my_mom_at_Christmas_final_1/original.jpg" width="416" height="277"/></picture></a><figcaption class="ProjectGrid_attribution__J6t_U"><span>Bianca Bagnarelli</span></figcaption></figure><div class="ProjectGrid_copy__uDBOA"><h2 class="ProjectGrid_hed___QZPV"><a data-event-element="title" href="https://www.theatlantic.com/family/archive/2023/11/not-spending-christmas-holiday-with-family-mom/676055/" class="ProjectGrid_link__Y0YMC">Dear Therapist: I Don’t Want to See My Mom This Christmas</a></h2><div class="ProjectGrid_dek__oLwxO"><span>She ruins the day, but guilt-trips me when I try to opt out.</span></div><div class="ProjectGrid_authors__VyKeP"><a data-event-element="author" class="ProjectGrid_link__Y0YMC" href="https://www.theatlantic.com/author/lori-gottlieb/">Lori Gottlieb</a></div><time class="ProjectGrid_time__laZaC" dateTime="2023-11-27T11:30:00Z">November 27, 2023</time></div></article></div><gpt-ad class="GptAd_root__pAvcS Injector_root__U1KQn Injector_shaded__u8fiA Injector_noBorder__IzK3j ProjectGrid_li__NnOLw ProjectGrid_ad__QBJU8" format="injector" sizes-at-0="mobile-wide" targeting-pos="boxinjector-3" sizes-at-976="desktop-wide"></gpt-ad><div class="ProjectGrid_li__NnOLw"><article data-event-position="15" class="ProjectGrid_article__coS6b"><figure class="ProjectGrid_figure__C_rxH"><a data-event-element="image" href="https://www.theatlantic.com/family/archive/2023/10/mother-marrying-abuser-family-relationship/675782/"><picture class="ProjectGrid_picture__km9UT"><img alt="a woman holding her mother's tattered wedding train as she walks off with a man in a suit" loading="lazy" class="Image_root__XxsOp Image_lazy__hYWHV" sizes="(min-width: 1440px) 416px, (min-width: 1024px) calc(33.3vw - 64px), (min-width: 768px) 360px, calc(100vw - 32px)" srcSet="https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/9zGLpoyAmW4_8VahiZ5L7Z77TCE=/82x390:1920x1614/360x240/media/img/mt/2023/10/My_Mother_Is_Marrying_Her_Abuser_final/original.png 360w, https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/W_9ekINp1Py-Ttu-AoyBGdrMSd4=/82x390:1920x1614/416x277/media/img/mt/2023/10/My_Mother_Is_Marrying_Her_Abuser_final/original.png 416w, https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/GpGGrsSY1Plby65vOqhAezTANvQ=/82x390:1920x1614/720x479/media/img/mt/2023/10/My_Mother_Is_Marrying_Her_Abuser_final/original.png 720w, https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/CWNVVHAuJQriuCLRfcPyFLf0_vU=/82x390:1920x1614/832x554/media/img/mt/2023/10/My_Mother_Is_Marrying_Her_Abuser_final/original.png 832w, https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/qnS0RsM9E-wiNirj_85C7VVi2J4=/82x390:1920x1614/1024x682/media/img/mt/2023/10/My_Mother_Is_Marrying_Her_Abuser_final/original.png 1024w, https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/BhATt0hb9QBDvWVP3O7lgzBJjVg=/82x390:1920x1614/1280x852/media/img/mt/2023/10/My_Mother_Is_Marrying_Her_Abuser_final/original.png 1280w, https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/y9SFPys3AVKtIf7xaWRdhkJWHk4=/82x390:1920x1614/1396x930/media/img/mt/2023/10/My_Mother_Is_Marrying_Her_Abuser_final/original.png 1396w, https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/8_lE8pVQAKnWQoKfeCAEw6htjac=/82x390:1920x1614/1480x985/media/img/mt/2023/10/My_Mother_Is_Marrying_Her_Abuser_final/original.png 1480w" src="https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/W_9ekINp1Py-Ttu-AoyBGdrMSd4=/82x390:1920x1614/416x277/media/img/mt/2023/10/My_Mother_Is_Marrying_Her_Abuser_final/original.png" width="416" height="277"/></picture></a><figcaption class="ProjectGrid_attribution__J6t_U"><span>Illustration by Bianca Bagnarelli</span></figcaption></figure><div class="ProjectGrid_copy__uDBOA"><h2 class="ProjectGrid_hed___QZPV"><a data-event-element="title" href="https://www.theatlantic.com/family/archive/2023/10/mother-marrying-abuser-family-relationship/675782/" class="ProjectGrid_link__Y0YMC">Dear Therapist: I Cannot Support My Mother’s Marriage</a></h2><div class="ProjectGrid_dek__oLwxO"><span>Her soon-to-be husband abused her and traumatized me.</span></div><div class="ProjectGrid_authors__VyKeP"><a data-event-element="author" class="ProjectGrid_link__Y0YMC" href="https://www.theatlantic.com/author/lori-gottlieb/">Lori Gottlieb</a></div><time class="ProjectGrid_time__laZaC" dateTime="2023-10-30T11:30:00Z">October 30, 2023</time></div></article></div><div class="ProjectGrid_li__NnOLw"><article data-event-position="16" class="ProjectGrid_article__coS6b"><figure class="ProjectGrid_figure__C_rxH"><a data-event-element="image" href="https://www.theatlantic.com/family/archive/2023/09/incarcerated-brother-sibling-relationship-advice/675414/"><picture class="ProjectGrid_picture__km9UT"><img alt="one person in a building block house, while another sits out, and the house is being built by a woman" loading="lazy" class="Image_root__XxsOp Image_lazy__hYWHV" sizes="(min-width: 1440px) 416px, (min-width: 1024px) calc(33.3vw - 64px), (min-width: 768px) 360px, calc(100vw - 32px)" srcSet="https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/V2pNOY0pgbgancdsDTjZFltwSqs=/432x0:5185x3165/360x240/media/img/mt/2023/09/dear_therapist_incarcerated_brother/original.jpg 360w, https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/5l93b0o4zh53tgv-BdrfzAhVV5M=/432x0:5185x3165/416x277/media/img/mt/2023/09/dear_therapist_incarcerated_brother/original.jpg 416w, https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/x6q2Jco3uqJzllgf16y8BHntNC8=/432x0:5185x3165/720x479/media/img/mt/2023/09/dear_therapist_incarcerated_brother/original.jpg 720w, https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/zkSTLZFTlRYdkwl0NGF6n4HLy64=/432x0:5185x3165/832x554/media/img/mt/2023/09/dear_therapist_incarcerated_brother/original.jpg 832w, https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/BvmSSfk5E2Ef9m6Fi7ox1l9sGt8=/432x0:5185x3165/1024x682/media/img/mt/2023/09/dear_therapist_incarcerated_brother/original.jpg 1024w, https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/GsUYTNOhX4zCo5VSklfd4QfVuuM=/432x0:5185x3165/1280x852/media/img/mt/2023/09/dear_therapist_incarcerated_brother/original.jpg 1280w, https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/gsF0BD3PVMPrIHQZhICEAalc9Zs=/432x0:5185x3165/1396x930/media/img/mt/2023/09/dear_therapist_incarcerated_brother/original.jpg 1396w, https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/oz8BJn4UMJQ2t9w2Xo9rsV5pTgk=/432x0:5185x3165/1480x985/media/img/mt/2023/09/dear_therapist_incarcerated_brother/original.jpg 1480w" src="https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/5l93b0o4zh53tgv-BdrfzAhVV5M=/432x0:5185x3165/416x277/media/img/mt/2023/09/dear_therapist_incarcerated_brother/original.jpg" width="416" height="277"/></picture></a><figcaption class="ProjectGrid_attribution__J6t_U"><span>Illustration by Bianca Bagnarelli</span></figcaption></figure><div class="ProjectGrid_copy__uDBOA"><h2 class="ProjectGrid_hed___QZPV"><a data-event-element="title" href="https://www.theatlantic.com/family/archive/2023/09/incarcerated-brother-sibling-relationship-advice/675414/" class="ProjectGrid_link__Y0YMC">Dear Therapist: My Mother Is Rewarding My Brother’s Bad Behavior</a></h2><div class="ProjectGrid_dek__oLwxO"><span>I feel like she’s ignoring his mistakes by leaving him a substantial inheritance.</span></div><div class="ProjectGrid_authors__VyKeP"><a data-event-element="author" class="ProjectGrid_link__Y0YMC" href="https://www.theatlantic.com/author/lori-gottlieb/">Lori Gottlieb</a></div><time class="ProjectGrid_time__laZaC" dateTime="2023-09-25T11:30:00Z">September 25, 2023</time></div></article></div><div class="ProjectGrid_li__NnOLw"><article data-event-position="17" class="ProjectGrid_article__coS6b"><figure class="ProjectGrid_figure__C_rxH"><a data-event-element="image" href="https://www.theatlantic.com/family/archive/2023/08/caring-for-alcoholic-parent-advice/675140/"><picture class="ProjectGrid_picture__km9UT"><img alt="An illustration of a grandmother in a liquor glass" loading="lazy" class="Image_root__XxsOp Image_lazy__hYWHV" sizes="(min-width: 1440px) 416px, (min-width: 1024px) calc(33.3vw - 64px), (min-width: 768px) 360px, calc(100vw - 32px)" srcSet="https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/T7z8aSAE0Xe2jDxOsoo4xW0lOgk=/387x0:4570x2785/360x240/media/img/mt/2023/08/I_Feel_Tremendously_Guilty_for_Not_Taking_Care_of_My_Aging_Alcoholic_Mother_final/original.jpg 360w, https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/XKAktqw1S--px-c1pIUTuLf8HeE=/387x0:4570x2785/416x277/media/img/mt/2023/08/I_Feel_Tremendously_Guilty_for_Not_Taking_Care_of_My_Aging_Alcoholic_Mother_final/original.jpg 416w, https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/GjpbaiCBp5yHrvaqkorIlsqyIPg=/387x0:4570x2785/720x479/media/img/mt/2023/08/I_Feel_Tremendously_Guilty_for_Not_Taking_Care_of_My_Aging_Alcoholic_Mother_final/original.jpg 720w, https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/iHquQHBXeizjPome-sgbFSGmDHE=/387x0:4570x2785/832x554/media/img/mt/2023/08/I_Feel_Tremendously_Guilty_for_Not_Taking_Care_of_My_Aging_Alcoholic_Mother_final/original.jpg 832w, https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/yoSLSIdzo1NxHom4W1ANYuokfp4=/387x0:4570x2785/1024x682/media/img/mt/2023/08/I_Feel_Tremendously_Guilty_for_Not_Taking_Care_of_My_Aging_Alcoholic_Mother_final/original.jpg 1024w, https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/bwXZiSi9cP49jlYc962Hkgwhm6A=/387x0:4570x2785/1280x852/media/img/mt/2023/08/I_Feel_Tremendously_Guilty_for_Not_Taking_Care_of_My_Aging_Alcoholic_Mother_final/original.jpg 1280w, https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/4vPqM23Bv3S3B7OqsAJbhwne2z0=/387x0:4570x2785/1396x930/media/img/mt/2023/08/I_Feel_Tremendously_Guilty_for_Not_Taking_Care_of_My_Aging_Alcoholic_Mother_final/original.jpg 1396w, https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/bLnYnVzB4_62t24aGgtUJe496cs=/387x0:4570x2785/1480x985/media/img/mt/2023/08/I_Feel_Tremendously_Guilty_for_Not_Taking_Care_of_My_Aging_Alcoholic_Mother_final/original.jpg 1480w" src="https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/XKAktqw1S--px-c1pIUTuLf8HeE=/387x0:4570x2785/416x277/media/img/mt/2023/08/I_Feel_Tremendously_Guilty_for_Not_Taking_Care_of_My_Aging_Alcoholic_Mother_final/original.jpg" width="416" height="277"/></picture></a><figcaption class="ProjectGrid_attribution__J6t_U"><span>Bianca Bagnarelli</span></figcaption></figure><div class="ProjectGrid_copy__uDBOA"><h2 class="ProjectGrid_hed___QZPV"><a data-event-element="title" href="https://www.theatlantic.com/family/archive/2023/08/caring-for-alcoholic-parent-advice/675140/" class="ProjectGrid_link__Y0YMC">Dear Therapist: I Feel Tremendously Guilty for Not Taking Care of My Aging, Alcoholic Mother</a></h2><div class="ProjectGrid_dek__oLwxO"><span>Distancing myself from her was heart-wrenching. It was also the healthiest choice.</span></div><div class="ProjectGrid_authors__VyKeP"><a data-event-element="author" class="ProjectGrid_link__Y0YMC" href="https://www.theatlantic.com/author/lori-gottlieb/">Lori Gottlieb</a></div><time class="ProjectGrid_time__laZaC" dateTime="2023-08-28T11:30:00Z">August 28, 2023</time></div></article></div><div class="ProjectGrid_li__NnOLw"><article data-event-position="18" class="ProjectGrid_article__coS6b"><figure class="ProjectGrid_figure__C_rxH"><a data-event-element="image" href="https://www.theatlantic.com/family/archive/2023/07/husband-best-friend-relationship-advice-trust/674858/"><picture class="ProjectGrid_picture__km9UT"><img alt="An illustration of a husband and wife in bed with a plantlike person between them, cuddling the husband" loading="lazy" class="Image_root__XxsOp Image_lazy__hYWHV" sizes="(min-width: 1440px) 416px, (min-width: 1024px) calc(33.3vw - 64px), (min-width: 768px) 360px, calc(100vw - 32px)" srcSet="https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/GIUTIZubBkUvn_yNE7D-9VBBr3k=/387x0:4570x2785/360x240/media/img/mt/2023/07/My_Husband_Used_to_Sleep_With_His_Male_Best_Friend_final/original.jpg 360w, https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/9xTQ4xwChfuOiVN6Bn6U6nWT8uM=/387x0:4570x2785/416x277/media/img/mt/2023/07/My_Husband_Used_to_Sleep_With_His_Male_Best_Friend_final/original.jpg 416w, https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/jfg4ecXLOdpYkduLKfgXYldrRc4=/387x0:4570x2785/720x479/media/img/mt/2023/07/My_Husband_Used_to_Sleep_With_His_Male_Best_Friend_final/original.jpg 720w, https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/_iRExPS1iT-NIgyTRGyGZCupSHg=/387x0:4570x2785/832x554/media/img/mt/2023/07/My_Husband_Used_to_Sleep_With_His_Male_Best_Friend_final/original.jpg 832w, https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/KWKBIdp3m6P2NanHX2E3fls7Gsw=/387x0:4570x2785/1024x682/media/img/mt/2023/07/My_Husband_Used_to_Sleep_With_His_Male_Best_Friend_final/original.jpg 1024w, https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/j4BV4s20cseyHqnE_x2MLItevgA=/387x0:4570x2785/1280x852/media/img/mt/2023/07/My_Husband_Used_to_Sleep_With_His_Male_Best_Friend_final/original.jpg 1280w, https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/iKqiBy5KPzJh2TJp59xrqdnX7os=/387x0:4570x2785/1396x930/media/img/mt/2023/07/My_Husband_Used_to_Sleep_With_His_Male_Best_Friend_final/original.jpg 1396w, https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/QOC-T_ueFbgBMFMeIV9bqNP3KS8=/387x0:4570x2785/1480x985/media/img/mt/2023/07/My_Husband_Used_to_Sleep_With_His_Male_Best_Friend_final/original.jpg 1480w" src="https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/9xTQ4xwChfuOiVN6Bn6U6nWT8uM=/387x0:4570x2785/416x277/media/img/mt/2023/07/My_Husband_Used_to_Sleep_With_His_Male_Best_Friend_final/original.jpg" width="416" height="277"/></picture></a><figcaption class="ProjectGrid_attribution__J6t_U"><span>Illustration by Bianca Bagnarelli</span></figcaption></figure><div class="ProjectGrid_copy__uDBOA"><h2 class="ProjectGrid_hed___QZPV"><a data-event-element="title" href="https://www.theatlantic.com/family/archive/2023/07/husband-best-friend-relationship-advice-trust/674858/" class="ProjectGrid_link__Y0YMC">Dear Therapist: My Husband Had a Relationship With His Best Friend</a></h2><div class="ProjectGrid_dek__oLwxO"><span>The man he says is “like a brother” to him turns out to have been more than that.</span></div><div class="ProjectGrid_authors__VyKeP"><a data-event-element="author" class="ProjectGrid_link__Y0YMC" href="https://www.theatlantic.com/author/lori-gottlieb/">Lori Gottlieb</a></div><time class="ProjectGrid_time__laZaC" dateTime="2023-07-31T11:30:00Z">July 31, 2023</time></div></article></div><div class="ProjectGrid_li__NnOLw"><article data-event-position="19" class="ProjectGrid_article__coS6b"><figure class="ProjectGrid_figure__C_rxH"><a data-event-element="image" href="https://www.theatlantic.com/family/archive/2023/06/long-standing-friendships-value-assumptions/674486/"><picture class="ProjectGrid_picture__km9UT"><img alt="Two women walking, leaving a third woman behind" loading="lazy" class="Image_root__XxsOp Image_lazy__hYWHV" sizes="(min-width: 1440px) 416px, (min-width: 1024px) calc(33.3vw - 64px), (min-width: 768px) 360px, calc(100vw - 32px)" srcSet="https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/yGPW9zUBXiPrkQjBeupNEyDf2KU=/387x0:4570x2785/360x240/media/img/mt/2023/06/My_Childhood_Friends_Seem_to_Not_Want_to_Be_Friends_Anymore_final/original.jpg 360w, https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/Kop-_Q_22ASlJ1uboC5AQM3MMlQ=/387x0:4570x2785/416x277/media/img/mt/2023/06/My_Childhood_Friends_Seem_to_Not_Want_to_Be_Friends_Anymore_final/original.jpg 416w, https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/Jcej7QSUg81DjN_yXpPZovXQ3BI=/387x0:4570x2785/720x479/media/img/mt/2023/06/My_Childhood_Friends_Seem_to_Not_Want_to_Be_Friends_Anymore_final/original.jpg 720w, https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/HQACnc_qdN27_QOhvCImDCJ5Dl8=/387x0:4570x2785/832x554/media/img/mt/2023/06/My_Childhood_Friends_Seem_to_Not_Want_to_Be_Friends_Anymore_final/original.jpg 832w, https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/tHxih7rAwrWPhU9loc0CxHCXCJg=/387x0:4570x2785/1024x682/media/img/mt/2023/06/My_Childhood_Friends_Seem_to_Not_Want_to_Be_Friends_Anymore_final/original.jpg 1024w, https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/4dYfocMicxAuyq_ox_PYS5whWXA=/387x0:4570x2785/1280x852/media/img/mt/2023/06/My_Childhood_Friends_Seem_to_Not_Want_to_Be_Friends_Anymore_final/original.jpg 1280w, https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/ldZ9PmCxIjz-yDj31qOpDiNPzG0=/387x0:4570x2785/1396x930/media/img/mt/2023/06/My_Childhood_Friends_Seem_to_Not_Want_to_Be_Friends_Anymore_final/original.jpg 1396w, https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/8YKCuQzdSxCLhSuJ3Q488QN179w=/387x0:4570x2785/1480x985/media/img/mt/2023/06/My_Childhood_Friends_Seem_to_Not_Want_to_Be_Friends_Anymore_final/original.jpg 1480w" src="https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/Kop-_Q_22ASlJ1uboC5AQM3MMlQ=/387x0:4570x2785/416x277/media/img/mt/2023/06/My_Childhood_Friends_Seem_to_Not_Want_to_Be_Friends_Anymore_final/original.jpg" width="416" height="277"/></picture></a><figcaption class="ProjectGrid_attribution__J6t_U"><span>Bianca Bagnarelli</span></figcaption></figure><div class="ProjectGrid_copy__uDBOA"><h2 class="ProjectGrid_hed___QZPV"><a data-event-element="title" href="https://www.theatlantic.com/family/archive/2023/06/long-standing-friendships-value-assumptions/674486/" class="ProjectGrid_link__Y0YMC">Dear Therapist: I’ve Been Dumped by My Friends</a></h2><div class="ProjectGrid_dek__oLwxO"><span>I thought our shared history would keep us close, but it hasn’t.</span></div><div class="ProjectGrid_authors__VyKeP"><a data-event-element="author" class="ProjectGrid_link__Y0YMC" href="https://www.theatlantic.com/author/lori-gottlieb/">Lori Gottlieb</a></div><time class="ProjectGrid_time__laZaC" dateTime="2023-06-26T11:30:00Z">June 26, 2023</time></div></article></div><div class="ProjectGrid_li__NnOLw"><article data-event-position="20" class="ProjectGrid_article__coS6b"><figure class="ProjectGrid_figure__C_rxH"><a data-event-element="image" href="https://www.theatlantic.com/family/archive/2023/05/parent-does-not-like-boyfriend-advice/674194/"><picture class="ProjectGrid_picture__km9UT"><img alt="An illustration of a couple sitting at a table with a mother's eye peeking through a window." loading="lazy" class="Image_root__XxsOp Image_lazy__hYWHV" sizes="(min-width: 1440px) 416px, (min-width: 1024px) calc(33.3vw - 64px), (min-width: 768px) 360px, calc(100vw - 32px)" srcSet="https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/6yHW5ukIdLTeWq-P-OgESEO2n6A=/387x0:4570x2785/360x240/media/img/mt/2023/05/My_Stepdaughter_Needs_to_Dump_Her_Dead_End_Boyfriend_final/original.jpg 360w, https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/-0MvGm0YOpVio-Q2moWp9ULkQtc=/387x0:4570x2785/416x277/media/img/mt/2023/05/My_Stepdaughter_Needs_to_Dump_Her_Dead_End_Boyfriend_final/original.jpg 416w, https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/hipRHxxiFzIYWc225x56D5o5FCk=/387x0:4570x2785/720x479/media/img/mt/2023/05/My_Stepdaughter_Needs_to_Dump_Her_Dead_End_Boyfriend_final/original.jpg 720w, https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/uwXlJ96J6WS1gigzAUN-usYv0uU=/387x0:4570x2785/832x554/media/img/mt/2023/05/My_Stepdaughter_Needs_to_Dump_Her_Dead_End_Boyfriend_final/original.jpg 832w, https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/RzEmhy8rkgIbLhAAvh31D20kmgc=/387x0:4570x2785/1024x682/media/img/mt/2023/05/My_Stepdaughter_Needs_to_Dump_Her_Dead_End_Boyfriend_final/original.jpg 1024w, https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/Mx0qjMms3h8PKsFHtguBRZpKELQ=/387x0:4570x2785/1280x852/media/img/mt/2023/05/My_Stepdaughter_Needs_to_Dump_Her_Dead_End_Boyfriend_final/original.jpg 1280w, https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/kQSFBABaJiQyCPe1Gx4xYtBQN6k=/387x0:4570x2785/1396x930/media/img/mt/2023/05/My_Stepdaughter_Needs_to_Dump_Her_Dead_End_Boyfriend_final/original.jpg 1396w, https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/1tBJIGcQyRwVsHNe515l_r7bExk=/387x0:4570x2785/1480x985/media/img/mt/2023/05/My_Stepdaughter_Needs_to_Dump_Her_Dead_End_Boyfriend_final/original.jpg 1480w" src="https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/-0MvGm0YOpVio-Q2moWp9ULkQtc=/387x0:4570x2785/416x277/media/img/mt/2023/05/My_Stepdaughter_Needs_to_Dump_Her_Dead_End_Boyfriend_final/original.jpg" width="416" height="277"/></picture></a><figcaption class="ProjectGrid_attribution__J6t_U"><span>Bianca Bagnarelli</span></figcaption></figure><div class="ProjectGrid_copy__uDBOA"><h2 class="ProjectGrid_hed___QZPV"><a data-event-element="title" href="https://www.theatlantic.com/family/archive/2023/05/parent-does-not-like-boyfriend-advice/674194/" class="ProjectGrid_link__Y0YMC">Dear Therapist: How Can I Get My Stepdaughter to Dump Her Dead-End Boyfriend?</a></h2><div class="ProjectGrid_dek__oLwxO"><span>He doesn’t seem willing to commit, and she needs to move on.</span></div><div class="ProjectGrid_authors__VyKeP"><a data-event-element="author" class="ProjectGrid_link__Y0YMC" href="https://www.theatlantic.com/author/lori-gottlieb/">Lori Gottlieb</a></div><time class="ProjectGrid_time__laZaC" dateTime="2023-05-29T11:30:00Z">May 29, 2023</time></div></article></div><gpt-ad class="GptAd_root__pAvcS Injector_root__U1KQn Injector_shaded__u8fiA Injector_noBorder__IzK3j ProjectGrid_li__NnOLw ProjectGrid_ad__QBJU8" format="injector" sizes-at-0="mobile-wide" targeting-pos="boxinjector-4" sizes-at-976="desktop-wide"></gpt-ad><div class="ProjectGrid_li__NnOLw"><article data-event-position="21" class="ProjectGrid_article__coS6b"><figure class="ProjectGrid_figure__C_rxH"><a data-event-element="image" href="https://www.theatlantic.com/family/archive/2023/04/partner-financial-insecurity-debt-concerns-communication/673801/"><picture class="ProjectGrid_picture__km9UT"><img alt="An illustration of a boyfriend and girlfriend rowing a boat against a waterfall" loading="lazy" class="Image_root__XxsOp Image_lazy__hYWHV" sizes="(min-width: 1440px) 416px, (min-width: 1024px) calc(33.3vw - 64px), (min-width: 768px) 360px, calc(100vw - 32px)" srcSet="https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/xDHTK1xLlyTOiznWJiSPo5OpAu4=/387x0:4570x2785/360x240/media/img/mt/2023/04/Debt_final/original.jpg 360w, https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/Gt0uQx8Iitws132fLL2tRuexlbE=/387x0:4570x2785/416x277/media/img/mt/2023/04/Debt_final/original.jpg 416w, https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/M2FA7HOL6kUBh6KfmOhtJIfg4kA=/387x0:4570x2785/720x479/media/img/mt/2023/04/Debt_final/original.jpg 720w, https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/dGFgru9VhPNbxma9eqwsShO1f-Y=/387x0:4570x2785/832x554/media/img/mt/2023/04/Debt_final/original.jpg 832w, https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/ZoJwAztU053XzN6Osqf5cpQsD_8=/387x0:4570x2785/1024x682/media/img/mt/2023/04/Debt_final/original.jpg 1024w, https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/keovNwXGDqBuPt_KqYsK8A4KiYY=/387x0:4570x2785/1280x852/media/img/mt/2023/04/Debt_final/original.jpg 1280w, https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/H2vdhnhV90o1ykURTRtsjR9lXRE=/387x0:4570x2785/1396x930/media/img/mt/2023/04/Debt_final/original.jpg 1396w, https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/4iE33xtCFpCUw46Gw2BzLfSkjLg=/387x0:4570x2785/1480x985/media/img/mt/2023/04/Debt_final/original.jpg 1480w" src="https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/Gt0uQx8Iitws132fLL2tRuexlbE=/387x0:4570x2785/416x277/media/img/mt/2023/04/Debt_final/original.jpg" width="416" height="277"/></picture></a><figcaption class="ProjectGrid_attribution__J6t_U"><span>Bianca Bagnarelli</span></figcaption></figure><div class="ProjectGrid_copy__uDBOA"><h2 class="ProjectGrid_hed___QZPV"><a data-event-element="title" href="https://www.theatlantic.com/family/archive/2023/04/partner-financial-insecurity-debt-concerns-communication/673801/" class="ProjectGrid_link__Y0YMC">Dear Therapist: I Won’t Marry Someone With a Mountain of Debt</a></h2><div class="ProjectGrid_dek__oLwxO"><span>After learning the full scope of my boyfriend’s finances, I don’t know if I should continue the relationship.</span></div><div class="ProjectGrid_authors__VyKeP"><a data-event-element="author" class="ProjectGrid_link__Y0YMC" href="https://www.theatlantic.com/author/lori-gottlieb/">Lori Gottlieb</a></div><time class="ProjectGrid_time__laZaC" dateTime="2023-04-24T11:00:00Z">April 24, 2023</time></div></article></div><div class="ProjectGrid_li__NnOLw"><article data-event-position="22" class="ProjectGrid_article__coS6b"><figure class="ProjectGrid_figure__C_rxH"><a data-event-element="image" href="https://www.theatlantic.com/family/archive/2023/03/couple-talking-about-marriage-too-soon/673515/"><picture class="ProjectGrid_picture__km9UT"><img alt="An illustration of a man sitting on a tearaway calendar and a woman trying to hang on to it" loading="lazy" class="Image_root__XxsOp Image_lazy__hYWHV" sizes="(min-width: 1440px) 416px, (min-width: 1024px) calc(33.3vw - 64px), (min-width: 768px) 360px, calc(100vw - 32px)" srcSet="https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/9zNbI1oXAPl5A1hydxrXmvosqWM=/444x0:5323x3249/360x240/media/img/mt/2023/03/Am_I_wasting_my_time_final/original.jpg 360w, https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/ofjCcp3yR655f3LlgRbbU3AjOUw=/444x0:5323x3249/416x277/media/img/mt/2023/03/Am_I_wasting_my_time_final/original.jpg 416w, https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/FNlhxHM73b6KTLfc4HFf1w1n6e0=/444x0:5323x3249/720x479/media/img/mt/2023/03/Am_I_wasting_my_time_final/original.jpg 720w, https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/d51Bla4VoAcaLC-y3QAVv1Xkf4E=/444x0:5323x3249/832x554/media/img/mt/2023/03/Am_I_wasting_my_time_final/original.jpg 832w, https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/oLMJdt9mWVqwbvL9WyG5U8ho1OM=/444x0:5323x3249/1024x682/media/img/mt/2023/03/Am_I_wasting_my_time_final/original.jpg 1024w, https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/8lhqksBhY7klpGn9UyvR_964bCU=/444x0:5323x3249/1280x852/media/img/mt/2023/03/Am_I_wasting_my_time_final/original.jpg 1280w, https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/EEhNcEh7dcRQyHsBgwW6SRQ4GLA=/444x0:5323x3249/1396x930/media/img/mt/2023/03/Am_I_wasting_my_time_final/original.jpg 1396w, https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/LjSSrB2hG37aft2aGjqG3aobGR8=/444x0:5323x3249/1480x985/media/img/mt/2023/03/Am_I_wasting_my_time_final/original.jpg 1480w" src="https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/ofjCcp3yR655f3LlgRbbU3AjOUw=/444x0:5323x3249/416x277/media/img/mt/2023/03/Am_I_wasting_my_time_final/original.jpg" width="416" height="277"/></picture></a><figcaption class="ProjectGrid_attribution__J6t_U"><span>Bianca Bagnarelli</span></figcaption></figure><div class="ProjectGrid_copy__uDBOA"><h2 class="ProjectGrid_hed___QZPV"><a data-event-element="title" href="https://www.theatlantic.com/family/archive/2023/03/couple-talking-about-marriage-too-soon/673515/" class="ProjectGrid_link__Y0YMC">Dear Therapist: We Set a Deadline to Decide About Marriage, and We Still Don’t Know</a></h2><div class="ProjectGrid_dek__oLwxO"><span>It’s been almost two years; am I wasting my time?</span></div><div class="ProjectGrid_authors__VyKeP"><a data-event-element="author" class="ProjectGrid_link__Y0YMC" href="https://www.theatlantic.com/author/lori-gottlieb/">Lori Gottlieb</a></div><time class="ProjectGrid_time__laZaC" dateTime="2023-03-27T11:30:00Z">March 27, 2023</time></div></article></div><div class="ProjectGrid_li__NnOLw"><article data-event-position="23" class="ProjectGrid_article__coS6b"><figure class="ProjectGrid_figure__C_rxH"><a data-event-element="image" href="https://www.theatlantic.com/family/archive/2023/02/how-to-tell-child-sperm-donor/673194/"><picture class="ProjectGrid_picture__km9UT"><img alt="An illustration of a rewritten family tree." loading="lazy" class="Image_root__XxsOp Image_lazy__hYWHV" sizes="(min-width: 1440px) 416px, (min-width: 1024px) calc(33.3vw - 64px), (min-width: 768px) 360px, calc(100vw - 32px)" srcSet="https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/RJ7Li-SzUxjixW9xA8NNxIsUzKs=/610x0:4793x2785/360x240/media/img/mt/2023/02/secret_final/original.jpg 360w, https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/Zhrl0PHjzG4SzdWxP3fYZ64sLQ4=/610x0:4793x2785/416x277/media/img/mt/2023/02/secret_final/original.jpg 416w, https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/sWbmWt14iTtT4RwZe4FIYOcSv74=/610x0:4793x2785/720x479/media/img/mt/2023/02/secret_final/original.jpg 720w, https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/FbDZIiqw7ShdR8xNpzVCQ50TDAA=/610x0:4793x2785/832x554/media/img/mt/2023/02/secret_final/original.jpg 832w, https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/gu5n8pcPYhVKI1gl1xlZbRGxyg4=/610x0:4793x2785/1024x682/media/img/mt/2023/02/secret_final/original.jpg 1024w, https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/ufqWKlHQNruoVtHS5OV96kEWW_A=/610x0:4793x2785/1280x852/media/img/mt/2023/02/secret_final/original.jpg 1280w, https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/nCwlrHfH6OXDP-ACBlK7XpQj-uk=/610x0:4793x2785/1396x930/media/img/mt/2023/02/secret_final/original.jpg 1396w, https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/5rVdNbLcCGDpwLIeTrQRpWNarqQ=/610x0:4793x2785/1480x985/media/img/mt/2023/02/secret_final/original.jpg 1480w" src="https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/Zhrl0PHjzG4SzdWxP3fYZ64sLQ4=/610x0:4793x2785/416x277/media/img/mt/2023/02/secret_final/original.jpg" width="416" height="277"/></picture></a><figcaption class="ProjectGrid_attribution__J6t_U"><span>Bianca Bagnarelli</span></figcaption></figure><div class="ProjectGrid_copy__uDBOA"><h2 class="ProjectGrid_hed___QZPV"><a data-event-element="title" href="https://www.theatlantic.com/family/archive/2023/02/how-to-tell-child-sperm-donor/673194/" class="ProjectGrid_link__Y0YMC">Dear Therapist: My Daughter’s ‘Brother’ Is Actually Her Father</a></h2><div class="ProjectGrid_dek__oLwxO"><span>After 30 years, I want to tell her the truth, but I don’t know how.</span></div><div class="ProjectGrid_authors__VyKeP"><a data-event-element="author" class="ProjectGrid_link__Y0YMC" href="https://www.theatlantic.com/author/lori-gottlieb/">Lori Gottlieb</a></div><time class="ProjectGrid_time__laZaC" dateTime="2023-02-27T12:00:00Z">February 27, 2023</time></div></article></div><div class="ProjectGrid_li__NnOLw"><article data-event-position="24" class="ProjectGrid_article__coS6b"><figure class="ProjectGrid_figure__C_rxH"><a data-event-element="image" href="https://www.theatlantic.com/family/archive/2023/01/can-you-convince-parent-to-go-to-therapy/672864/"><picture class="ProjectGrid_picture__km9UT"><img alt="Illustration of a mother's legs from behind, facing her daughter, her grandchild, and their therapist" loading="lazy" class="Image_root__XxsOp Image_lazy__hYWHV" sizes="(min-width: 1440px) 416px, (min-width: 1024px) calc(33.3vw - 64px), (min-width: 768px) 360px, calc(100vw - 32px)" srcSet="https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/xXcdVlh_aqZjn84UeRAYenK1mVw=/158x0:4341x2785/360x240/media/img/mt/2023/01/Can_I_Cut_My_Mom_Off_From_My_Children_if_She_Wont_Seek_Therapy_final/original.jpg 360w, https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/RifGF6lS9RCXJHalbnr0kGHxJvw=/158x0:4341x2785/416x277/media/img/mt/2023/01/Can_I_Cut_My_Mom_Off_From_My_Children_if_She_Wont_Seek_Therapy_final/original.jpg 416w, https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/FsdSJ1eiFTX9Z506mEP3bBOJG8A=/158x0:4341x2785/720x479/media/img/mt/2023/01/Can_I_Cut_My_Mom_Off_From_My_Children_if_She_Wont_Seek_Therapy_final/original.jpg 720w, https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/1T7POQn29UpSO1r0_5UfTEOhMJA=/158x0:4341x2785/832x554/media/img/mt/2023/01/Can_I_Cut_My_Mom_Off_From_My_Children_if_She_Wont_Seek_Therapy_final/original.jpg 832w, https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/ae5IEWc1D_Hl0q5y511AUSJIqXY=/158x0:4341x2785/1024x682/media/img/mt/2023/01/Can_I_Cut_My_Mom_Off_From_My_Children_if_She_Wont_Seek_Therapy_final/original.jpg 1024w, https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/t36s0XE37EQHFZn8NFBRp2N8SpA=/158x0:4341x2785/1280x852/media/img/mt/2023/01/Can_I_Cut_My_Mom_Off_From_My_Children_if_She_Wont_Seek_Therapy_final/original.jpg 1280w, https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/9AwsfshNkY8PdwsysnOboGS5YSo=/158x0:4341x2785/1396x930/media/img/mt/2023/01/Can_I_Cut_My_Mom_Off_From_My_Children_if_She_Wont_Seek_Therapy_final/original.jpg 1396w, https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/r54yteGrvtWUmQ5Jwb6ruyHnRqg=/158x0:4341x2785/1480x985/media/img/mt/2023/01/Can_I_Cut_My_Mom_Off_From_My_Children_if_She_Wont_Seek_Therapy_final/original.jpg 1480w" src="https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/RifGF6lS9RCXJHalbnr0kGHxJvw=/158x0:4341x2785/416x277/media/img/mt/2023/01/Can_I_Cut_My_Mom_Off_From_My_Children_if_She_Wont_Seek_Therapy_final/original.jpg" width="416" height="277"/></picture></a><figcaption class="ProjectGrid_attribution__J6t_U"><span>Bianca Bagnarelli</span></figcaption></figure><div class="ProjectGrid_copy__uDBOA"><h2 class="ProjectGrid_hed___QZPV"><a data-event-element="title" href="https://www.theatlantic.com/family/archive/2023/01/can-you-convince-parent-to-go-to-therapy/672864/" class="ProjectGrid_link__Y0YMC">Dear Therapist: Can I Cut My Mom Off From My Children If She Won’t Seek Therapy?</a></h2><div class="ProjectGrid_dek__oLwxO"><span>She hasn’t been a great parent to me, and I don’t want her repeating those patterns with my future kids.</span></div><div class="ProjectGrid_authors__VyKeP"><a data-event-element="author" class="ProjectGrid_link__Y0YMC" href="https://www.theatlantic.com/author/lori-gottlieb/">Lori Gottlieb</a></div><time class="ProjectGrid_time__laZaC" dateTime="2023-01-30T12:00:00Z">January 30, 2023</time></div></article></div><div class="ProjectGrid_li__NnOLw"><article data-event-position="25" class="ProjectGrid_article__coS6b"><figure class="ProjectGrid_figure__C_rxH"><a data-event-element="image" href="https://www.theatlantic.com/family/archive/2022/12/family-sibling-set-boundaries-holidays/672487/"><picture class="ProjectGrid_picture__km9UT"><img alt="An illustration of a split family with a sister distorted into abstract chaos" loading="lazy" class="Image_root__XxsOp Image_lazy__hYWHV" sizes="(min-width: 1440px) 416px, (min-width: 1024px) calc(33.3vw - 64px), (min-width: 768px) 360px, calc(100vw - 32px)" srcSet="https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/lcRfKTGRupZvqKS_M4gFNof_APM=/430x0:5077x3094/360x240/media/img/mt/2022/12/Mentally_Ill_Sister_final_yellow/original.jpg 360w, https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/r6V0cPlVyQqvGOPBNMrhQf5bCyM=/430x0:5077x3094/416x277/media/img/mt/2022/12/Mentally_Ill_Sister_final_yellow/original.jpg 416w, https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/YoatB5DEi5CZNwDrdYMhW7U_dho=/430x0:5077x3094/720x479/media/img/mt/2022/12/Mentally_Ill_Sister_final_yellow/original.jpg 720w, https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/Fv4XwUUGdDccbbyQAbV3LMyu8i0=/430x0:5077x3094/832x554/media/img/mt/2022/12/Mentally_Ill_Sister_final_yellow/original.jpg 832w, https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/--f7C5Yw-ZwzMUSOUCqJ5hczvRs=/430x0:5077x3094/1024x682/media/img/mt/2022/12/Mentally_Ill_Sister_final_yellow/original.jpg 1024w, https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/VVpIw3Q2L8Vm6b6OWH8maxEUVvQ=/430x0:5077x3094/1280x852/media/img/mt/2022/12/Mentally_Ill_Sister_final_yellow/original.jpg 1280w, https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/_3ehHyxQSE0OHu02tqszn0yss-w=/430x0:5077x3094/1396x930/media/img/mt/2022/12/Mentally_Ill_Sister_final_yellow/original.jpg 1396w, https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/-Dxf8PBrS_0KLeMz092wXBNPMZI=/430x0:5077x3094/1480x985/media/img/mt/2022/12/Mentally_Ill_Sister_final_yellow/original.jpg 1480w" src="https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/r6V0cPlVyQqvGOPBNMrhQf5bCyM=/430x0:5077x3094/416x277/media/img/mt/2022/12/Mentally_Ill_Sister_final_yellow/original.jpg" width="416" height="277"/></picture></a><figcaption class="ProjectGrid_attribution__J6t_U"><span>Bianca Bagnarelli</span></figcaption></figure><div class="ProjectGrid_copy__uDBOA"><h2 class="ProjectGrid_hed___QZPV"><a data-event-element="title" href="https://www.theatlantic.com/family/archive/2022/12/family-sibling-set-boundaries-holidays/672487/" class="ProjectGrid_link__Y0YMC">Dear Therapist: How Do I Hold Boundaries With My Sister at Christmas?</a></h2><div class="ProjectGrid_dek__oLwxO"><span>I don’t want a relationship with her, but my parents want us to make up.</span></div><div class="ProjectGrid_authors__VyKeP"><a data-event-element="author" class="ProjectGrid_link__Y0YMC" href="https://www.theatlantic.com/author/lori-gottlieb/">Lori Gottlieb</a></div><time class="ProjectGrid_time__laZaC" dateTime="2022-12-19T12:00:00Z">December 19, 2022</time></div></article></div><div class="ProjectGrid_li__NnOLw"><article data-event-position="26" class="ProjectGrid_article__coS6b"><figure class="ProjectGrid_figure__C_rxH"><a data-event-element="image" href="https://www.theatlantic.com/family/archive/2022/11/thanksgiving-holiday-family-brother-in-law-conflict/672090/"><picture class="ProjectGrid_picture__km9UT"><img alt="An illustrated fox drooling at a thanksgiving table" loading="lazy" class="Image_root__XxsOp Image_lazy__hYWHV" sizes="(min-width: 1440px) 416px, (min-width: 1024px) calc(33.3vw - 64px), (min-width: 768px) 360px, calc(100vw - 32px)" srcSet="https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/UZTI7XNEwz7cLAcct7P4ZkHdLZQ=/387x0:4570x2785/360x240/media/img/mt/2022/11/brother_in_law_final/original.jpg 360w, https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/yX1GiWgBRJ47-wVK0xDgkboisrw=/387x0:4570x2785/416x277/media/img/mt/2022/11/brother_in_law_final/original.jpg 416w, https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/XHJK5TzJfsb_sH32hdqXoLZFB78=/387x0:4570x2785/720x479/media/img/mt/2022/11/brother_in_law_final/original.jpg 720w, https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/dPeELhJ2sXL3Sn3xhrejkIpEfSI=/387x0:4570x2785/832x554/media/img/mt/2022/11/brother_in_law_final/original.jpg 832w, https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/byxxWak81yMxs6oolP4C60oJQbE=/387x0:4570x2785/1024x682/media/img/mt/2022/11/brother_in_law_final/original.jpg 1024w, https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/mCR12ZN53VKBuLX3OJa7nouu11c=/387x0:4570x2785/1280x852/media/img/mt/2022/11/brother_in_law_final/original.jpg 1280w, https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/ycLOV-5VL7RH3P-2EFWH4S-x-nI=/387x0:4570x2785/1396x930/media/img/mt/2022/11/brother_in_law_final/original.jpg 1396w, https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/MRwGpiXp6A5whhHUn3RFW1m5cHY=/387x0:4570x2785/1480x985/media/img/mt/2022/11/brother_in_law_final/original.jpg 1480w" src="https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/yX1GiWgBRJ47-wVK0xDgkboisrw=/387x0:4570x2785/416x277/media/img/mt/2022/11/brother_in_law_final/original.jpg" width="416" height="277"/></picture></a><figcaption class="ProjectGrid_attribution__J6t_U"><span>Bianca Bagnarelli</span></figcaption></figure><div class="ProjectGrid_copy__uDBOA"><h2 class="ProjectGrid_hed___QZPV"><a data-event-element="title" href="https://www.theatlantic.com/family/archive/2022/11/thanksgiving-holiday-family-brother-in-law-conflict/672090/" class="ProjectGrid_link__Y0YMC">Dear Therapist: My Brother-in-Law Is a Thanksgiving Freeloader</a></h2><div class="ProjectGrid_dek__oLwxO"><span>Do I have to invite him this year?</span></div><div class="ProjectGrid_authors__VyKeP"><a data-event-element="author" class="ProjectGrid_link__Y0YMC" href="https://www.theatlantic.com/author/lori-gottlieb/">Lori Gottlieb</a></div><time class="ProjectGrid_time__laZaC" dateTime="2022-11-14T12:00:00Z">November 14, 2022</time></div></article></div><gpt-ad class="GptAd_root__pAvcS Injector_root__U1KQn Injector_shaded__u8fiA Injector_noBorder__IzK3j ProjectGrid_li__NnOLw ProjectGrid_ad__QBJU8" format="injector" sizes-at-0="mobile-wide" targeting-pos="boxinjector-5" sizes-at-976="desktop-wide"></gpt-ad><div class="ProjectGrid_li__NnOLw"><article data-event-position="27" class="ProjectGrid_article__coS6b"><figure class="ProjectGrid_figure__C_rxH"><a data-event-element="image" href="https://www.theatlantic.com/family/archive/2022/10/boyfriend-ex-wife-kids-relationship-advice/671887/"><picture class="ProjectGrid_picture__km9UT"><img alt="Illustration of a hand pushing a bride's figurine into a wedding cake" loading="lazy" class="Image_root__XxsOp Image_lazy__hYWHV" sizes="(min-width: 1440px) 416px, (min-width: 1024px) calc(33.3vw - 64px), (min-width: 768px) 360px, calc(100vw - 32px)" srcSet="https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/R0WVSsIdSn_hl0HSGwgxqu3jDzs=/772x429:5198x3376/360x240/media/img/mt/2022/10/Dear_Therapist_I_Dont_Know_How_to_Deal_With_My_Boyfriends_Ex_Wife_final/original.jpg 360w, https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/KIwjDphEmLbw5joryrnKaqpBCBs=/772x429:5198x3376/416x277/media/img/mt/2022/10/Dear_Therapist_I_Dont_Know_How_to_Deal_With_My_Boyfriends_Ex_Wife_final/original.jpg 416w, https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/rfJkouCeL3V4_cUJSTBDqAKCrb4=/772x429:5198x3376/720x479/media/img/mt/2022/10/Dear_Therapist_I_Dont_Know_How_to_Deal_With_My_Boyfriends_Ex_Wife_final/original.jpg 720w, https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/nXVQ4PdVddwrv6SYjUhgGdfZYDQ=/772x429:5198x3376/832x554/media/img/mt/2022/10/Dear_Therapist_I_Dont_Know_How_to_Deal_With_My_Boyfriends_Ex_Wife_final/original.jpg 832w, https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/lq383K_IKypz_9Edj3W350vVAz4=/772x429:5198x3376/1024x682/media/img/mt/2022/10/Dear_Therapist_I_Dont_Know_How_to_Deal_With_My_Boyfriends_Ex_Wife_final/original.jpg 1024w, https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/zUsHtSPSqQ7au8qBkwJ-1ByDF0s=/772x429:5198x3376/1280x852/media/img/mt/2022/10/Dear_Therapist_I_Dont_Know_How_to_Deal_With_My_Boyfriends_Ex_Wife_final/original.jpg 1280w, https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/72cyAB2kqDXoIQZoi4zszszxnwU=/772x429:5198x3376/1396x930/media/img/mt/2022/10/Dear_Therapist_I_Dont_Know_How_to_Deal_With_My_Boyfriends_Ex_Wife_final/original.jpg 1396w, https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/EapPm4YO4qvWOZT6ztdPhkSBkuE=/772x429:5198x3376/1480x985/media/img/mt/2022/10/Dear_Therapist_I_Dont_Know_How_to_Deal_With_My_Boyfriends_Ex_Wife_final/original.jpg 1480w" src="https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/KIwjDphEmLbw5joryrnKaqpBCBs=/772x429:5198x3376/416x277/media/img/mt/2022/10/Dear_Therapist_I_Dont_Know_How_to_Deal_With_My_Boyfriends_Ex_Wife_final/original.jpg" width="416" height="277"/></picture></a><figcaption class="ProjectGrid_attribution__J6t_U"><span>Bianca Bagnarelli</span></figcaption></figure><div class="ProjectGrid_copy__uDBOA"><h2 class="ProjectGrid_hed___QZPV"><a data-event-element="title" href="https://www.theatlantic.com/family/archive/2022/10/boyfriend-ex-wife-kids-relationship-advice/671887/" class="ProjectGrid_link__Y0YMC">Dear Therapist: I Don’t Think I Can Accept My Boyfriend’s Past</a></h2><div class="ProjectGrid_dek__oLwxO"><span>Seeing photos with his ex-wife and kids pushed me over the edge.</span></div><div class="ProjectGrid_authors__VyKeP"><a data-event-element="author" class="ProjectGrid_link__Y0YMC" href="https://www.theatlantic.com/author/lori-gottlieb/">Lori Gottlieb</a></div><time class="ProjectGrid_time__laZaC" dateTime="2022-10-31T11:00:00Z">October 31, 2022</time></div></article></div><div class="ProjectGrid_li__NnOLw"><article data-event-position="28" class="ProjectGrid_article__coS6b"><figure class="ProjectGrid_figure__C_rxH"><a data-event-element="image" href="https://www.theatlantic.com/family/archive/2022/09/children-grandparents-estrangement-abuse-generational-trauma/671542/"><picture class="ProjectGrid_picture__km9UT"><img alt="An illustration of a family tree being cut to separate the grandparents." loading="lazy" class="Image_root__XxsOp Image_lazy__hYWHV" sizes="(min-width: 1440px) 416px, (min-width: 1024px) calc(33.3vw - 64px), (min-width: 768px) 360px, calc(100vw - 32px)" srcSet="https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/wDjY_NxlqI91a1LN0di5_IcWVvg=/387x0:4570x2785/360x240/media/img/mt/2022/09/I_Need_to_Cut_Off_My_In_Laws_final_1/original.jpg 360w, https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/1GOyWU2lT3VWWorWFunwIkkPZmw=/387x0:4570x2785/416x277/media/img/mt/2022/09/I_Need_to_Cut_Off_My_In_Laws_final_1/original.jpg 416w, https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/ce91XBVewmv7LJ5Em4_VDBk0Ptk=/387x0:4570x2785/720x479/media/img/mt/2022/09/I_Need_to_Cut_Off_My_In_Laws_final_1/original.jpg 720w, https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/yxVhga4rrrqXbeqY9UoUnBp_NVE=/387x0:4570x2785/832x554/media/img/mt/2022/09/I_Need_to_Cut_Off_My_In_Laws_final_1/original.jpg 832w, https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/Lcf0gL9J7ocqmMit-_l9Qhpd24s=/387x0:4570x2785/1024x682/media/img/mt/2022/09/I_Need_to_Cut_Off_My_In_Laws_final_1/original.jpg 1024w, https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/WJCku1fEi0hYvho1o10LJTyNrWM=/387x0:4570x2785/1280x852/media/img/mt/2022/09/I_Need_to_Cut_Off_My_In_Laws_final_1/original.jpg 1280w, https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/sKhkFVwnLjWZpR9YSk8ato-vmQY=/387x0:4570x2785/1396x930/media/img/mt/2022/09/I_Need_to_Cut_Off_My_In_Laws_final_1/original.jpg 1396w, https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/KfW7xV6-M_ptBSouklifmLA85BU=/387x0:4570x2785/1480x985/media/img/mt/2022/09/I_Need_to_Cut_Off_My_In_Laws_final_1/original.jpg 1480w" src="https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/1GOyWU2lT3VWWorWFunwIkkPZmw=/387x0:4570x2785/416x277/media/img/mt/2022/09/I_Need_to_Cut_Off_My_In_Laws_final_1/original.jpg" width="416" height="277"/></picture></a><figcaption class="ProjectGrid_attribution__J6t_U"><span>Bianca Bagnarelli</span></figcaption></figure><div class="ProjectGrid_copy__uDBOA"><h2 class="ProjectGrid_hed___QZPV"><a data-event-element="title" href="https://www.theatlantic.com/family/archive/2022/09/children-grandparents-estrangement-abuse-generational-trauma/671542/" class="ProjectGrid_link__Y0YMC">Dear Therapist: We’re Cutting My Husband’s Parents Out of Our Lives</a></h2><div class="ProjectGrid_dek__oLwxO"><span>How do we explain the estrangement to our kids?</span></div><div class="ProjectGrid_authors__VyKeP"><a data-event-element="author" class="ProjectGrid_link__Y0YMC" href="https://www.theatlantic.com/author/lori-gottlieb/">Lori Gottlieb</a></div><time class="ProjectGrid_time__laZaC" dateTime="2022-09-26T11:00:00Z">September 26, 2022</time></div></article></div><div class="ProjectGrid_li__NnOLw"><article data-event-position="29" class="ProjectGrid_article__coS6b"><figure class="ProjectGrid_figure__C_rxH"><a data-event-element="image" href="https://www.theatlantic.com/family/archive/2022/08/best-friend-divorce-healthy-boundaries-advice/671261/"><picture class="ProjectGrid_picture__km9UT"><img alt="Illustration of a broken vase with the visage of a best friend reflected in the pieces" loading="lazy" class="Image_root__XxsOp Image_lazy__hYWHV" sizes="(min-width: 1440px) 416px, (min-width: 1024px) calc(33.3vw - 64px), (min-width: 768px) 360px, calc(100vw - 32px)" srcSet="https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/mq6F0US3DtL5nj_T2aU4k6932-8=/387x0:4570x2785/360x240/media/img/mt/2022/08/Best_Friend_final/original.jpg 360w, https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/ntp_xnNRJ20B3BPA7VDeQAYWtYI=/387x0:4570x2785/416x277/media/img/mt/2022/08/Best_Friend_final/original.jpg 416w, https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/aZ316at-Ka6c5jIU2jYSHLZMso4=/387x0:4570x2785/720x479/media/img/mt/2022/08/Best_Friend_final/original.jpg 720w, https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/vqLxX1PbUgXU49f8775Un6aYO-c=/387x0:4570x2785/832x554/media/img/mt/2022/08/Best_Friend_final/original.jpg 832w, https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/jsvCaqxOIflblt-5xluhs9xWd7M=/387x0:4570x2785/1024x682/media/img/mt/2022/08/Best_Friend_final/original.jpg 1024w, https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/pfakICbbjnLsz4jj_3WPv8fnw3o=/387x0:4570x2785/1280x852/media/img/mt/2022/08/Best_Friend_final/original.jpg 1280w, https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/UrGkpNu326Zy_zD5bUhatFnRbxM=/387x0:4570x2785/1396x930/media/img/mt/2022/08/Best_Friend_final/original.jpg 1396w, https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/NDaHAR_w4jNWWYy05gCay9mXSJ4=/387x0:4570x2785/1480x985/media/img/mt/2022/08/Best_Friend_final/original.jpg 1480w" src="https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/ntp_xnNRJ20B3BPA7VDeQAYWtYI=/387x0:4570x2785/416x277/media/img/mt/2022/08/Best_Friend_final/original.jpg" width="416" height="277"/></picture></a><figcaption class="ProjectGrid_attribution__J6t_U"><span>Bianca Bagnarelli</span></figcaption></figure><div class="ProjectGrid_copy__uDBOA"><h2 class="ProjectGrid_hed___QZPV"><a data-event-element="title" href="https://www.theatlantic.com/family/archive/2022/08/best-friend-divorce-healthy-boundaries-advice/671261/" class="ProjectGrid_link__Y0YMC">Dear Therapist: I Don’t Know How to Help My Best Friend Through Her Divorce</a></h2><div class="ProjectGrid_dek__oLwxO"><span>She’s making some unhealthy choices, and it’s hard to watch.</span></div><div class="ProjectGrid_authors__VyKeP"><a data-event-element="author" class="ProjectGrid_link__Y0YMC" href="https://www.theatlantic.com/author/lori-gottlieb/">Lori Gottlieb</a></div><time class="ProjectGrid_time__laZaC" dateTime="2022-08-29T11:00:00Z">August 29, 2022</time></div></article></div><div class="ProjectGrid_li__NnOLw"><article data-event-position="30" class="ProjectGrid_article__coS6b"><figure class="ProjectGrid_figure__C_rxH"><a data-event-element="image" href="https://www.theatlantic.com/family/archive/2022/06/difficult-daughter-in-law-conflict/661387/"><picture class="ProjectGrid_picture__km9UT"><img alt="image of a woman breathing fire at a dinner table with several other guests" loading="lazy" class="Image_root__XxsOp Image_lazy__hYWHV" sizes="(min-width: 1440px) 416px, (min-width: 1024px) calc(33.3vw - 64px), (min-width: 768px) 360px, calc(100vw - 32px)" srcSet="https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/PgmeOjoGAQB8UMXogZ80VU0jM2M=/387x0:4570x2785/360x240/media/img/mt/2022/06/My_daughter_in_law_is_acting_like_a_bully_Final/original.jpg 360w, https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/kWstV58tkvqP3DLOFhAjMAoxp0Q=/387x0:4570x2785/416x277/media/img/mt/2022/06/My_daughter_in_law_is_acting_like_a_bully_Final/original.jpg 416w, https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/H3wHC7lPas7Ff6V3YrrCPDq-ugE=/387x0:4570x2785/720x479/media/img/mt/2022/06/My_daughter_in_law_is_acting_like_a_bully_Final/original.jpg 720w, https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/xVf5loJQuxsBBXAhmFKfzFFRfbU=/387x0:4570x2785/832x554/media/img/mt/2022/06/My_daughter_in_law_is_acting_like_a_bully_Final/original.jpg 832w, https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/SXtT-eMsUbKRo7W6RclXAEg0PZs=/387x0:4570x2785/1024x682/media/img/mt/2022/06/My_daughter_in_law_is_acting_like_a_bully_Final/original.jpg 1024w, https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/atWicsnVFeDnPgA_aQzFOHJ6nA0=/387x0:4570x2785/1280x852/media/img/mt/2022/06/My_daughter_in_law_is_acting_like_a_bully_Final/original.jpg 1280w, https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/JVcVOBCcPXxu-YUrN8eWUX_SX1k=/387x0:4570x2785/1396x930/media/img/mt/2022/06/My_daughter_in_law_is_acting_like_a_bully_Final/original.jpg 1396w, https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/cQ31iBeLLWvGLYqg72Smirnkd04=/387x0:4570x2785/1480x985/media/img/mt/2022/06/My_daughter_in_law_is_acting_like_a_bully_Final/original.jpg 1480w" src="https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/kWstV58tkvqP3DLOFhAjMAoxp0Q=/387x0:4570x2785/416x277/media/img/mt/2022/06/My_daughter_in_law_is_acting_like_a_bully_Final/original.jpg" width="416" height="277"/></picture></a><figcaption class="ProjectGrid_attribution__J6t_U"><span>BIANCA BAGNARELLI</span></figcaption></figure><div class="ProjectGrid_copy__uDBOA"><h2 class="ProjectGrid_hed___QZPV"><a data-event-element="title" href="https://www.theatlantic.com/family/archive/2022/06/difficult-daughter-in-law-conflict/661387/" class="ProjectGrid_link__Y0YMC">Dear Therapist: My Daughter-in-Law Is Posting Nasty Things About Me Online</a></h2><div class="ProjectGrid_dek__oLwxO"><span>She seems to find fault with everything I do.</span></div><div class="ProjectGrid_authors__VyKeP"><a data-event-element="author" class="ProjectGrid_link__Y0YMC" href="https://www.theatlantic.com/author/lori-gottlieb/">Lori Gottlieb</a></div><time class="ProjectGrid_time__laZaC" dateTime="2022-06-27T11:00:00Z">June 27, 2022</time></div></article></div><div class="ProjectGrid_li__NnOLw"><article data-event-position="31" class="ProjectGrid_article__coS6b"><figure class="ProjectGrid_figure__C_rxH"><a data-event-element="image" href="https://www.theatlantic.com/family/archive/2022/05/parent-child-relationship-healthy-boundaries/643121/"><picture class="ProjectGrid_picture__km9UT"><img alt="illustration of a father and a daughter separated by a tall brick wall" loading="lazy" class="Image_root__XxsOp Image_lazy__hYWHV" sizes="(min-width: 1440px) 416px, (min-width: 1024px) calc(33.3vw - 64px), (min-width: 768px) 360px, calc(100vw - 32px)" srcSet="https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/oVSALKgJ9M1WfwQ97cVPPi1FWZE=/387x0:4570x2785/360x240/media/img/mt/2022/05/Father_Daughter_relationship_final/original.jpg 360w, https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/is0QEYQJgXouSZxpcfT3KcBihFs=/387x0:4570x2785/416x277/media/img/mt/2022/05/Father_Daughter_relationship_final/original.jpg 416w, https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/Wa1W7_2Bg0P8fwyXo1j4EyKjXVQ=/387x0:4570x2785/720x479/media/img/mt/2022/05/Father_Daughter_relationship_final/original.jpg 720w, https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/uk_1b1iotrB2sE9jSARNa7v2wVI=/387x0:4570x2785/832x554/media/img/mt/2022/05/Father_Daughter_relationship_final/original.jpg 832w, https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/xbnQZ6Rou8_lm5rNyEpUUMnqOOU=/387x0:4570x2785/1024x682/media/img/mt/2022/05/Father_Daughter_relationship_final/original.jpg 1024w, https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/zW3q0A9fiZ0yusE6KiHxirbyAi8=/387x0:4570x2785/1280x852/media/img/mt/2022/05/Father_Daughter_relationship_final/original.jpg 1280w, https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/cdxgFGx9l3LpUM_u6kjtTI1vmEQ=/387x0:4570x2785/1396x930/media/img/mt/2022/05/Father_Daughter_relationship_final/original.jpg 1396w, https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/XT0_pYn6yxfN7sUn-j6p1SoCci0=/387x0:4570x2785/1480x985/media/img/mt/2022/05/Father_Daughter_relationship_final/original.jpg 1480w" src="https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/is0QEYQJgXouSZxpcfT3KcBihFs=/387x0:4570x2785/416x277/media/img/mt/2022/05/Father_Daughter_relationship_final/original.jpg" width="416" height="277"/></picture></a><figcaption class="ProjectGrid_attribution__J6t_U"><span>Bianca Bagnarelli</span></figcaption></figure><div class="ProjectGrid_copy__uDBOA"><h2 class="ProjectGrid_hed___QZPV"><a data-event-element="title" href="https://www.theatlantic.com/family/archive/2022/05/parent-child-relationship-healthy-boundaries/643121/" class="ProjectGrid_link__Y0YMC">Dear Therapist: My Daughter’s Boundaries Are Preventing Us From Having a Relationship</a></h2><div class="ProjectGrid_dek__oLwxO"><span>I have felt for many years that she has kept me at arm’s length, and it seems to have worsened recently.</span></div><div class="ProjectGrid_authors__VyKeP"><a data-event-element="author" class="ProjectGrid_link__Y0YMC" href="https://www.theatlantic.com/author/lori-gottlieb/">Lori Gottlieb</a></div><time class="ProjectGrid_time__laZaC" dateTime="2022-05-30T11:00:00Z">May 30, 2022</time></div></article></div><div class="ProjectGrid_li__NnOLw"><article data-event-position="32" class="ProjectGrid_article__coS6b"><figure class="ProjectGrid_figure__C_rxH"><a data-event-element="image" href="https://www.theatlantic.com/family/archive/2022/04/difficult-parent-set-boundaries/629644/"><picture class="ProjectGrid_picture__km9UT"><img alt="Woman hides on her roof from a man standing at her front door as storm clouds gather." loading="lazy" class="Image_root__XxsOp Image_lazy__hYWHV" sizes="(min-width: 1440px) 416px, (min-width: 1024px) calc(33.3vw - 64px), (min-width: 768px) 360px, calc(100vw - 32px)" srcSet="https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/GeJA5fT8LB9C3mQw9_GNoECsEYc=/387x0:4570x2785/360x240/media/img/mt/2022/04/abusive_dad_final/original.jpg 360w, https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/OfGXGCE_tneW7lUKVwnqFPDIZZs=/387x0:4570x2785/416x277/media/img/mt/2022/04/abusive_dad_final/original.jpg 416w, https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/FIB1seTR9mkJ85_-XsncwN6t1Y4=/387x0:4570x2785/720x479/media/img/mt/2022/04/abusive_dad_final/original.jpg 720w, https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/rjweLRu_bzACUO54wLiokwEOyIE=/387x0:4570x2785/832x554/media/img/mt/2022/04/abusive_dad_final/original.jpg 832w, https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/q-tMKMWotjZeG9FSarX0D60A6ZM=/387x0:4570x2785/1024x682/media/img/mt/2022/04/abusive_dad_final/original.jpg 1024w, https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/kKdZ51HbHQQmQojDzgIvRkHEy4E=/387x0:4570x2785/1280x852/media/img/mt/2022/04/abusive_dad_final/original.jpg 1280w, https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/aloXJGi_jKmWTWP2htpNwXcML38=/387x0:4570x2785/1396x930/media/img/mt/2022/04/abusive_dad_final/original.jpg 1396w, https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/VPNMxWREfHtUIPT2VNYjQMbHry8=/387x0:4570x2785/1480x985/media/img/mt/2022/04/abusive_dad_final/original.jpg 1480w" src="https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/OfGXGCE_tneW7lUKVwnqFPDIZZs=/387x0:4570x2785/416x277/media/img/mt/2022/04/abusive_dad_final/original.jpg" width="416" height="277"/></picture></a><figcaption class="ProjectGrid_attribution__J6t_U"><span>Bianca Bagnarelli</span></figcaption></figure><div class="ProjectGrid_copy__uDBOA"><h2 class="ProjectGrid_hed___QZPV"><a data-event-element="title" href="https://www.theatlantic.com/family/archive/2022/04/difficult-parent-set-boundaries/629644/" class="ProjectGrid_link__Y0YMC">Dear Therapist: My Dad Is Trying to Force His Way Into My Life</a></h2><div class="ProjectGrid_dek__oLwxO"><span>I’ve told him that I don’t want to talk to him, but he won’t leave me alone.</span></div><div class="ProjectGrid_authors__VyKeP"><a data-event-element="author" class="ProjectGrid_link__Y0YMC" href="https://www.theatlantic.com/author/lori-gottlieb/">Lori Gottlieb</a></div><time class="ProjectGrid_time__laZaC" dateTime="2022-04-25T11:00:00Z">April 25, 2022</time></div></article></div><gpt-ad class="GptAd_root__pAvcS Injector_root__U1KQn Injector_shaded__u8fiA Injector_noBorder__IzK3j ProjectGrid_li__NnOLw ProjectGrid_ad__QBJU8" format="injector" sizes-at-0="mobile-wide" targeting-pos="boxinjector-6" sizes-at-976="desktop-wide"></gpt-ad><div class="ProjectGrid_li__NnOLw"><article data-event-position="33" class="ProjectGrid_article__coS6b"><figure class="ProjectGrid_figure__C_rxH"><a data-event-element="image" href="https://www.theatlantic.com/family/archive/2022/03/in-laws-fighting-advice/627611/"><picture class="ProjectGrid_picture__km9UT"><img alt="An illustration of a man being pulled on two sides by his sisters and wife" loading="lazy" class="Image_root__XxsOp Image_lazy__hYWHV" sizes="(min-width: 1440px) 416px, (min-width: 1024px) calc(33.3vw - 64px), (min-width: 768px) 360px, calc(100vw - 32px)" srcSet="https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/JHrvYbu_djYfSHvukyAO_qjbN2A=/610x0:4793x2785/360x240/media/img/mt/2022/03/Family_conflict_final/original.jpg 360w, https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/ZYKQeaf1eLj-S_pSRJ9qFdDR1yA=/610x0:4793x2785/416x277/media/img/mt/2022/03/Family_conflict_final/original.jpg 416w, https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/X3hg44_Q2_Cuy_LSlvDnHARHIco=/610x0:4793x2785/720x479/media/img/mt/2022/03/Family_conflict_final/original.jpg 720w, https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/Jg7dCofLPQlgDWj4wkBa0dQstv4=/610x0:4793x2785/832x554/media/img/mt/2022/03/Family_conflict_final/original.jpg 832w, https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/OoGYOpuhWwBx01ASLAFYKX5pyes=/610x0:4793x2785/1024x682/media/img/mt/2022/03/Family_conflict_final/original.jpg 1024w, https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/YY3lVDU3ujTG07GORPlalz49MbI=/610x0:4793x2785/1280x852/media/img/mt/2022/03/Family_conflict_final/original.jpg 1280w, https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/ZymPEqcLNC4huL7F_N7pQUci_SE=/610x0:4793x2785/1396x930/media/img/mt/2022/03/Family_conflict_final/original.jpg 1396w, https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/qeamveGMcLmL4Elc5S4HKZlMVqs=/610x0:4793x2785/1480x985/media/img/mt/2022/03/Family_conflict_final/original.jpg 1480w" src="https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/ZYKQeaf1eLj-S_pSRJ9qFdDR1yA=/610x0:4793x2785/416x277/media/img/mt/2022/03/Family_conflict_final/original.jpg" width="416" height="277"/></picture></a><figcaption class="ProjectGrid_attribution__J6t_U"><span>Bianca Bagnarelli</span></figcaption></figure><div class="ProjectGrid_copy__uDBOA"><h2 class="ProjectGrid_hed___QZPV"><a data-event-element="title" href="https://www.theatlantic.com/family/archive/2022/03/in-laws-fighting-advice/627611/" class="ProjectGrid_link__Y0YMC">Dear Therapist: Why Can’t My Wife Pretend to Like My Family?</a></h2><div class="ProjectGrid_dek__oLwxO"><span>I feel like I am stuck in a fight I don’t want to have.</span></div><div class="ProjectGrid_authors__VyKeP"><a data-event-element="author" class="ProjectGrid_link__Y0YMC" href="https://www.theatlantic.com/author/lori-gottlieb/">Lori Gottlieb</a></div><time class="ProjectGrid_time__laZaC" dateTime="2022-03-28T11:00:00Z">March 28, 2022</time></div></article></div><div class="ProjectGrid_li__NnOLw"><article data-event-position="34" class="ProjectGrid_article__coS6b"><figure class="ProjectGrid_figure__C_rxH"><a data-event-element="image" href="https://www.theatlantic.com/family/archive/2022/02/sperm-donation-secret/622882/"><picture class="ProjectGrid_picture__km9UT"><img alt="A folded illustration of a family and the father's hidden child." loading="lazy" class="Image_root__XxsOp Image_lazy__hYWHV" sizes="(min-width: 1440px) 416px, (min-width: 1024px) calc(33.3vw - 64px), (min-width: 768px) 360px, calc(100vw - 32px)" srcSet="https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/23Bw4HhjfpjvFVCuxEIppFHmvZQ=/387x0:4570x2785/360x240/media/img/mt/2022/02/Secret_child_final/original.jpg 360w, https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/cZcAG_4AEwfor78wdcUO9bH1cB4=/387x0:4570x2785/416x277/media/img/mt/2022/02/Secret_child_final/original.jpg 416w, https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/AZexVTOaaJaZnbd42xU-RPzCr5w=/387x0:4570x2785/720x479/media/img/mt/2022/02/Secret_child_final/original.jpg 720w, https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/o1V-NlhVtNpRpQPVwivKhkR782w=/387x0:4570x2785/832x554/media/img/mt/2022/02/Secret_child_final/original.jpg 832w, https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/Q2BVU1fZaarXAmEBbjMvI2zyS5c=/387x0:4570x2785/1024x682/media/img/mt/2022/02/Secret_child_final/original.jpg 1024w, https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/TkvMC7YFAOfyrVky-mNxZySlmig=/387x0:4570x2785/1280x852/media/img/mt/2022/02/Secret_child_final/original.jpg 1280w, https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/N5g3u7_uFuzrvEZDnq2lesSmqIg=/387x0:4570x2785/1396x930/media/img/mt/2022/02/Secret_child_final/original.jpg 1396w, https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/dGH8DzSW7sQDck6T5KfAoaKWR9E=/387x0:4570x2785/1480x985/media/img/mt/2022/02/Secret_child_final/original.jpg 1480w" src="https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/cZcAG_4AEwfor78wdcUO9bH1cB4=/387x0:4570x2785/416x277/media/img/mt/2022/02/Secret_child_final/original.jpg" width="416" height="277"/></picture></a><figcaption class="ProjectGrid_attribution__J6t_U"><span>Bianca Bagnarelli</span></figcaption></figure><div class="ProjectGrid_copy__uDBOA"><h2 class="ProjectGrid_hed___QZPV"><a data-event-element="title" href="https://www.theatlantic.com/family/archive/2022/02/sperm-donation-secret/622882/" class="ProjectGrid_link__Y0YMC">Dear Therapist: My Husband Secretly Donated Sperm. Now There’s a Kid.</a></h2><div class="ProjectGrid_dek__oLwxO"><span>I feel betrayed and angry that he kept this from me for so many years.</span></div><div class="ProjectGrid_authors__VyKeP"><a data-event-element="author" class="ProjectGrid_link__Y0YMC" href="https://www.theatlantic.com/author/lori-gottlieb/">Lori Gottlieb</a></div><time class="ProjectGrid_time__laZaC" dateTime="2022-02-28T12:00:00Z">February 28, 2022</time></div></article></div><div class="ProjectGrid_li__NnOLw"><article data-event-position="35" class="ProjectGrid_article__coS6b"><figure class="ProjectGrid_figure__C_rxH"><a data-event-element="image" href="https://www.theatlantic.com/family/archive/2022/01/dear-therapist-my-mom-wont-talk-to-me-about-my-fathers-death/621393/"><picture class="ProjectGrid_picture__km9UT"><img alt="Illustration of family consoling their grieving mother." loading="lazy" class="Image_root__XxsOp Image_lazy__hYWHV" sizes="(min-width: 1440px) 416px, (min-width: 1024px) calc(33.3vw - 64px), (min-width: 768px) 360px, calc(100vw - 32px)" srcSet="https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/2p9YDLVjEvWtj8G1j4MDYAEGuaU=/387x0:4570x2785/360x240/media/img/mt/2022/01/Dear_Therapist_Grieving_Mother_final/original.jpg 360w, https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/kK9Fa_XczK7c3tEXuX9uVhXFBs0=/387x0:4570x2785/416x277/media/img/mt/2022/01/Dear_Therapist_Grieving_Mother_final/original.jpg 416w, https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/XL91JTgnsWWNbsRC0aMWijT3lI4=/387x0:4570x2785/720x479/media/img/mt/2022/01/Dear_Therapist_Grieving_Mother_final/original.jpg 720w, https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/CgGISq5ep406XejkaiMb-WhqRvw=/387x0:4570x2785/832x554/media/img/mt/2022/01/Dear_Therapist_Grieving_Mother_final/original.jpg 832w, https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/9au0KTHzjsxZSaWYSqmB13JiGhE=/387x0:4570x2785/1024x682/media/img/mt/2022/01/Dear_Therapist_Grieving_Mother_final/original.jpg 1024w, https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/ARBNNoQi5H_j3z9Q6ySomYKMjeQ=/387x0:4570x2785/1280x852/media/img/mt/2022/01/Dear_Therapist_Grieving_Mother_final/original.jpg 1280w, https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/i-DUCa_LZF7pU8ssYViWYOua1G4=/387x0:4570x2785/1396x930/media/img/mt/2022/01/Dear_Therapist_Grieving_Mother_final/original.jpg 1396w, https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/XvZCiAdQ8F-zXheeFOOaJmAVUFA=/387x0:4570x2785/1480x985/media/img/mt/2022/01/Dear_Therapist_Grieving_Mother_final/original.jpg 1480w" src="https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/kK9Fa_XczK7c3tEXuX9uVhXFBs0=/387x0:4570x2785/416x277/media/img/mt/2022/01/Dear_Therapist_Grieving_Mother_final/original.jpg" width="416" height="277"/></picture></a><figcaption class="ProjectGrid_attribution__J6t_U"><span>Bianca Bagnarelli</span></figcaption></figure><div class="ProjectGrid_copy__uDBOA"><h2 class="ProjectGrid_hed___QZPV"><a data-event-element="title" href="https://www.theatlantic.com/family/archive/2022/01/dear-therapist-my-mom-wont-talk-to-me-about-my-fathers-death/621393/" class="ProjectGrid_link__Y0YMC">Dear Therapist: I Can’t Turn to My Mom for Support After My Dad’s Death</a></h2><div class="ProjectGrid_dek__oLwxO"><span>I don’t want to burden her when she’s going through such a difficult time, but I need to talk to her about my grief.</span></div><div class="ProjectGrid_authors__VyKeP"><a data-event-element="author" class="ProjectGrid_link__Y0YMC" href="https://www.theatlantic.com/author/lori-gottlieb/">Lori Gottlieb</a></div><time class="ProjectGrid_time__laZaC" dateTime="2022-01-31T12:00:00Z">January 31, 2022</time></div></article></div><div class="ProjectGrid_li__NnOLw"><article data-event-position="36" class="ProjectGrid_article__coS6b"><figure class="ProjectGrid_figure__C_rxH"><a data-event-element="image" href="https://www.theatlantic.com/family/archive/2021/08/dear-therapists-best-advice-on-how-to-support-others/619619/"><picture class="ProjectGrid_picture__km9UT"><img alt="illustration of someone reaching out for help" loading="lazy" class="Image_root__XxsOp Image_lazy__hYWHV" sizes="(min-width: 1440px) 416px, (min-width: 1024px) calc(33.3vw - 64px), (min-width: 768px) 360px, calc(100vw - 32px)" srcSet="https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/OWDzE1wBJhlS4Ires5P24ntw6Hc=/387x0:4570x2785/360x240/media/img/mt/2021/08/Image_from_iOS_1/original.jpg 360w, https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/Cdp9UsoYWe0b1nTf_zg2IzHAmmg=/387x0:4570x2785/416x277/media/img/mt/2021/08/Image_from_iOS_1/original.jpg 416w, https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/v6yLNp6eLRb_FlMlqwJOT4jE_cc=/387x0:4570x2785/720x479/media/img/mt/2021/08/Image_from_iOS_1/original.jpg 720w, https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/o5Mf1dyqe8bOeAZY1Jk4eFylU0A=/387x0:4570x2785/832x554/media/img/mt/2021/08/Image_from_iOS_1/original.jpg 832w, https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/fNTnNDxn_IfJbedDU-5AZXNi9xo=/387x0:4570x2785/1024x682/media/img/mt/2021/08/Image_from_iOS_1/original.jpg 1024w, https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/F7ELYUzrsgKG_s76Eo8f8fwm3ns=/387x0:4570x2785/1280x852/media/img/mt/2021/08/Image_from_iOS_1/original.jpg 1280w, https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/7gJwj5Fj8nC7iSffj5fyq6egmEU=/387x0:4570x2785/1396x930/media/img/mt/2021/08/Image_from_iOS_1/original.jpg 1396w, https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/Zmb3mVqyfKwYpe_k7ZGKGrD6avE=/387x0:4570x2785/1480x985/media/img/mt/2021/08/Image_from_iOS_1/original.jpg 1480w" src="https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/Cdp9UsoYWe0b1nTf_zg2IzHAmmg=/387x0:4570x2785/416x277/media/img/mt/2021/08/Image_from_iOS_1/original.jpg" width="416" height="277"/></picture></a><figcaption class="ProjectGrid_attribution__J6t_U"><span>Bianca Bagnarelli</span></figcaption></figure><div class="ProjectGrid_copy__uDBOA"><h2 class="ProjectGrid_hed___QZPV"><a data-event-element="title" href="https://www.theatlantic.com/family/archive/2021/08/dear-therapists-best-advice-on-how-to-support-others/619619/" class="ProjectGrid_link__Y0YMC">How to Show ‘Wise Compassion’ to Struggling Loved Ones</a></h2><div class="ProjectGrid_dek__oLwxO"><span>Being truly supportive of someone who is in pain requires strength, patience, self-knowledge, and discipline, “Dear Therapist” writes.</span></div><div class="ProjectGrid_authors__VyKeP"><a data-event-element="author" class="ProjectGrid_link__Y0YMC" href="https://www.theatlantic.com/author/rebecca-rosen/">Rebecca J. Rosen</a></div><time class="ProjectGrid_time__laZaC" dateTime="2021-08-02T11:00:00Z">August 2, 2021</time></div></article></div><div class="ProjectGrid_li__NnOLw"><article data-event-position="37" class="ProjectGrid_article__coS6b"><figure class="ProjectGrid_figure__C_rxH"><a data-event-element="image" href="https://www.theatlantic.com/family/archive/2021/07/how-live-peacefully-your-laws/619357/"><picture class="ProjectGrid_picture__km9UT"><img alt="A man and woman, each trapped under a dogpile of human bodies, reach out to each other and hold hands" loading="lazy" class="Image_root__XxsOp Image_lazy__hYWHV" sizes="(min-width: 1440px) 416px, (min-width: 1024px) calc(33.3vw - 64px), (min-width: 768px) 360px, calc(100vw - 32px)" srcSet="https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/eYDZ9uApDWhXofl5qZoorDNhwwQ=/387x0:4570x2785/360x240/media/img/mt/2021/07/Image_from_iOS_2/original.jpg 360w, https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/8PPA2xwSrk3Xu1uKFN2FIon4Wos=/387x0:4570x2785/416x277/media/img/mt/2021/07/Image_from_iOS_2/original.jpg 416w, https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/ZUudYCZQoKLB9D07exShOwGXGTY=/387x0:4570x2785/720x479/media/img/mt/2021/07/Image_from_iOS_2/original.jpg 720w, https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/e0WgFMEJFVf_3zRuyJ2QCaCUmu4=/387x0:4570x2785/832x554/media/img/mt/2021/07/Image_from_iOS_2/original.jpg 832w, https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/cTsbhAvsstCPROsDI6fJxa9vEh8=/387x0:4570x2785/1024x682/media/img/mt/2021/07/Image_from_iOS_2/original.jpg 1024w, https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/XptLV-BFGRg2mZcRrIVV0mhNPxw=/387x0:4570x2785/1280x852/media/img/mt/2021/07/Image_from_iOS_2/original.jpg 1280w, https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/b2rHvLfMtsqsS_VdVXOw4W39TMA=/387x0:4570x2785/1396x930/media/img/mt/2021/07/Image_from_iOS_2/original.jpg 1396w, https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/ytDHd2q8qjVlXWiO4oKD0YYsawg=/387x0:4570x2785/1480x985/media/img/mt/2021/07/Image_from_iOS_2/original.jpg 1480w" src="https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/8PPA2xwSrk3Xu1uKFN2FIon4Wos=/387x0:4570x2785/416x277/media/img/mt/2021/07/Image_from_iOS_2/original.jpg" width="416" height="277"/></picture></a><figcaption class="ProjectGrid_attribution__J6t_U"><span>Bianca Bagnarelli</span></figcaption></figure><div class="ProjectGrid_copy__uDBOA"><h2 class="ProjectGrid_hed___QZPV"><a data-event-element="title" href="https://www.theatlantic.com/family/archive/2021/07/how-live-peacefully-your-laws/619357/" class="ProjectGrid_link__Y0YMC">Why In-Law Relationships Can Be So Challenging</a></h2><div class="ProjectGrid_dek__oLwxO"><span>Tough conversations provide opportunities for pain and conflict, but also for growth and healing, “Dear Therapist” writes.</span></div><div class="ProjectGrid_authors__VyKeP"><a data-event-element="author" class="ProjectGrid_link__Y0YMC" href="https://www.theatlantic.com/author/rebecca-rosen/">Rebecca J. Rosen</a></div><time class="ProjectGrid_time__laZaC" dateTime="2021-07-05T11:00:00Z">July 5, 2021</time></div></article></div><div class="ProjectGrid_li__NnOLw"><article data-event-position="38" class="ProjectGrid_article__coS6b"><figure class="ProjectGrid_figure__C_rxH"><a data-event-element="image" href="https://www.theatlantic.com/family/archive/2021/06/dear-therapists-guide-grieving/619104/"><picture class="ProjectGrid_picture__km9UT"><img alt="An illustrated person dealing with different waves of grief" loading="lazy" class="Image_root__XxsOp Image_lazy__hYWHV" sizes="(min-width: 1440px) 416px, (min-width: 1024px) calc(33.3vw - 64px), (min-width: 768px) 360px, calc(100vw - 32px)" srcSet="https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/GohtKJOIIdYW_mSaVgnwhpSQgM8=/269x0:4452x2785/360x240/media/img/mt/2021/06/Grief_final_high_resolution-2/original.jpg 360w, https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/vJM30R5KVZIv04aXmNw4YK35O44=/269x0:4452x2785/416x277/media/img/mt/2021/06/Grief_final_high_resolution-2/original.jpg 416w, https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/3gUcTy0YLxF5lxYEwkqUFReQFTA=/269x0:4452x2785/720x479/media/img/mt/2021/06/Grief_final_high_resolution-2/original.jpg 720w, https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/E9i57ToAH2RGLfuPqnklv6lfmuI=/269x0:4452x2785/832x554/media/img/mt/2021/06/Grief_final_high_resolution-2/original.jpg 832w, https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/rvM8BMq1pyRuMdLNn7fy_MYdghs=/269x0:4452x2785/1024x682/media/img/mt/2021/06/Grief_final_high_resolution-2/original.jpg 1024w, https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/wAJeIEd5z755XLD1KHKsDQ7YCi4=/269x0:4452x2785/1280x852/media/img/mt/2021/06/Grief_final_high_resolution-2/original.jpg 1280w, https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/Q2n1WHMVhuDTLPfBq-mIGRdIOcU=/269x0:4452x2785/1396x930/media/img/mt/2021/06/Grief_final_high_resolution-2/original.jpg 1396w, https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/bN0iCmqMkWcytKxGdsnPHbIQqlE=/269x0:4452x2785/1480x985/media/img/mt/2021/06/Grief_final_high_resolution-2/original.jpg 1480w" src="https://cdn.theatlantic.com/thumbor/vJM30R5KVZIv04aXmNw4YK35O44=/269x0:4452x2785/416x277/media/img/mt/2021/06/Grief_final_high_resolution-2/original.jpg" width="416" height="277"/></picture></a><figcaption class="ProjectGrid_attribution__J6t_U"><span>Bianca Bagnarelli</span></figcaption></figure><div class="ProjectGrid_copy__uDBOA"><h2 class="ProjectGrid_hed___QZPV"><a data-event-element="title" href="https://www.theatlantic.com/family/archive/2021/06/dear-therapists-guide-grieving/619104/" class="ProjectGrid_link__Y0YMC">The Paradox of Grief</a></h2><div class="ProjectGrid_dek__oLwxO"><span>Loss often feels utterly isolating, but seeking out connection and support can help you find a way forward, “Dear Therapist” writes.</span></div><div class="ProjectGrid_authors__VyKeP"><a data-event-element="author" class="ProjectGrid_link__Y0YMC" href="https://www.theatlantic.com/author/rebecca-rosen/">Rebecca J. 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