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Pusch</a> <a class="date">07/04/2017</a> <a href="#comments" class="comments">9 Kommentare</a> <a class="lang" href="https://www.fembio.org/biographie.php/frau/comments/endlich-duerfen-auch-wir-in-wilder-ehe-leben/"><img src="https://www.fembio.org/images/flags/German.png" alt="also available in German" title="also available in German" style="height:18px; border:0px;"></a> </div> <img src="https://vg09.met.vgwort.de/na/ac6dd5fc7f354676b36c36da4dc94e04" width="1" height="1" alt=""> <p><em>NB: The German term “wilde Ehe” (wild marriage) refers to the situation of two persons who live together, possibly even have children together, without being legally married. (Perhaps something akin to today’s undocumented immigrants in the USA.) Previously this term applied only to heterosexual couples; the English “living in sin” is a rough equivalent. (Of course LGBTQ folks are still considered to be living in sin by many countries, cultures and religions, no matter whether single or partnered.) On June 30 the German Bundestag voted to legalize “marriage for all.” Luise’s comments follow:</em></p> <p>I have always considered marriage to be an institution in which the age-old patriarchal power imbalance between the sexes is reinforced all the more by being cemented in law. As SPD leader Thomas Oppermann rightly commented on television host Maybrit Illner’s recent talk show: “In the past a wife could not sign a contract or practice a profession without her husband’s permission. In short, if marriage today were still like that no woman would consider it.” With same-sex couples no historically woven, socially determined power discrepancy exists, at most an individual one between partners. If now – thanks to the newly opened “marriage for all” declared by the Bundestag last Friday – ever increasing numbers of gay and lesbian couples marry, the old marital gender hierarchy will be undermined and, one hopes, soon leveled out.</p> <p>When the debate around legalizing marriage for gays and lesbians began around 30 years ago I was – like  many feminists of the Second Women’s Movement – strictly opposed to it. We were progressive and found marriage outdated. So we argued in favor of abolishing marriage: “marriage for no one” instead of “marriage for all.” Why should people who hadn’t found a marriage partner be disadvantaged legally, above all in their tax bracket? In our opinion “special consideration and protection” should be granted only to those who are responsible for raising children and caring for sick, disabled and/or elderly dependents. Such groups should be defined as “families,” and this type of family would be covered by the “Schutz der staatlichen Ordnung” (Protection under State Regulations; Article 6.1, German constitution).</p> <p>Back then I could sympathize with the idea of marriage for gays and lesbians only because of the possibility that it would bring us closer to the goal of “abolishing marriage:” heterosexual couples would find the idea that lesbians and gays could join their marriage club so disgusting and dishonoring that they would decline to join themselves. “We don’t want any marriage that is also open to the dregs of humanity. No thanks! Count us out.” And the institution of marriage would gradually dissolve of its own accord. Or so we thought.</p> <p>But in fact things have turned out quite differently. Everyone seems to be heading for the marriage bed, especially those who were previously excluded. Everyone – well, let’s say almost everyone – is happy about the social progress: champagne corks are popping, and it’s raining confetti in the Bundestag. We too rejoice and will most likely now – after 31 years of living in sin – get married ourselves before long. It’s high time that after our decades of dissolute “wild marriage” we put our relationship on a legally recognized basis. Actually, we could have done that 16 years ago, but we didn’t want to be “verpartnert” (“partnered up,” the German legal option, comparable to civil union). For one thing, we couldn’t stand the term, and also, we rejected an inferior, second-class marriage.</p> <p>Actually our long-term relationship was not even a “wilde Ehe.” That too was limited to heterosexuals. But now we also qualify to live in a “wild marriage,” how wonderful.</p> <p>And the linguistic contortions surrounding this development! First we had “Verpartnerung” (partnering up), an unusually nasty and stupid term <a href="https://www.fembio.org/biographie.php/frau/comments/homo-ehe-verpartnerung-und-andere-unwoerter/">about which I shared my outrage</a> as early as 2001. Then there’s the “Homo-Ehe” (homo marriage), which I declared in 2013 to be the “Unwort” (ugliest, most dreadful and impossible word) of the decade (ibid.). The word is as discriminatory as the word “Mischehe” (mixed marriage), with which marriages between Jewish and “aryan” hetero couples used to be stigmatized in the Third Reich – or those between Blacks and Whites in the USA.</p> <p>At the time I proposed speaking instead about “old” and “new” marriage. Applying that terminology, we could say that the Bundestag voted last Friday on the new marriage and gave its blessing.</p> <p>But the expression “marriage for all” seems to have gained general acceptance, perhaps partially in order to preempt possible challenges from the BTTIQ (bisexual, transgender, transsexual, intersexual, queer) segment of the LGBTTIQ community. The 50 sexual and/or gender identities that Facebook has discerned and provides space for can be included under “marriage for all.”  From now on Paragraph 1353 of the German Civil Code will read: “Marriage is contracted for life between two persons of differing or the same gender(s).” What kind of gender is expressly left open here. No talk of “man” or “woman,” “husband” or “wife.”</p> <p>Smart alecks proclaim they will now marry their guinea pig or their bicycle. Marriage “for all” exists “for all;” hence guinea pigs and bikes cannot be discriminated against. Of course these wiseacres overlook the fact that the only ones who are now allowed to marry are those who already qualified before “marriage for all” came into being. Guinea pigs and bicycles are not persons and thus do not belong to this group. A bike can transport you, but not the way a lover can. Even a battle-scarred old lesbian like myself always had the right to marry, and yes, even in Germany. The only hitch was: I had to marry a man. So naturally I preferred to remain single.</p> <p>Many lesbians and gays entered into sham marriages to evade the often deadly homophobia of their society. In the Nazi era especially that was an obvious solution to life-threatening problems: lesbian lovers <a href="https://www.fembio.org/biographie.php/frau/biographie/erika-mann1/">Erika Mann</a> and <a href="https://www.fembio.org/english/biography.php/woman/biography/therese-giehse/">Therese Giehse</a> both married gay British authors (Wystan H. Auden, John Hampson-Simpson). </p> <p>When we are married I can – officially and with no nonsense – call Joey “my wife.” No more embarrassed mumbling about “my life partner” or “my friend” (the version for repair-persons, hotel personnel and similar folk whom one didn’t necessarily want to involve in intimate revelations.) Recently the saleswoman in our bakery said cheerfully: “Say hello to your wife!” Well, that’s the younger generation for you. No concept of the wounds that we accumulated over decades in the closet, nor of the virtually paranoid caution with which we protected our “private life” from prying eyes.  Which we continued to believe necessary even where danger no longer threatened. The friendly greeting “to my wife” seemed strange to me, almost a little too bold, even intrusive, yet at the same time: refreshingly direct and uncomplicated. I’ll soon have plenty of chances to practice and learn, and when I hear, “Say hello to your wife,” I won’t cringe as though outed involuntarily but react with “gay pride” and a smile. As though it’s simply quite normal. ;)</p> <p>(<em>trans. 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Pusch</a> </span></h4></div> <p>@ Oliver Gassner<br /> Im Grunde hast du natürlich recht. Aber die Formulierung “Die Ehe wird von zwei Personen ... geschlossen” kann im traditionellen Sinne verstanden werden. Dass die zwei Personen Frau und Mann sein müssen, war ja bis vor kurzem so selbstverständlich, dass es im Grundgesetz nicht einmal erwähnt wurde. Deshalb ist es nützlich, die neuen Regeln richtig auszubuchstabieren.</p> </div> </li> <li class="comment"> <div class="avatarimage"><img alt="Avatar" src="https://secure.gravatar.com/avatar/a290b8ae4be808811d7bef17dc757211?s=50" height="50" width="50" class="rounded" /></div> <div class="comment-body"> <div class="comment-author"><h4>07/07/2017 16:13, <span><a href="https://www.fembio.org" rel="nofollow">Luise F. Pusch</a> </span></h4></div> <p>@Anne: “Meine Frau” ist nicht unbedingt “besitzergreifend”. Die sogenannten “besitzanzeigenden Fürwörter” (Possessivpronomina) haben viele Funktionen und Bedeutungen. Z.B. “meine Ankunft”, “ihre Zustimmung”, “seine Entlassung” , “deine Schwester” - ist da irgendwas besitzergreifend?<br /> Es kann wie in “deine Schwester” einfach Zugehörigkeit bedeuten.<br /> Ansonsten stimme ich Dir in vielem zu. Ob wir heiraten werden, ist auch noch nicht raus. Es hängt davon ab, ob wir dadurch unsere Aufenthaltsdauer im Land der jeweiligen Ehefrau verlängern können. Dass wir in ein gesetzlich vermintes Feld einheiraten würden, ist uns klar. Auch dieses Feld werden wir erst sorgfältig studieren müssen.</p> </div> </li> <li class="comment"> <div class="avatarimage"><img alt="Avatar" src="https://secure.gravatar.com/avatar/504b74ad28d77a1db1d5c0f446eb6cf2?s=50" height="50" width="50" class="rounded" /></div> <div class="comment-body"> <div class="comment-author"><h4>07/07/2017 12:50, <span>Lena Vandrey </span></h4></div> <p>Unsere große Kämpferin Simone Veil hat uns verlassen.<br /> Ihre Themen waren : der Genozid an den europäischen Juden, das Schwangerschaftsabbruch-Gesetz, das ihren Namen trägt, und Europa. Bestattet wurde sie im Friedhof von Montparnasse, nach einer Zeremonie im Dom der Invaliden. Nun soll sie aber in den hochhöchsten Ort des Landes kommen, in das Pantheon. Dort liegen nur Persönlichkeiten mit großen Verdiensten um das Land.<br /> Die Freude über diesen Entschluss verwandelte sich schnell in blankes Entsetzen, denn ihr Ehemann wird ihr dazugegeben. Simone Veil ist als Witwe gestorben und wird nun post mortem wieder an dieses böse Männchen verehelicht. Er hatte ihr verboten, Anwältin zu werden, und noch viele andere Gemeinheiten gehen auf sein Konto. Dieser Ehemann hat keinerlei Verdienste um Frankreich.<br /> Das Ganze ist ein Verrat an ihr, an uns, an allen Frauen.<br /> Bislang wurden berühmten und verdienten Ehefrauen keine Ehemänner hinzuverpackt.<br /> Bis dass der Tod uns scheidet ? Im Gegenteil ! Marmor, Stein und Eisen bricht, aber unsere Ehe nicht !<br /> Die alberne Brigitte Macron hätte das doch verhindern müssen. Wer Simone Veil im Pantheon besuchen möchte, wird sie nicht finden, wohl aber das Ehepaar Veil ...<br /> Diese schäbige Anekdote passt doch gut zu Annes Ausführungen, für welche wir von Herzen dankbar sind !</p> </div> </li> <li class="comment"> <div class="avatarimage"><img alt="Avatar" src="https://secure.gravatar.com/avatar/845b48d82cf71b4309a34c72cf295ff9?s=50" height="50" width="50" class="rounded" /></div> <div class="comment-body"> <div class="comment-author"><h4>07/06/2017 12:20, <span>Anne </span></h4></div> <p>Brauchen wir überhaupt die institution `Ehe` , bei der es früher aufgrund von erfahrungen hieß: betreten auf eigene gefahr, das feld ist vermint - insofern gab/gibt es eine menge an eheFallen - eine tatsache.  Ich glaube, da spielt sich das machtgefälle zwischen den menschen tag-täglich ab, wenn die normalität im ehe-alltag und die ernüchterung eingekehrt ist ,  wir arrangieren uns.  Ganze industriezweige leben von der romantisierung der ehe und den versprechungen auf lebenslange haltbarkeit und noch mehr zuneigung .. <br /> Die `wilde` ehe - einst verpönt , verdammt und vor allem für frauen skandalös,  hatte die `alte` ehe mal verdrängt , sie wurde salonfähig und war auch protest gegen die herrkömmliche patriarchale institution.    Was mich beschäftigt ist, dass ausgerechnet diese form des amtlich beglaubigten zusammenseins uns nun die gleichen rechte zubilligen wird, die anderen aber ,  weiter in `wilder` ehe lebenden ,  verwehrt bleiben..  Ich sehe darin eher einen erneuten zwang zur heirat, zur ehe , um mit allen rechten ausstaffiert zu werden .. Es gibt sie , die zwangsehe ,  der zwang zur ehe,  und dieser zwang ist vielfältig.. die liebe, zuneigung bräuchte sie eigentlich nicht ?  `Meine Frau` zu sagen , ohne diffamiert zu werden,  ist natürlich ein wunderbarer fortschritt , aber irgendwie kommt mir das auch wieder besitzergreifend vor ..  wer den schritt zur hochzeit wagt, kann nun eher sagen `meine Ehefrau` , das gilt für frauen wie für männer .  Vielleicht gibt es ja ein anderes wort für ehe - ich finde keines . Abgesehen davon, der begriff `schwesternschaft`  gefällt mir , klingt nach solidarität , einheit , verbundenheit .  Die ehe ist für mich kein synonym für gemeinsamkeit -  wenn schon ehe, da bleibe ich lieber bei der `wilden ehe` , die hat so viele nackenschläge der erz-konservativen einstecken müssen und lesben i.d. zwangsehe geschickt,  dass sie ein update erfahren sollte, denn sie besteht /bestand nicht unbedingt auf eine vertragliche grundlage?  <br /> Für Luise und Joey natürlich - ob mit oder ohne trauSchein - auch nach so vielen jahren der gemeinsamkeit weitere jahrzehnte der gemeinsamkeit ...</p> </div> </li> <li class="comment"> <div class="avatarimage"><img alt="Avatar" src="https://secure.gravatar.com/avatar/6776428174a1d92feaf6f4d748f1d5c5?s=50" height="50" width="50" class="rounded" /></div> <div class="comment-body"> <div class="comment-author"><h4>07/06/2017 09:59, <span>Oliver Gassner </span></h4></div> <p>Jetzt muss ich mal dumm fragen (was mir als Mann ja nicht schwer fällt:<br /> ““Die Ehe wird von zwei Personen verschiedenen oder gleichen Geschlechts auf Lebenszeit geschlossen.” <br /> wäre doch super zu ersetzen durch:<br /> “Die Ehe wird von zwei Personen auf Lebenszeit geschlossen.”</p> <p>Denn an sich ist die Ehe (ich sehe das persönlich als einen von der Gesellschaft standardisierten Partnervertrag) doch jetzt vom Thema Geschlecht / Sex / Gender / whatever abgekoppelt, oder?</p> <p>Abgesehen davon, dass es ein unnötig komplexer Satz ist.</p> </div> </li> <li class="comment"> <div class="avatarimage"><img alt="Avatar" src="https://secure.gravatar.com/avatar/504b74ad28d77a1db1d5c0f446eb6cf2?s=50" height="50" width="50" class="rounded" /></div> <div class="comment-body"> <div class="comment-author"><h4>07/05/2017 14:11, <span>Lena Vandrey </span></h4></div> <p>So das Wort, so die Dinge ?<br /> “Verpartnerung” ist natürlich hässlich, aber alles, was mit “ver” anfängt, ist fies. Dass eine Frau eine Frau haben kann, erfuhr ich erst durch Irmtraud Morgner, ihre Trobadora Beatrix und deren Spielfrau Laura. Ist es nicht bezaubernd, eine Spielfrau zu haben ? Trotz unseres schamlosen Alters sind wir immer noch Spielfrauen, weil wir weiterhin versuchen, das Leben zu spielen. Grüßen Sie Ihre Spielfrau! müsste es heißen, und nicht Ihre Frau! denn man hat uns doch eingetrichtert, dass wir keine Frauen sind. Grüßen Sie Ihre Lesbe! muss es heißen.<br /> Nun eine Frage über die Scheinehe : Wenn eine Deutsche heute eine Syrerin heiratet, bekommt Selbige automatisch die deutsche Staatsangehörigkeit ? Oder wird nachgeguckt, ob die Ehe auch vollzogen wurde ... In meiner Jugend bin ich eine Scheinehe eingegangen und in der vorbräutlichen Untersuchung wurde mein künftiger Ehefreund behandelt wie ein Ochse. So schwierig es alles war, so schnell geriet auch alles in Vergessenheit. Die deutschen Aupair-Mädchen jedoch, welche sich mit Schwulen verheiraten wollten, mussten erfahren, dass die schwulen Herren auf den Vollzug der Ehe drängten. 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