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That\u0026#39;s why , in Chapter 7 , we\u0026#39;ll look at the importance of encouraging ( and modeling ) self - control . Strength - based parenting relieves you from spending time and effort taking a scattershot\u0026nbsp;..."},{"page_id":"PA93","page_number":"93","snippet_text":"... \u003cb\u003ebehaviors\u003c/b\u003e and how they affect various situations . ||||||||||| I first connected Jamie with his strengths at age seven or eight using the VIA strengths cards . We went out to a café ( as a treat ) to begin work on this . We laid the\u0026nbsp;..."},{"page_id":"PA94","page_number":"94","snippet_text":"... \u003cb\u003ebehavioral\u003c/b\u003e struggles at school and at home . At the time , he had a negative view of himself as not putting in or sustaining effort and only moderately feeling listened to and loved . Taking the survey changed his view . EXERCISE\u0026nbsp;..."},{"page_id":"PA102","page_number":"102","snippet_text":"... The neural networks your teenager uses more often become fitter and stronger and win the battle , while those that underlie less frequently used \u003cb\u003ebehaviors\u003c/b\u003e , thoughts , skills , and emotions are 102❘ THE STRENGTH SWITCH."},{"page_id":"PA103","page_number":"103","snippet_text":"... \u003cb\u003ebehavior\u003c/b\u003e , impulsivity , risk taking , and sensation - seeking \u003cb\u003ebehaviors\u003c/b\u003e . \u0026quot; Your child isn\u0026#39;t doing this to annoy you . She really does see the world in terms of the here and now , because the parts of the brain that offer foresight\u0026nbsp;..."},{"page_id":"PA104","page_number":"104","snippet_text":"... \u003cb\u003ebehavior\u003c/b\u003e while at the same time protecting your teen from physical , psychological , social , and emotional danger ... \u003cb\u003ebehaviors\u003c/b\u003e . This is also a time to be on the lookout for any hidden talents your child may wish to develop while\u0026nbsp;..."},{"page_id":"PA108","page_number":"108","snippet_text":"... \u003cb\u003ebehaviors\u003c/b\u003e such as learning how to settle disputes and asking deeper questions , but adolescence is really the time of rapid wisdom growth as teens \u0026#39; brains drive them to seek new sensations , separate from parents , explore the world\u0026nbsp;..."},{"page_id":"PA134","page_number":"134","snippet_text":"... \u003cb\u003ebehavior\u003c/b\u003e . 16 ADHD children whose parents use praise , positive emotions , physical affection , and positive engagement as regular features of their parenting have fewer conduct problems , fewer mood issues , fewer sociability problems\u0026nbsp;..."},{"page_id":"PA137","page_number":"137","snippet_text":"... \u003cb\u003ebehavior\u003c/b\u003e , or a weakness , how can I support my child\u0026#39;s process ? The activities in the rest of this chapter will help both you and your child increase your attentional chops . Savoring Savoring is an enjoyable form of attentional\u0026nbsp;..."},{"page_id":"PA147","page_number":"147","snippet_text":"... \u003cb\u003ebehavior\u003c/b\u003e . Suppose you and I are hanging out on the savannah and you offer me some tasty food you\u0026#39;ve gathered . You didn\u0026#39;t have to do that , since I\u0026#39;m not related to you . If I get a warm glow of gratitude and am compelled to share that\u0026nbsp;..."},{"page_id":"PA148","page_number":"148","snippet_text":"... a society without the cooperative \u003cb\u003ebehavior\u003c/b\u003e cemented by gratitude . Roman philosopher Cicero called it \u0026quot; the parent \u0026quot; of all the virtues . EXERCISE : Gateways to Gratitude We can train ourselves and 148 THE STRENGTH SWITCH."},{"page_id":"PA183","page_number":"183","snippet_text":"... \u003cb\u003ebehavior\u003c/b\u003e . In a paper I published on this topic with my colleagues Rebekah Keenan - Mount and Nikki Albrecht , we found that mindfulness - based interventions helped not only children with spectrum disorders but also their parents.21\u0026nbsp;..."},{"page_id":"PA211","page_number":"211","snippet_text":"... \u003cb\u003ebehavior\u003c/b\u003e associated with teenagers . Here again , there may be evolutionary good reasons : We didn\u0026#39;t live much longer than our teens in primeval times , and we likely needed what today we would consider foolhardy levels of courage to\u0026nbsp;..."},{"page_id":"PA212","page_number":"212","snippet_text":"... \u003cb\u003ebehavior\u003c/b\u003e and reduces depression and risky \u003cb\u003ebehavior\u003c/b\u003e.18 Research shows that children with high self - control grow into adults with greater physical and mental health , greater education attainment , fewer substance - abuse problems\u0026nbsp;..."},{"page_id":"PA216","page_number":"216","snippet_text":"... term project , or exercising . Approach homework through an understanding of your child\u0026#39;s core and growth strengths , learned \u003cb\u003ebehaviors\u003c/b\u003e , and weaknesses . Different approaches may work on different days , so don\u0026#39;t 216 THE STRENGTH SWITCH."},{"page_id":"PA220","page_number":"220","snippet_text":"... \u003cb\u003ebehaviors\u003c/b\u003e over time ; notice patterns both positive and negative ; and use that awareness to apply our self - control and attention to meet life goals . The more self - aware we are , the better we can see our patterns and control our\u0026nbsp;..."},{"page_id":"PA223","page_number":"223","snippet_text":"... \u003cb\u003ebehavior\u003c/b\u003e ; it\u0026#39;s about using selfcontrol to handle the feelings and bad \u003cb\u003ebehavior\u003c/b\u003e constructively . You\u0026#39;ve got a head start on emotional coaching if you\u0026#39;re using the mindfulness techniques in Chapter 6 to build your child\u0026#39;s emotional\u0026nbsp;..."},{"page_id":"PA234","page_number":"234","snippet_text":"... \u003cb\u003ebehavior\u003c/b\u003e , praise for character singles out and recognizes a person\u0026#39;s innate qualities — thus the term \u0026quot; person - praise . \u0026quot; Using our examples of the child bringing home a painting or a test with an improved score , here\u0026#39;s what\u0026nbsp;..."},{"page_id":"PA249","page_number":"249","snippet_text":"... \u003cb\u003ebehaviors\u003c/b\u003e signify a block in our drive toward strength - based growth . Strength - based discipline is about working with a child to discover what\u0026#39;s blocking his progress and helping him get back on track . That\u0026#39;s what this chapter will\u0026nbsp;..."},{"page_id":"PA251","page_number":"251","snippet_text":"... \u003cb\u003ebehavior\u003c/b\u003e makes others feel . 2. Tell your child that you are surprised that she has acted like that ; it\u0026#39;s not like her . 3. Punish her for what she has done . 4. Give your child the cold shoulder . 5. Ask your child to think about how\u0026nbsp;..."},{"page_id":"PA252","page_number":"252","snippet_text":"... \u003cb\u003ebehavior\u003c/b\u003e , teaching and reasoning with her , and helping her think about the impact of her \u003cb\u003ebehavior\u003c/b\u003e on others . • Expressing disappointment about expectations ( options 2 , 6 , 10 ) involves expressing disappointment with your child\u0026#39;s\u0026nbsp;..."},{"page_id":"PA253","page_number":"253","snippet_text":"... \u003cb\u003ebehavior\u003c/b\u003e and implies that you know he can make good choices , but that , in this instance , he has fallen short . ⚫ Power - assertive responses ( options 3 , 7 , 11 ) involve controlling the child through physical size / power and\u0026nbsp;..."},{"page_id":"PA254","page_number":"254","snippet_text":"... \u003cb\u003ebehavior\u003c/b\u003e : by inducing shame or by inducing guilt . Shame makes a person feel bad about who they are . It is deeply rejecting because it rejects the person as being , in essence , bad . Shameinducing statements might sound like this\u0026nbsp;..."},{"page_id":"PA255","page_number":"255","snippet_text":"... \u003cb\u003ebehavior\u003c/b\u003e : \u0026quot; I\u0026#39;m disappointed to hear that you teased the new student in your class . I wouldn\u0026#39;t have expected that ... \u003cb\u003eBehavioral\u003c/b\u003e Challenges from a Strengths Perspective I think the moments when our children make poor choices and\u0026nbsp;..."},{"page_id":"PA256","page_number":"256","snippet_text":"... \u003cb\u003ebehaviors\u003c/b\u003e as lapses in strength or as strength breakdowns . Rather than thinking , This kid is a problem , it\u0026#39;s about thinking , for example , This challenging \u003cb\u003ebehavior\u003c/b\u003e is happening because she forgot to use her strengths of fairness\u0026nbsp;..."},{"page_id":"PA258","page_number":"258","snippet_text":"... \u003cb\u003ebehavior\u003c/b\u003e . So I decided to work more through fairness and courage to let me be brave and stand up to my mom and let her know that it wasn\u0026#39;t right for her to be so hurtful toward me or my daughter . Things will always be strained , but\u0026nbsp;..."},{"page_id":"PA260","page_number":"260","snippet_text":"... \u003cb\u003ebehavior\u003c/b\u003e than fixating on what she did wrong . Consider these contrasts in parent - child conversation : Shame based ... \u003cb\u003ebehaviors\u003c/b\u003e . It\u0026#39;s also 260❘ THE STRENGTH SWITCH."},{"page_id":"PA261","page_number":"261","snippet_text":"... \u003cb\u003ebehaviors\u003c/b\u003e . It\u0026#39;s also empowering : Kids realize that it\u0026#39;s not a matter of their being \u0026quot; bad \u0026quot; but rather that their best self was not present in a particular situation : I didn\u0026#39;t do this because I\u0026#39;m a bad person . I just forgot to bring\u0026nbsp;..."},{"page_id":"PA262","page_number":"262","snippet_text":"... \u003cb\u003ebehavior\u003c/b\u003e might be better handled if we can flip our view to see it through a strength lens , as this teacher discovered : I thought I knew my eleventh graders pretty well — I had known them for their entire lives at school and taught\u0026nbsp;..."},{"page_id":"PA265","page_number":"265","snippet_text":"... \u003cb\u003ebehavior\u003c/b\u003e was unacceptable , but the discussion will be more effective if you use these tactics to downshift to a calmer mode before addressing the situation : • Take some downtime . Say , \u0026quot; I need time to think about this before we talk\u0026nbsp;..."},{"page_id":"PA266","page_number":"266","snippet_text":"... \u003cb\u003ebehaviors\u003c/b\u003e : Claire and I spoke about what a wonderful strength bravery is , but how , if overplayed , it could make her too bossy with her sisters and result in clashes . We talked about how she could turn this strength down if she felt\u0026nbsp;..."},{"page_id":"PA267","page_number":"267","snippet_text":"... \u003cb\u003eBehaviors\u003c/b\u003e This tactic can create constructive dialogue around even serious \u003cb\u003ebehavior\u003c/b\u003e problems , as this school psychologist explains : A tenth - grade boy at our school was getting into trouble , socializing with the wrong people , and\u0026nbsp;..."},{"page_id":"PA287","page_number":"287","snippet_text":"... \u003cb\u003ebehaviors\u003c/b\u003e , as well as reductions in early marriage and improvements in school engagement . Trials involving more than 50,000 high school students in 330 schools in Bihar are now under way with students attending weekly one - hour\u0026nbsp;..."},{"page_id":"PA313","page_number":"313","snippet_text":"... \u003cb\u003ebehavior\u003c/b\u003e , and weakness : A. Linley . Average to A + : Realizing Strengths in Yourself and Others ; G. Minhas ... \u003cb\u003ebehaviors\u003c/b\u003e : A. Linley , J. Willars , and R. Biswas - Diener . The Strengths Book . 15 making the most of our\u0026nbsp;..."},{"page_id":"PA315","page_number":"315","snippet_text":"... \u003cb\u003ebehavior\u003c/b\u003e , impulsivity , risk taking , and sensation - seeking \u003cb\u003ebehaviors\u003c/b\u003e : T. A. 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