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<!DOCTYPE HTML PUBLIC "-//W3C//DTD HTML 4.0 Transitional//EN"> <html> <head> <meta http-equiv="Content-Type" content="text/html; charset=ISO-8859-1"> <link href="/~krissie/favicon.ico" rel="shortcut icon"> <link href="/~krissie/style.css" rel="stylesheet" type="text/css"> <title>Krissie's Page</title> </head> <body> <h1><img src="icon-32.gif" border=0 width=32 height=32 alt="" align=right>Krissie's Page</h1> <p> <table cellspacing=0 cellpadding=0><tr> <td valign=top> <a href="bride.jpg"><img src="face.gif" align=left></a> Krissie Griffiths left us at 2:57 am on Sunday, January 19th, 1997, after a long and heroic battle against <a href="#lymphoma">non-Hodgkins lymphoma</a> under the exceptional care of Dr. George Waltuch (and many, many others). When it became clear her treatment was not going to be successful, she had no fear of death, only of dying alone. Her final hours were spent at <a href="https://med.stanford.edu/">Stanford University Hospital</a> in the company of her husband <a href="/~karl/">Karl</a>, her sister-in-law Therese, The Rev. Margaret Irwin, and her close friends Marc and Lynn Macy. <p> <a href="happy.jpg"><img src="happy-small.gif" align=right></a> While not concerned about herself at the end, she was very concerned about her friends, and wanted them all to know that she was at peace with dying. She especially wanted everyone to <a href="happy.jpg">celebrate life</a>, not mourn death, and to that end wanted her memorial services to be a celebration of life. Two such celebrations were held, for the convenience of friends in her long-time home of Los Angeles and her recently adopted home in the San Francisco Bay Area. <h3>Krissie Gets Published!!!</h3> <table cellspacing=0 cellpadding=0> <tr><td valign=middle> <img src="hot.gif" alt="" align=left> </td><td> Krissie didn't get to see her name in print, but her friends can. Look for her <em>Tofu Piccata</em> recipe in the <a href="https://web.archive.org/web/20080703201156/http://www.healthy-eating.com/tasty.htm">Tasty Bytes Cookbook</a>. <br clear=left> </td></tr> </table> </td> <td nowrap width=5> </td> <td bgcolor="#000080" width=2 height=100%><br></td> <td nowrap width=5> </td> <td valign=top nowrap> <big><b>The Dance</b></big><br> <em>Garth Brooks</em> <p> Lookin' back on the memory of<br> the dance we shared<br> beneath the stars above.<br> For a moment, all the world was right.<br> How could I have known<br> that you'd ever say 'good bye?' <p> <em>(Chorus)<br> And now, I'm glad I didn't know<br> the way it all would end<br> the way it all would go.<br> Our lives are better left to chance.<br> I could have missed the pain,<br> but I'd've had to miss the dance.</em> <p> Holdin' you, I've held everything.<br> For a moment, wasn't I the king?<br> But if I'd only known<br> how the king would fall,<br> Hey, who's to say,<br> you know I might have changed it all. <br> Repeat <em>(Chorus)</em> <p> Yes, my life, it's better left to chance.<br> I could have missed the pain,<br> but I'd've had to miss the dance.<br> <p> <center><embed src="/midi/country/thedance.mid" width=128 height=48 align=center border=1 autostart=true loop=true volume=50></center> </td> </tr></table> <p> <h3>Memorials</h3> <p> <table cellspacing=0 cellpadding=0> <tr><td valign=middle> <img src="orca-trans.gif" alt=""> </td><td class="default"> Krissie did not want flowers, preferring that those who feel the need to do so make a memorial contribution directed to where it will do the most good for animal welfare and/or cancer research. Both were important to her, so please consider splitting contributions equally between the two causes, even if your own feeling is that one is more worthy than the other. </td></tr> </table> <h4>Memorials - Animal Welfare</h4> <p class="default"> Krissie loved farm animals, and wanted to live where she could have a pet cow and a pet pig. You can help farm animals with a contribution to <p class="default"> <table> <tr><td> <blockquote> <a href="http://www.farmsanctuary.org/">Farm Sanctuary</a> <br>PO Box 1065 <br>Orland, California 95963 <br>1-916/865-4617 </blockquote> </td><td align=center valign=top width=120> <img src="feedpig-small.gif" alt=""> </td></tr> </table> <p class="default"> Not everyone is a <a href="http://www.waste.org/~lanshark/vegan/">vegan</a> as Krissie was, so if helping farm animals is not your style, perhaps you'd prefer to contribute to the care and feeding of cats and dogs at a "no-kill" sanctuary for animals abandoned in the mountains surrounding Los Angeles: <p class="default"> <table> <tr><td> <blockquote> D.E.L.T.A. Rescue <br>PO Box 9 <br>Glendale, California 91209 </blockquote> </td><td width=20> </td><td align=center valign=top> </td></tr> </table> <p class="default"> While Krissie was not the big fan of horses that some are, it was hard for her to resist a mare and her foal in a beautiful setting south of Carmel, overlooking Monterey Bay. Many of the horses (and burros, which Karl was especially fond of) had stories that made Krissie very sad, knowing that lack of funding meant many others had not been so fortunate as the animals who did make it to <p class="default"> <table> <tr><td> <blockquote> <a href="https://redwingshorsesanctuary.org">Redwings Horse Sanctuary</a> <br>PO Box 58 <br>Lockwood, California 93932 <br>1.831.386.0135 </blockquote> </td><td align=center valign=top width=120> <img src="foal-small.gif" alt=""> </td></tr> </table> <p class="default"> Krissie loved wild animals, too, with a special appreciation for <a href="http://www.tmmc.org/">marine mammals</a>, perhaps because she lived her whole life within a short drive of on ocean. <a href="http://www.montereybayaquarium.org/"><img src="mba.gif" alt="" width=36 height=36 align=right border=0></a> She was incensed at the thought of whales and other cetaceans being kept in aquarium tanks, where the confined spaces not only atrophy their muscles but, with hard walls to those spaces, cause the animals to become confused and disoriented from the multitude of sonar reflections. While she learned to love the <a href="http://www.montereybayaquarium.org/">Monterey Bay Aquarium</a>, you might consider a memorial contribution to <p class="default"> <table> <tr><td> <blockquote> <a href="http://www.tmmc.org/">The Marine Mammal Center</a> <br>Marin Headlands <br>Golden Gate National Recreation Area <br>Sausalito, California 94965 <br>1-415/289-SEAL </blockquote> </td><td width=20> </td><td align=center valign=top> </td></tr> </table> <h4>Memorials - Cancer Research</h4> <p class="default"> During her treatment, Krissie participated in a clinical trial at Stanford Medical Center. After many years of fighting against medical research using animals, arguing that all too often the results are only marginally applicable to humans (even if we have the right to experiment on other species), she welcomed the chance to serve as a more appropriate subject. She was struck, though, by the biography of Dr. Alan Yuen, her doctor during the study, which explained how much doctors give up by pursuing research careers, with comparatively meager funding, when they could do much better in private practice. <p class="default"> Krissie had wanted to find a good way to get contributions to where they'll do the most good for doctors who have sacrificed more financially rewarding career paths to focus on the personally rewarding goal of helping eradicate cancer, without paying the heavy overhead costs of many formal cancer organizations. So far, a good way to do this hasn't turned up. Suggestions would be most welcome! <p class="default"> <h3>Memorial Services</h3> <table cellspacing=0 cellpadding=0> <tr><td> <ul> <li>7:30 pm on Wednesday, January 22, 1997 <br><a href="http://www.asaints.org/">All Saints' Episcopal Church</a>  <br>555 Waverley St. at Hamilton Ave. <br>Palo Alto, California <br> <br> <li>4:30 pm on Saturday, February 1, 1997 <br>St. Bede's Episcopal Church <br>3590 Grand View Blvd. at Charnock Rd. <br>(Mar Vista area) <br>Los Angeles, California </ul> </td><td align=center valign=middle width=180> <a href="http://www2.flowerweb.nl/flowerbase/detail.cfm?fbasedetail=10064a01"><img src="dianthus-niva-small.gif" alt="" border=0></a> </td></tr> </table> <p class="default"> <h3><a name="lymphoma">Lymphoma Resources</a></h3> <p class="default"> There is a great deal of information about lymphoma available on the web: <ul> <li> The <a href="http://www.lymphoma.org/">Lymphoma Research Foundation of America</a>'s list of <a href="http://www.lymphoma.org/resource.html">resources</a> is a good starting point. <li> The <a href="http://www.wvonline.com/sigley/NHL_Web_site.htm">Non-Hodgkin's Lymphoma Web Site</a> is dedicated to the disease and its victims. <li> <a href="http://oncolink.upenn.edu/pdq_html/">OncoLink</a> features medical information about <a href="http://oncolink.upenn.edu/pdq_html/1/engl/100066.html">non-Hodgkin's lymphoma</a> and other cancers. </ul> <br clear=all> <p>  <hr> <a href="http://www.freebsd.org/"><img src="/freebsd.gif" border=0 alt="Powered by FreeBSD" width=171 height=64 align=right></a> <p> Copyright © 1996-1999,2001-2003,2008,2020,2024, Karl L. Swartz. All rights reserved.<br> All trademarks mentioned herein belong to their respective owners. <p> <address> Krissie Griffiths c/o <a href="/~karl/"><em>Karl Swartz <karl@kls2.com></em></a> </address> </span> </body> </html>