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class="cite-bracket">[</span>1<span class="cite-bracket">]</span></a></sup><sup id="cite_ref-2" class="reference"><a href="#cite_note-2"><span class="cite-bracket">[</span>2<span class="cite-bracket">]</span></a></sup><sup id="cite_ref-3" class="reference"><a href="#cite_note-3"><span class="cite-bracket">[</span>3<span class="cite-bracket">]</span></a></sup> <a href="/wiki/Self-help" title="Self-help">self-help</a> book by psychiatrist <a href="/wiki/Thomas_Anthony_Harris" title="Thomas Anthony Harris">Thomas Anthony Harris</a>. It is a practical guide to <a href="/wiki/Transactional_analysis" title="Transactional analysis">transactional analysis</a> as a method for solving problems in life. </p><p>The book made the <a href="/wiki/New_York_Times_Best_Seller_list" class="mw-redirect" title="New York Times Best Seller list"><i>New York Times</i> Best Seller list</a> in 1972 and remained there for almost two years. It is estimated by the publisher to have sold over 15 million copies to date<sup id="cite_ref-4" class="reference"><a href="#cite_note-4"><span class="cite-bracket">[</span>4<span class="cite-bracket">]</span></a></sup> and to have been translated into over a dozen languages.<sup id="cite_ref-drthomasharris.com/im_5-0" class="reference"><a href="#cite_note-drthomasharris.com/im-5"><span class="cite-bracket">[</span>5<span class="cite-bracket">]</span></a></sup> </p> <meta property="mw:PageProp/toc" /> <div class="mw-heading mw-heading2"><h2 id="Content">Content</h2><span class="mw-editsection"><span class="mw-editsection-bracket">[</span><a href="/w/index.php?title=I%27m_OK_%E2%80%93_You%27re_OK&action=edit&section=1" title="Edit section: Content"><span>edit</span></a><span class="mw-editsection-bracket">]</span></span></div> <p>In the preface, Harris praises the then-new procedure of transactional analysis (TA, or as Harris often refers to it, P-A-C) as a major innovation addressing the slow process and limited results that he and other psychiatric practitioners believed was characteristic of conventional psychiatry. </p> <div class="mw-heading mw-heading3"><h3 id="Harris'_context_for_the_book"><span id="Harris.27_context_for_the_book"></span>Harris' context for the book</h3><span class="mw-editsection"><span class="mw-editsection-bracket">[</span><a href="/w/index.php?title=I%27m_OK_%E2%80%93_You%27re_OK&action=edit&section=2" title="Edit section: Harris' context for the book"><span>edit</span></a><span class="mw-editsection-bracket">]</span></span></div> <link rel="mw-deduplicated-inline-style" href="mw-data:TemplateStyles:r1251242444"><table class="box-Unreferenced_section plainlinks metadata ambox ambox-content ambox-Unreferenced" role="presentation"><tbody><tr><td class="mbox-image"><div class="mbox-image-div"><span typeof="mw:File"><a href="/wiki/File:Question_book-new.svg" class="mw-file-description"><img alt="" src="//upload.wikimedia.org/wikipedia/en/thumb/9/99/Question_book-new.svg/50px-Question_book-new.svg.png" decoding="async" width="50" height="39" class="mw-file-element" srcset="//upload.wikimedia.org/wikipedia/en/thumb/9/99/Question_book-new.svg/75px-Question_book-new.svg.png 1.5x, //upload.wikimedia.org/wikipedia/en/thumb/9/99/Question_book-new.svg/100px-Question_book-new.svg.png 2x" data-file-width="512" data-file-height="399" /></a></span></div></td><td class="mbox-text"><div class="mbox-text-span">This section <b>does not <a href="/wiki/Wikipedia:Citing_sources" title="Wikipedia:Citing sources">cite</a> any <a href="/wiki/Wikipedia:Verifiability" title="Wikipedia:Verifiability">sources</a></b>.<span class="hide-when-compact"> Please help <a href="/wiki/Special:EditPage/I%27m_OK_%E2%80%93_You%27re_OK" title="Special:EditPage/I'm OK – You're OK">improve this section</a> by <a href="/wiki/Help:Referencing_for_beginners" title="Help:Referencing for beginners">adding citations to reliable sources</a>. Unsourced material may be challenged and <a href="/wiki/Wikipedia:Verifiability#Burden_of_evidence" title="Wikipedia:Verifiability">removed</a>.</span> <span class="date-container"><i>(<span class="date">July 2023</span>)</i></span><span class="hide-when-compact"><i> (<small><a href="/wiki/Help:Maintenance_template_removal" title="Help:Maintenance template removal">Learn how and when to remove this message</a></small>)</i></span></div></td></tr></tbody></table> <p>Rather than working with abstract concepts of consciousness, Harris suggests that the pioneering work of brain surgeon <a href="/wiki/Wilder_Penfield" title="Wilder Penfield">Wilder Penfield</a> in uncovering the neurological basis of <a href="/wiki/Memory" title="Memory">memory</a> could offer complementary insights grounded in observable reality. Specifically, Harris emphasizes reports of Penfield's experiments stimulating small areas of the brains of conscious patients undergoing <a href="/wiki/Brain_surgery" class="mw-redirect" title="Brain surgery">brain surgery</a> (the brain does not have any pain receptors, so this can be done in relative comfort for the patient). Though the patients were conscious that they were on an operating table, the stimulation also caused them to recall specific past events in vivid detail—not just facts of the event, but as a vivid "reliving" of "what the patient saw and heard and felt and understood" when the memory was created. Based on these experiments, Harris postulates that the brain records past experiences like a <a href="/wiki/Tape_recorder" title="Tape recorder">tape recorder</a>, in such a manner that it is possible subsequently to relive past experiences with all their original emotional intensity. </p><p>Harris continues by linking his interpretation of Penfield's experiments to the work of <a href="/wiki/Eric_Berne" title="Eric Berne">Eric Berne</a>, whose model of psychotherapy is based on the idea that emotionally intense memories from childhood are ever-present in adults. Their influence can be understood by carefully analysing the verbal and non-verbal interchanges ('transactions') between people, hence Berne's name for his model: <i>Transactional Analysis</i>. Harris sees great merit in the ability of TA to define basic units through which human behaviour can be analysed—the 'strokes' that are given and received in a 'transaction' between two or more people—and a standardised language for describing those strokes. This readily understood standardisation, and the association Harris develops between TA and Penfield's neuroscience, gives TA a degree of credibility not possessed by earlier abstract models such as that developed by Freud<sup class="noprint Inline-Template Template-Fact" style="white-space:nowrap;">[<i><a href="/wiki/Wikipedia:Citation_needed" title="Wikipedia:Citation needed"><span title="This claim needs references to reliable sources. (June 2015)">citation needed</span></a></i>]</sup>. </p> <div class="mw-heading mw-heading3"><h3 id="Parent,_Adult,_Child_(P-A-C)_model"><span id="Parent.2C_Adult.2C_Child_.28P-A-C.29_model"></span>Parent, Adult, Child (P-A-C) model</h3><span class="mw-editsection"><span class="mw-editsection-bracket">[</span><a href="/w/index.php?title=I%27m_OK_%E2%80%93_You%27re_OK&action=edit&section=3" title="Edit section: Parent, Adult, Child (P-A-C) model"><span>edit</span></a><span class="mw-editsection-bracket">]</span></span></div> <link rel="mw-deduplicated-inline-style" href="mw-data:TemplateStyles:r1236090951"><div role="note" class="hatnote navigation-not-searchable">See also: <a href="/wiki/Transactional_analysis#Ego-state_or_Parent–Adult–Child_(PAC)_models" title="Transactional analysis">Transactional analysis § Ego-state or Parent–Adult–Child (PAC) models</a></div> <p>After describing the context for his belief of the significance of TA, Harris describes TA, starting from the observation that a person's psychological state seems to change in response to different situations. The question is, <i>from what</i> and <i>to what</i> does it change? Harris answers this through a simplified introduction to TA, explaining Berne's proposal that there are three states into which a person can switch: the <i>Parent</i>, the <i>Adult</i> and the <i>Child</i>. </p><p>Harris describes the mental state called the <i>Parent</i> by analogy, as a collection of "tape recordings" of external influences that a child observed adults doing and saying. The recording is a long list of rules and admonitions about the way the world is that the child was expected to believe unquestioningly. Many of these rules (for example: "Never run out in front of traffic") are relatively basic, often relating to immediate physical need or danger; others (e.g. "...you can never trust a cop", "...busy hands are happy hands") are more complex and concern more subtle or nuanced regions. Nevertheless, Harris asserts that both the former and the latter are 'recorded' in the child's memory in the same manner, as 'Parent' dictations, rather than actually understood concepts or philosophical precepts. </p><p>In parallel with those <i>Parent</i> recordings, the <i>Child</i> is a simultaneous recording of <i>internal</i> events—how life felt as a child. Harris equates these with the vivid recordings that Wilder Penfield was able to cause his patients to re-live by stimulating their brains. Harris proposes that, as adults, when we feel discouraged, it is as if we are re-living those Child memories yet the stimulus for re-living them may no longer be relevant or helpful in our lives. </p><p>According to Harris, humans start developing a third mental state, the <i>Adult</i>, about the time children start to walk and begin to achieve some measure of control over their environment. Instead of learning ideas directly from parents into the Parent, or experiencing simple emotion as the Child, children begin to be able to explore and examine the world and form their own opinions. They test the assertions of the Parent and Child and either update them or learn to suppress them. Thus the Adult inside us all develops over time, but it is very fragile and can be readily overwhelmed by stressful situations. Its strength is also tested through conflict between the simplistic ideas of the Parent and reality. Sometimes, Harris asserts, it is safer for a person to believe a lie than to acknowledge the evidence in front of them. This is called <i>Contamination of the Adult</i>. </p> <div class="mw-heading mw-heading3"><h3 id="Four_life_positions">Four life positions</h3><span class="mw-editsection"><span class="mw-editsection-bracket">[</span><a href="/w/index.php?title=I%27m_OK_%E2%80%93_You%27re_OK&action=edit&section=4" title="Edit section: Four life positions"><span>edit</span></a><span class="mw-editsection-bracket">]</span></span></div> <p>The phrase <i>I'm OK, You're OK</i> is one of four "life positions" that each of us may take. The four positions are: </p> <ol><li><i>I'm Not OK, You're OK</i></li> <li><i>I'm Not OK, You're Not OK</i></li> <li><i>I'm OK, You're Not OK</i></li> <li><i>I'm OK, You're OK</i></li></ol> <p>The most common position is <i>I'm Not OK, You're OK</i>. As children we see that adults are large, strong and competent and that we are little, weak and often make mistakes, so we conclude <i>I'm Not OK, You're OK</i>. Children who are abused may conclude <i>I'm Not OK, You're Not OK</i> or <i>I'm OK, You're Not OK</i>, but these are much less common. The emphasis of the book is helping people understand how their life position affects their communications (transactions) and relationships with practical examples. </p><p><i>I'm OK, You're OK</i> continues by providing practical advice to begin decoding the physical and verbal clues required to analyze transactions. For example, Harris suggests signs that a person is in a Parent ego state can include the use of evaluative words that imply judgment based on an automatic, axiomatic and archaic value system: words like 'stupid, naughty, ridiculous, disgusting, should or ought' (though the latter can also be used in the Adult ego state). </p><p>Harris introduces a diagrammatic representation of two classes of communication between individuals: <i>complementary transactions</i>, which can continue indefinitely, and <i>crossed transactions</i>, which cause a cessation of communication (and frequently an argument). Harris suggests that crossed transactions are problematic because they "hook" the Child ego state of one of the participants, resulting in negative feelings. Harris suggests that awareness of this possibility, through TA, can give people a choice about how they react when confronted with an interpersonal situation which makes them feel uncomfortable. Harris provides practical suggestions regarding how to stay in the Adult ego state, despite the provocation. </p><p>Having described a generalized model of the ego states inside human beings, and the transactions between them, Harris then describes how individuals differ. He argues that insights can be gained by examining the degree to which an individual's Adult ego state is <i>contaminated</i> by the other ego states. He summarizes contamination of the Adult by the Parent as "prejudice" and contamination of the Adult by the Child as "delusion". A healthy individual is able to separate these states. Yet, Harris argues, a functioning person does need all three ego states to be present in their psyche in order for them to be complete. Someone who <i>excludes</i> (i.e. blocks out) their Child completely cannot play and enjoy life; while someone who excludes their Parent ego state can be a danger to society (they may become a manipulative psychopath who does not feel shame, remorse, embarrassment or guilt). </p><p>Harris also identifies from his medical practice examples of individuals with blocked out Adult ego states, who were psychotic, terrified and varied between the Parent ego state's archaic admonitions about the world and the raw emotional state of the Child, making them non-treatable by therapy. For such cases, Harris endorses drug treatments, or <a href="/wiki/Electro-convulsive_therapy" class="mw-redirect" title="Electro-convulsive therapy">electro-convulsive therapy</a>, as a way to temporarily disrupt the disturbing ego states, allowing the "recommissioning" of the Adult ego state by therapy. Harris reports a similar approach to treating <a href="/wiki/Bipolar_disorder" title="Bipolar disorder">bipolar disorder</a>. </p><p>The second half of the book begins by briefly describing the six ways that TA practitioners recognize individuals use to <a href="/wiki/Transactional_analysis#Ways_of_time_structuring" title="Transactional analysis">structure time</a>, to make life seem meaningful. Harris continues by offering practical case studies showing applications of TA to marriage and the raising of both children and adolescents. This section of <i>I'm OK, You're OK</i> concludes as Harris describes when TA can be relevant to an individual's life, and how and by whom it might be delivered. He promotes the idea that TA is not just a method for specialists, but can be shared and used by many people. </p><p>Having described such a structured method of dealing with the challenges of human psychology, the final two chapters of the book discuss the question of improving morality and society. In particular, he asks, if people are not to succumb to domination by the Parent ego state, how can individuals enlightened through TA know how they <i>should</i> live their lives? Starting from his axiomatic statement <i>I'm OK, You're OK</i>, he acknowledges that accepting it at face value raises the same philosophical dilemmas as the <a href="/wiki/Problem_of_evil" title="Problem of evil">problem of evil</a> does for believers in a just, omnipotent God. Harris continues to explore aspects of <a href="/wiki/Christianity" title="Christianity">Christianity</a> with reference to TA, together with more generalized questions about the nature of <a href="/wiki/Religion" title="Religion">religion</a>. </p><p>The final chapter of <i>I'm OK, You're OK</i> refers to social issues contemporary at the time of writing, including the <a href="/wiki/Cold_War" title="Cold War">Cold War</a>, <a href="/wiki/Vietnam_War" title="Vietnam War">Vietnam War</a> and the contemporary controversial <a href="/wiki/Milgram_experiment" title="Milgram experiment">research</a> of individuals' response to authority conducted by psychologist <a href="/wiki/Stanley_Milgram" title="Stanley Milgram">Stanley Milgram</a>. Harris applies TA to these issues and concludes his book with the hope that nations will soon gain the maturity to engage in Adult to Adult dialogue, rather than conducting diplomacy in the collective archaic ego states of Parent or Child, which he sees as causing war and disharmony. </p> <div class="mw-heading mw-heading2"><h2 id="Editions">Editions</h2><span class="mw-editsection"><span class="mw-editsection-bracket">[</span><a href="/w/index.php?title=I%27m_OK_%E2%80%93_You%27re_OK&action=edit&section=5" title="Edit section: Editions"><span>edit</span></a><span class="mw-editsection-bracket">]</span></span></div> <p>The book was published first during 1969 in the <a href="/wiki/United_States" title="United States">United States</a> by <a href="/wiki/Harper_%26_Row" class="mw-redirect" title="Harper & Row">Harper & Row</a>, then republished as <i>I'm OK- You're OK</i> (<link rel="mw-deduplicated-inline-style" href="mw-data:TemplateStyles:r1238218222"><a href="/wiki/ISBN_(identifier)" class="mw-redirect" title="ISBN (identifier)">ISBN</a> <a href="/wiki/Special:BookSources/0-380-00772-X" title="Special:BookSources/0-380-00772-X">0-380-00772-X</a>). In the <a href="/wiki/United_Kingdom" title="United Kingdom">United Kingdom</a> it was published first during 1970 by <a href="/wiki/Jonathan_Cape" title="Jonathan Cape">Jonathan Cape</a> with the title <i>The Book of Choice</i>. It is still in print, published by <a href="/wiki/Harpercollins" class="mw-redirect" title="Harpercollins">Harpercollins</a>. </p> <div class="mw-heading mw-heading2"><h2 id="Criticism">Criticism</h2><span class="mw-editsection"><span class="mw-editsection-bracket">[</span><a href="/w/index.php?title=I%27m_OK_%E2%80%93_You%27re_OK&action=edit&section=6" title="Edit section: Criticism"><span>edit</span></a><span class="mw-editsection-bracket">]</span></span></div> <p>The work of <a href="/wiki/Wilder_Penfield" title="Wilder Penfield">Wilder Penfield</a> concerning human memory, which appeared to Harris to give TA special credibility because it implied a direct association with neuroscience, has not proved readily repeatable.<sup id="cite_ref-6" class="reference"><a href="#cite_note-6"><span class="cite-bracket">[</span>6<span class="cite-bracket">]</span></a></sup> Data from 2008 show the mechanism by which OK vs. not OK judgements of value are made in the insula, moment to moment, so Harris' notion is supported.<sup id="cite_ref-7" class="reference"><a href="#cite_note-7"><span class="cite-bracket">[</span>7<span class="cite-bracket">]</span></a></sup> </p><p>Harris's assertion that a child does not mature with the life position <i>I'm OK – You're OK</i> without therapy has been criticised as positioning TA as a quasi-religious <a href="/wiki/Soteriology" title="Soteriology">soteriology</a>.<sup id="cite_ref-8" class="reference"><a href="#cite_note-8"><span class="cite-bracket">[</span>8<span class="cite-bracket">]</span></a></sup> Harris' assertion that all children start out with an <i>I'm not OK, You're OK</i> life position was contested by his friend <a href="/wiki/Eric_Berne" title="Eric Berne">Eric Berne</a>, the originator of TA, who believed that the natural state of a child was feeling <i>I'm OK, You're OK</i>.<sup class="noprint Inline-Template Template-Fact" style="white-space:nowrap;">[<i><a href="/wiki/Wikipedia:Citation_needed" title="Wikipedia:Citation needed"><span title="This claim needs references to reliable sources. (June 2017)">citation needed</span></a></i>]</sup> Several decades have elapsed since Harris published <i>I'm OK, You're OK</i>, some of the cultural references are less accessible to contemporary readers not familiar with the period. </p> <div class="mw-heading mw-heading2"><h2 id="Influence_on_popular_culture">Influence on popular culture</h2><span class="mw-editsection"><span class="mw-editsection-bracket">[</span><a href="/w/index.php?title=I%27m_OK_%E2%80%93_You%27re_OK&action=edit&section=7" title="Edit section: Influence on popular culture"><span>edit</span></a><span class="mw-editsection-bracket">]</span></span></div> <link rel="mw-deduplicated-inline-style" href="mw-data:TemplateStyles:r1251242444"><table class="box-Unreferenced_section plainlinks metadata ambox ambox-content ambox-Unreferenced" role="presentation"><tbody><tr><td class="mbox-image"><div class="mbox-image-div"><span typeof="mw:File"><a href="/wiki/File:Question_book-new.svg" class="mw-file-description"><img alt="" src="//upload.wikimedia.org/wikipedia/en/thumb/9/99/Question_book-new.svg/50px-Question_book-new.svg.png" decoding="async" width="50" height="39" class="mw-file-element" srcset="//upload.wikimedia.org/wikipedia/en/thumb/9/99/Question_book-new.svg/75px-Question_book-new.svg.png 1.5x, //upload.wikimedia.org/wikipedia/en/thumb/9/99/Question_book-new.svg/100px-Question_book-new.svg.png 2x" data-file-width="512" data-file-height="399" /></a></span></div></td><td class="mbox-text"><div class="mbox-text-span">This section <b>does not <a href="/wiki/Wikipedia:Citing_sources" title="Wikipedia:Citing sources">cite</a> any <a href="/wiki/Wikipedia:Verifiability" title="Wikipedia:Verifiability">sources</a></b>.<span class="hide-when-compact"> Please help <a href="/wiki/Special:EditPage/I%27m_OK_%E2%80%93_You%27re_OK" title="Special:EditPage/I'm OK – You're OK">improve this section</a> by <a href="/wiki/Help:Referencing_for_beginners" title="Help:Referencing for beginners">adding citations to reliable sources</a>. Unsourced material may be challenged and <a href="/wiki/Wikipedia:Verifiability#Burden_of_evidence" title="Wikipedia:Verifiability">removed</a>.</span> <span class="date-container"><i>(<span class="date">October 2021</span>)</i></span><span class="hide-when-compact"><i> (<small><a href="/wiki/Help:Maintenance_template_removal" title="Help:Maintenance template removal">Learn how and when to remove this message</a></small>)</i></span></div></td></tr></tbody></table> <p>The title of the book has since become commonly used, often as a dismissive categorization of all <a href="/wiki/Popular_psychology" title="Popular psychology">popular psychology</a> philosophies as being overly accepting. The phrase <i>I'm OK, You're OK</i> is a common <a href="/wiki/Clich%C3%A9" title="Cliché">cliché</a> in <a href="/wiki/Anglophone" class="mw-redirect" title="Anglophone">Anglophone</a> culture, at least among an older generation more accustomed to hearing the phrase. Examples of the influence elsewhere are: </p> <ul><li><a href="/wiki/Wendy_Kaminer" title="Wendy Kaminer">Wendy Kaminer</a> wrote a <a href="/wiki/Critique" title="Critique">critique</a> of the <a href="/wiki/Self-help" title="Self-help">self-help</a> business during 1992, named <i><a href="/wiki/I%27m_Dysfunctional,_You%27re_Dysfunctional" title="I'm Dysfunctional, You're Dysfunctional">I'm Dysfunctional, You're Dysfunctional</a></i>.</li> <li>In the popular television show <i><a href="/wiki/ALF_(TV_series)" title="ALF (TV series)">ALF</a></i>, season four, episode five ALF takes on the topic of TA with direct reference to OKness, and even says to Willie, "I'm OK, You're OK".</li> <li>In the comedy <i><a href="/wiki/Airplane_II:_The_Sequel" title="Airplane II: The Sequel">Airplane II: The Sequel</a></i>, the case carried by the bomber also contains a copy of "I'm Alright, You're Alright".</li> <li>It is also referenced in a <a href="/wiki/Kannada" title="Kannada">Kannada</a> movie called <i><a href="/wiki/Beladingala_Baale" title="Beladingala Baale">Beladingala Baale</a></i>. The main character explains this to his friend's wife when she asks him why her husband is open and different—A person grows in four stages: first he thinks I'm ok, the world is not ok; second he feels he's not ok, the world is not ok; third he thinks he's not ok, the world is ok; in the end at the fourth stage he realizes that I'm ok, the world is also ok and she should bring her husband to this fourth stage.</li> <li>In an episode of <i><a href="/wiki/The_Simpsons" title="The Simpsons">The Simpsons</a></i>, the character Dr. Marvin Monroe refers to his self-help book <i>I'm OK, You're Sick and Twisted</i>.</li> <li>In the first episode of the fifth season of <i><a href="/wiki/What_We_Do_in_the_Shadows_(TV_series)" title="What We Do in the Shadows (TV series)">What We Do in the Shadows</a></i>, the character Nandor talks about working through his anger issues with the book. Throughout the episode, he ends conversations with people not saying "I'm okay, you're okay," despite it often being a non sequitur.</li> <li>The second half of the 13th episode of <a href="/wiki/Taz-Mania" title="Taz-Mania">Taz-Mania</a> is titled "I'm Okay, You're Taz"</li></ul> <div class="mw-heading mw-heading2"><h2 id="See_also">See also</h2><span class="mw-editsection"><span class="mw-editsection-bracket">[</span><a href="/w/index.php?title=I%27m_OK_%E2%80%93_You%27re_OK&action=edit&section=8" title="Edit section: See also"><span>edit</span></a><span class="mw-editsection-bracket">]</span></span></div> <ul><li><i><a href="/wiki/Games_People_Play_(book)" title="Games People Play (book)">Games People Play</a></i></li></ul> <div class="mw-heading mw-heading2"><h2 id="References">References</h2><span class="mw-editsection"><span class="mw-editsection-bracket">[</span><a href="/w/index.php?title=I%27m_OK_%E2%80%93_You%27re_OK&action=edit&section=9" title="Edit section: References"><span>edit</span></a><span class="mw-editsection-bracket">]</span></span></div> <style data-mw-deduplicate="TemplateStyles:r1239543626">.mw-parser-output .reflist{margin-bottom:0.5em;list-style-type:decimal}@media screen{.mw-parser-output .reflist{font-size:90%}}.mw-parser-output .reflist .references{font-size:100%;margin-bottom:0;list-style-type:inherit}.mw-parser-output .reflist-columns-2{column-width:30em}.mw-parser-output .reflist-columns-3{column-width:25em}.mw-parser-output .reflist-columns{margin-top:0.3em}.mw-parser-output .reflist-columns ol{margin-top:0}.mw-parser-output .reflist-columns li{page-break-inside:avoid;break-inside:avoid-column}.mw-parser-output .reflist-upper-alpha{list-style-type:upper-alpha}.mw-parser-output .reflist-upper-roman{list-style-type:upper-roman}.mw-parser-output .reflist-lower-alpha{list-style-type:lower-alpha}.mw-parser-output .reflist-lower-greek{list-style-type:lower-greek}.mw-parser-output .reflist-lower-roman{list-style-type:lower-roman}</style><div class="reflist"> <div class="mw-references-wrap"><ol class="references"> <li id="cite_note-1"><span class="mw-cite-backlink"><b><a href="#cite_ref-1">^</a></b></span> <span class="reference-text"><link rel="mw-deduplicated-inline-style" href="mw-data:TemplateStyles:r1238218222"><cite id="CITEREFLibrary_of_Congress_Copyright_Office1971" class="citation book cs1">Library of Congress Copyright Office (1971). <a rel="nofollow" class="external text" href="https://books.google.com/books?id=7dkgAQAAIAAJ&pg=PA495"><i>Catalog of Copyright Entries. Third Series: 1968: January-June</i></a>. Author. p. 495.</cite><span title="ctx_ver=Z39.88-2004&rft_val_fmt=info%3Aofi%2Ffmt%3Akev%3Amtx%3Abook&rft.genre=book&rft.btitle=Catalog+of+Copyright+Entries.+Third+Series%3A+1968%3A+January-June&rft.pages=495&rft.pub=Author&rft.date=1971&rft.au=Library+of+Congress+Copyright+Office&rft_id=https%3A%2F%2Fbooks.google.com%2Fbooks%3Fid%3D7dkgAQAAIAAJ%26pg%3DPA495&rfr_id=info%3Asid%2Fen.wikipedia.org%3AI%27m+OK+%E2%80%93+You%27re+OK" class="Z3988"></span></span> </li> <li id="cite_note-2"><span class="mw-cite-backlink"><b><a href="#cite_ref-2">^</a></b></span> <span class="reference-text"><link rel="mw-deduplicated-inline-style" href="mw-data:TemplateStyles:r1238218222"><cite id="CITEREFMorrow2016" class="citation book cs1">Morrow, M.C. (2016). <a rel="nofollow" class="external text" href="https://books.google.com/books?id=R-WhDQAAQBAJ&pg=PT82"><i>Sin in the Sixties</i></a>. Catholic University of America Press. p. 62. <a href="/wiki/ISBN_(identifier)" class="mw-redirect" title="ISBN (identifier)">ISBN</a> <a href="/wiki/Special:BookSources/978-0-8132-2898-3" title="Special:BookSources/978-0-8132-2898-3"><bdi>978-0-8132-2898-3</bdi></a>.</cite><span title="ctx_ver=Z39.88-2004&rft_val_fmt=info%3Aofi%2Ffmt%3Akev%3Amtx%3Abook&rft.genre=book&rft.btitle=Sin+in+the+Sixties&rft.pages=62&rft.pub=Catholic+University+of+America+Press&rft.date=2016&rft.isbn=978-0-8132-2898-3&rft.aulast=Morrow&rft.aufirst=M.C.&rft_id=https%3A%2F%2Fbooks.google.com%2Fbooks%3Fid%3DR-WhDQAAQBAJ%26pg%3DPT82&rfr_id=info%3Asid%2Fen.wikipedia.org%3AI%27m+OK+%E2%80%93+You%27re+OK" class="Z3988"></span></span> </li> <li id="cite_note-3"><span class="mw-cite-backlink"><b><a href="#cite_ref-3">^</a></b></span> <span class="reference-text"><link rel="mw-deduplicated-inline-style" href="mw-data:TemplateStyles:r1238218222"><cite id="CITEREFJohn_C._Norcross_Ph.D.,_Linda_F._Campbell_Ph.D.,_John_M._Grohol_PsyD,_John_W._Santrock_Ph.D.,_Florin_Selagea_M.S.,_Robert_Sommer2013" class="citation book cs1">John C. Norcross Ph.D., Linda F. Campbell Ph.D., John M. Grohol PsyD, John W. Santrock Ph.D., Florin Selagea M.S., Robert Sommer (2013). <a rel="nofollow" class="external text" href="https://books.google.com/books?id=aM1oAgAAQBAJ&pg=PA390"><i>Self-Help That Works: Resources to Improve Emotional Health and Strengthen Relationships</i></a>. Oxford University Press. p. 390. <a href="/wiki/ISBN_(identifier)" class="mw-redirect" title="ISBN (identifier)">ISBN</a> <a href="/wiki/Special:BookSources/978-0-19-933364-6" title="Special:BookSources/978-0-19-933364-6"><bdi>978-0-19-933364-6</bdi></a>.</cite><span title="ctx_ver=Z39.88-2004&rft_val_fmt=info%3Aofi%2Ffmt%3Akev%3Amtx%3Abook&rft.genre=book&rft.btitle=Self-Help+That+Works%3A+Resources+to+Improve+Emotional+Health+and+Strengthen+Relationships&rft.pages=390&rft.pub=Oxford+University+Press&rft.date=2013&rft.isbn=978-0-19-933364-6&rft.au=John+C.+Norcross+Ph.D.%2C+Linda+F.+Campbell+Ph.D.%2C+John+M.+Grohol+PsyD%2C+John+W.+Santrock+Ph.D.%2C+Florin+Selagea+M.S.%2C+Robert+Sommer&rft_id=https%3A%2F%2Fbooks.google.com%2Fbooks%3Fid%3DaM1oAgAAQBAJ%26pg%3DPA390&rfr_id=info%3Asid%2Fen.wikipedia.org%3AI%27m+OK+%E2%80%93+You%27re+OK" class="Z3988"></span><span class="cs1-maint citation-comment"><code class="cs1-code">{{<a href="/wiki/Template:Cite_book" title="Template:Cite book">cite book</a>}}</code>: CS1 maint: multiple names: authors list (<a href="/wiki/Category:CS1_maint:_multiple_names:_authors_list" title="Category:CS1 maint: multiple names: authors list">link</a>)</span></span> </li> <li id="cite_note-4"><span class="mw-cite-backlink"><b><a href="#cite_ref-4">^</a></b></span> <span class="reference-text"><link rel="mw-deduplicated-inline-style" href="mw-data:TemplateStyles:r1238218222"><cite id="CITEREFHarris" class="citation book cs1">Harris, Thomas. <i>I'm OK, You're OK</i>. Harper 2004.</cite><span title="ctx_ver=Z39.88-2004&rft_val_fmt=info%3Aofi%2Ffmt%3Akev%3Amtx%3Abook&rft.genre=book&rft.btitle=I%27m+OK%2C+You%27re+OK&rft.pub=Harper+2004.&rft.aulast=Harris&rft.aufirst=Thomas&rfr_id=info%3Asid%2Fen.wikipedia.org%3AI%27m+OK+%E2%80%93+You%27re+OK" class="Z3988"></span></span> </li> <li id="cite_note-drthomasharris.com/im-5"><span class="mw-cite-backlink"><b><a href="#cite_ref-drthomasharris.com/im_5-0">^</a></b></span> <span class="reference-text"><link rel="mw-deduplicated-inline-style" href="mw-data:TemplateStyles:r1238218222"><cite id="CITEREFBerne2013" class="citation web cs1">Berne, Eric (2013). <a rel="nofollow" class="external text" href="http://www.drthomasharris.com/im-ok-youre-ok-book-thomas-harris/">"Thomas A. Harris M.D. Author of I'm OK – You're OK"</a>.</cite><span title="ctx_ver=Z39.88-2004&rft_val_fmt=info%3Aofi%2Ffmt%3Akev%3Amtx%3Abook&rft.genre=unknown&rft.btitle=Thomas+A.+Harris+M.D.+Author+of+I%27m+OK+%E2%80%93+You%27re+OK&rft.date=2013&rft.aulast=Berne&rft.aufirst=Eric&rft_id=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.drthomasharris.com%2Fim-ok-youre-ok-book-thomas-harris%2F&rfr_id=info%3Asid%2Fen.wikipedia.org%3AI%27m+OK+%E2%80%93+You%27re+OK" class="Z3988"></span></span> </li> <li id="cite_note-6"><span class="mw-cite-backlink"><b><a href="#cite_ref-6">^</a></b></span> <span class="reference-text"><link rel="mw-deduplicated-inline-style" href="mw-data:TemplateStyles:r1238218222"><cite id="CITEREFMilner1977" class="citation journal cs1">Milner, B (June 18, 1977). "Wilder Penfield: his legacy to neurology. 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"The rupture and repair of cooperation in borderline personality disorder". <i>Science</i> 321, pp. 806–810. <link rel="mw-deduplicated-inline-style" href="mw-data:TemplateStyles:r1238218222"><a href="/wiki/Doi_(identifier)" class="mw-redirect" title="Doi (identifier)">doi</a>:<a rel="nofollow" class="external text" href="https://doi.org/10.1126%2Fscience.1155236902">10.1126/science.1155236902</a>.</span> </li> <li id="cite_note-8"><span class="mw-cite-backlink"><b><a href="#cite_ref-8">^</a></b></span> <span class="reference-text"><link rel="mw-deduplicated-inline-style" href="mw-data:TemplateStyles:r1238218222"><cite id="CITEREFHemminger2003" class="citation book cs1">Hemminger, Hansjörg (2003). <i>Grundwissen Religionspsychologie. Ein Handbuch für Studium und Praxis</i>. Herder. pp. 59f.</cite><span title="ctx_ver=Z39.88-2004&rft_val_fmt=info%3Aofi%2Ffmt%3Akev%3Amtx%3Abook&rft.genre=book&rft.btitle=Grundwissen+Religionspsychologie.+Ein+Handbuch+f%C3%BCr+Studium+und+Praxis&rft.pages=59f&rft.pub=Herder&rft.date=2003&rft.aulast=Hemminger&rft.aufirst=Hansj%C3%B6rg&rfr_id=info%3Asid%2Fen.wikipedia.org%3AI%27m+OK+%E2%80%93+You%27re+OK" class="Z3988"></span></span> </li> </ol></div></div> <div class="mw-heading mw-heading2"><h2 id="External_links">External links</h2><span class="mw-editsection"><span class="mw-editsection-bracket">[</span><a href="/w/index.php?title=I%27m_OK_%E2%80%93_You%27re_OK&action=edit&section=10" title="Edit section: External links"><span>edit</span></a><span class="mw-editsection-bracket">]</span></span></div> <ul><li><a rel="nofollow" class="external free" href="http://www.ericberne.com/">http://www.ericberne.com/</a> – Dr. Eric Berne</li> <li><a rel="nofollow" class="external free" href="http://www.drthomasharris.com/im-ok-youre-ok-book-thomas-harris/">http://www.drthomasharris.com/im-ok-youre-ok-book-thomas-harris/</a> – Information on Dr. Thomas A. 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