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couldn’t walk out of my house with that red lipstick on, I am convinced. In the quest for safety I began to oppress myself. I became the person to qualify my womanhood based on how well I could pass or get through a situation unscathed. Living under the pressures of society has made it nearly impossible for me to be unaware of the ways I show up in any given situation. It’s difficult to be in public because I have not yet learned how to quiet the voice inside that is wondering if people are reading me as a trans person, which alone is not an issue but it calls my safety into question, and that is violence. My intersections create a perfect target on my back. Being aware of this is the reason I delude myself into thinking that I will be safer certain ways over others. It honestly isn’t the case, as a Black person, a Woman, a Trans person I know that no matter what I do, my body will be under scrutiny and susceptible to violence. I suppose what I wanted to wear on this day, and every other day is a shield. Instead I changed to a cute pink lipstick and told myself that it was one.</p><p id="1f9f" class="pw-post-body-paragraph nv nw hc nx b ny nz oa ob oc od oe of og oh oi oj ok ol om on oo op oq or os gv bk"><em class="ot">**Aaryn uses the pronouns: She/Her **</em></p></div></div></div><div class="ab cb ou ov ow ox" role="separator"><span class="oy by bm oz pa pb"></span><span class="oy by bm oz pa pb"></span><span class="oy by bm oz pa"></span></div><div class="gv gw gx gy gz"><div class="ab cb"><div class="ci bh fz ga gb gc"><p id="39e4" class="pw-post-body-paragraph nv nw hc nx b ny nz oa ob oc od oe of og oh oi oj ok ol om on oo op oq or os gv bk"><em class="ot">Feeling deep ambivalence about how we dress is something the trans and gender non-conforming communities experience acutely, but it’s not just about us. 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