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<p><span><span><span><span><span><span>Emotional <a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/sg/basics/intelligence" title="Psychology Today looks at intelligence" class="basics-link" hreflang="en-SG">intelligence</a> refers to the ability to identify and manage one&rsquo;s own emotions, as well as the emotions of others. Emotional intelligence is generally said to include a few skills: namely emotional awareness, or the ability to identify and name one&rsquo;s own emotions; the ability to harness those emotions and apply them to tasks like thinking and problem solving; and the ability to manage emotions, which includes both regulating one&rsquo;s own emotions when necessary and helping others to do the same.</span></span></span></span></span></span></p> </div> </div> </div> </div> <div class="table-of-contents border-top"> <h4 class="table-of-contents--title">Contents</h4> <ul> <li class="table-of-contents--item"> <a href="#the-roots-of-emotional-intelligence"> The Roots of Emotional Intelligence </a> </li> <li class="table-of-contents--item"> <a href="#how-to-cultivate-emotional-intelligence"> How to Cultivate Emotional Intelligence </a> </li> </ul> </div> <div class="reference__sections"> <div> <div> <div class="section section--separator"> <div id="the-roots-of-emotional-intelligence" class="section-anchor skip-inline-link-filter"></div> <div class="h2 section-title"> The Roots of Emotional Intelligence </div> <div class="section__body"> <article> <img src="https://cdn2.psychologytoday.com/assets/styles/manual_crop_1_1_180x180/public/shutterstock_359936474.jpg?itok=qKem0dXx" width="180" height="180" alt="VictoriaShapiro/Shutterstock" title="VictoriaShapiro/Shutterstock" loading="lazy" /> </article> <p><span><span><span><span><span><span>The theory of emotional intelligence was introduced by Peter Salovey and <a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/sg/contributors/john-d-mayer-phd">John D. Mayer</a> in the 1990s, and further developed and brought to the lay public by <a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/sg/contributors/dan-goleman-phd">Daniel Goleman</a>. The concept, also known as emotional quotient or EQ, has gained wide acceptance. However, some psychologists argue that because EQ cannot be captured via psychometric tests (as can, for example, <a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/sg/basics/intelligence" title="Psychology Today looks at general intelligence" class="basics-link" hreflang="en-SG">general intelligence</a>), it lacks true explanatory power. </span></span></span></span></span></span></p> </div> <div class="faqs"> <div class="faq faq--1"> <div itemscope itemprop="mainEntity" itemtype="https://schema.org/Question"> <div class="faq--title d-flex"> <div itemprop="name" class="h3 faq--question"> How self-aware is an emotionally intelligent person? </div> <div class="faq--control-container"> <button class="faq--control"> <div class="faq--control-icon"> <svg width="13px" height="8px" viewBox="0 0 13 8" version="1.1" xmlns="http://www.w3.org/2000/svg" xmlns:xlink="http://www.w3.org/1999/xlink"> <!-- Generator: Sketch 46.2 (44496) - http://www.bohemiancoding.com/sketch --> <desc>Created with Sketch.</desc> <defs></defs> <g id="-small" stroke="none" stroke-width="1" fill="none" fill-rule="evenodd"> <g id="Tests---Listing-Page---SM" transform="translate(-490.000000, -597.000000)" fill="#2C2D30"> <g id="Left-col" transform="translate(74.000000, 162.000000)"> <g id="Table" transform="translate(0.000000, 426.000000)"> <polygon id="navigatedown" points="422.310547 16.3125 428.621094 10.0019531 427.62793 9 422.310547 14.3173828 416.993164 9 416 10.0019531"></polygon> </g> </g> </g> </g> </svg> </div> </button> </div> </div> <div itemscope="" itemprop="acceptedAnswer" itemtype="https://schema.org/Answer" class="faq--answer"> <div itemprop="text"> <p>The emotionally intelligent are highly conscious of their own emotional states, even negative ones&mdash;from frustration or sadness to something more subtle. They are able to identify and understand what they are feeling, and being able to <a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/sg/blog/the-squeaky-wheel/201908/why-distinguishing-your-emotions-can-buffer-depression">name an emotion</a> helps manage that <a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/sg/basics/emotions" title="Psychology Today looks at emotion" class="basics-link" hreflang="en-SG">emotion</a>. Because of this, the emotionally intelligent have high <a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/sg/basics/confidence" title="Psychology Today looks at self-confidence" class="basics-link" hreflang="en-SG">self-confidence</a> and are realistic about themselves.</p> </div> </div> </div> </div> <div class="faq faq--2"> <div itemscope itemprop="mainEntity" itemtype="https://schema.org/Question"> <div class="faq--title d-flex"> <div itemprop="name" class="h3 faq--question"> Do the emotionally intelligent have a better handle on <a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/sg/basics/self-control" title="Psychology Today looks at self-regulation" class="basics-link" hreflang="en-SG">self-regulation</a>? </div> <div class="faq--control-container"> <button class="faq--control"> <div class="faq--control-icon"> <svg width="13px" height="8px" viewBox="0 0 13 8" version="1.1" xmlns="http://www.w3.org/2000/svg" xmlns:xlink="http://www.w3.org/1999/xlink"> <!-- Generator: Sketch 46.2 (44496) - http://www.bohemiancoding.com/sketch --> <desc>Created with Sketch.</desc> <defs></defs> <g id="-small" stroke="none" stroke-width="1" fill="none" fill-rule="evenodd"> <g id="Tests---Listing-Page---SM" transform="translate(-490.000000, -597.000000)" fill="#2C2D30"> <g id="Left-col" transform="translate(74.000000, 162.000000)"> <g id="Table" transform="translate(0.000000, 426.000000)"> <polygon id="navigatedown" points="422.310547 16.3125 428.621094 10.0019531 427.62793 9 422.310547 14.3173828 416.993164 9 416 10.0019531"></polygon> </g> </g> </g> </g> </svg> </div> </button> </div> </div> <div itemscope="" itemprop="acceptedAnswer" itemtype="https://schema.org/Answer" class="faq--answer"> <div itemprop="text"> <p>A person high in EQ is not impulsive or hasty with their actions. They think before they do. This translates into steady <a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/sg/blog/supersurvivors/201911/building-emotional-intelligence-isnt-hard-you-think">emotion regulation</a>, or the ability to reduce how intense an emotion feels. Taking <a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/sg/basics/anger" title="Psychology Today looks at anger" class="basics-link" hreflang="en-SG">anger</a> or <a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/sg/basics/anxiety" title="Psychology Today looks at anxiety" class="basics-link" hreflang="en-SG">anxiety</a> down a notch is called <em>down-regulation</em>. The emotionally intelligent are able to shift gears and lighten mood, both internally and externally.</p> </div> </div> </div> </div> <div class="faq faq--3 collapsed"> <div itemscope itemprop="mainEntity" itemtype="https://schema.org/Question"> <div class="faq--title d-flex"> <div itemprop="name" class="h3 faq--question"> Are the emotionally intelligent tuned into the emotions of others? </div> <div class="faq--control-container"> <button class="faq--control"> <div class="faq--control-icon"> <svg width="13px" height="8px" viewBox="0 0 13 8" version="1.1" xmlns="http://www.w3.org/2000/svg" xmlns:xlink="http://www.w3.org/1999/xlink"> <!-- Generator: Sketch 46.2 (44496) - http://www.bohemiancoding.com/sketch --> <desc>Created with Sketch.</desc> <defs></defs> <g id="-small" stroke="none" stroke-width="1" fill="none" fill-rule="evenodd"> <g id="Tests---Listing-Page---SM" transform="translate(-490.000000, -597.000000)" fill="#2C2D30"> <g id="Left-col" transform="translate(74.000000, 162.000000)"> <g id="Table" transform="translate(0.000000, 426.000000)"> <polygon id="navigatedown" points="422.310547 16.3125 428.621094 10.0019531 427.62793 9 422.310547 14.3173828 416.993164 9 416 10.0019531"></polygon> </g> </g> </g> </g> </svg> </div> </button> </div> </div> <div itemscope="" itemprop="acceptedAnswer" itemtype="https://schema.org/Answer" class="faq--answer"> <div itemprop="text"> <p>Such people are especially tuned into the emotions that others experience. It&rsquo;s understandable that sensitivity to <a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/sg/blog/fulfillment-any-age/201906/is-emotional-intelligence-something-you-can-learn">emotional signals</a> both from within oneself and from one's social environment could make one a better friend, parent, <a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/sg/basics/leadership" title="Psychology Today looks at leader" class="basics-link" hreflang="en-SG">leader</a>, or romantic partner. Being in tune with others is less work for others.</p> </div> </div> </div> </div> <div class="faq faq--4 collapsed"> <div itemscope itemprop="mainEntity" itemtype="https://schema.org/Question"> <div class="faq--title d-flex"> <div itemprop="name" class="h3 faq--question"> Are the emotionally intelligent more <a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/sg/basics/empathy" title="Psychology Today looks at empathic" class="basics-link" hreflang="en-SG">empathic</a>? </div> <div class="faq--control-container"> <button class="faq--control"> <div class="faq--control-icon"> <svg width="13px" height="8px" viewBox="0 0 13 8" version="1.1" xmlns="http://www.w3.org/2000/svg" xmlns:xlink="http://www.w3.org/1999/xlink"> <!-- Generator: Sketch 46.2 (44496) - http://www.bohemiancoding.com/sketch --> <desc>Created with Sketch.</desc> <defs></defs> <g id="-small" stroke="none" stroke-width="1" fill="none" fill-rule="evenodd"> <g id="Tests---Listing-Page---SM" transform="translate(-490.000000, -597.000000)" fill="#2C2D30"> <g id="Left-col" transform="translate(74.000000, 162.000000)"> <g id="Table" transform="translate(0.000000, 426.000000)"> <polygon id="navigatedown" points="422.310547 16.3125 428.621094 10.0019531 427.62793 9 422.310547 14.3173828 416.993164 9 416 10.0019531"></polygon> </g> </g> </g> </g> </svg> </div> </button> </div> </div> <div itemscope="" itemprop="acceptedAnswer" itemtype="https://schema.org/Answer" class="faq--answer"> <div itemprop="text"> <p>This person is able to recognize and understand the emotions of others, a skill tied to empathy. The person with a high EQ can hear and understand another person&rsquo;s point of view clearly. The empathic are generally supportive of the people in their lives, and they easily modulate their emotions to match the mood of another person as well.</p> </div> </div> </div> </div> <div class="faq faq--5 collapsed faq--last"> <div itemscope itemprop="mainEntity" itemtype="https://schema.org/Question"> <div class="faq--title d-flex"> <div itemprop="name" class="h3 faq--question"> Is emotional intelligence a valid construct? </div> <div class="faq--control-container"> <button class="faq--control"> <div class="faq--control-icon"> <svg width="13px" height="8px" viewBox="0 0 13 8" version="1.1" xmlns="http://www.w3.org/2000/svg" xmlns:xlink="http://www.w3.org/1999/xlink"> <!-- Generator: Sketch 46.2 (44496) - http://www.bohemiancoding.com/sketch --> <desc>Created with Sketch.</desc> <defs></defs> <g id="-small" stroke="none" stroke-width="1" fill="none" fill-rule="evenodd"> <g id="Tests---Listing-Page---SM" transform="translate(-490.000000, -597.000000)" fill="#2C2D30"> <g id="Left-col" transform="translate(74.000000, 162.000000)"> <g id="Table" transform="translate(0.000000, 426.000000)"> <polygon id="navigatedown" points="422.310547 16.3125 428.621094 10.0019531 427.62793 9 422.310547 14.3173828 416.993164 9 416 10.0019531"></polygon> </g> </g> </g> </g> </svg> </div> </button> </div> </div> <div itemscope="" itemprop="acceptedAnswer" itemtype="https://schema.org/Answer" class="faq--answer"> <div itemprop="text"> <p>This is a subject of active debate within the field. Some <a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/sg/basics/personality" title="Psychology Today looks at personality" class="basics-link" hreflang="en-SG">personality</a> psychologists argue&nbsp;that emotional intelligence can be more parsimoniously described by traits such as <a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/sg/basics/agreeableness" title="Psychology Today looks at agreeableness" class="basics-link" hreflang="en-SG">agreeableness</a>, and even <a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/sg/basics/charisma" title="Psychology Today looks at charisma" class="basics-link" hreflang="en-SG">charisma</a>. A<a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/sg/articles/200505/the-x-factors-success">&nbsp;highly charismatic</a> person, for example, is socially adept and can quickly read a room.</p> </div> </div> </div> </div> </div> </div> </div> <div class="pt-ad pt-ad--300x250 d-block d-none d-md-block d-lg-none block" id="block-ad-subpage-300x250-programmatically-rendered"> <div class="pt-ad--container pt-ad-show-text"> <div class="pt-ad--text"> <span>article continues after advertisement</span> </div> <div id="div-gpt-ad-1404853927369-9" class="pt-ad--content"> <script type="text/javascript"> if (window.googletag && googletag.apiReady) { googletag.cmd.push(function () { googletag.display('div-gpt-ad-1404853927369-9'); }); } </script> </div> </div> </div> <div> <div class="section section--separator"> <div id="how-to-cultivate-emotional-intelligence" class="section-anchor skip-inline-link-filter"></div> <div class="h2 section-title"> How to Cultivate Emotional Intelligence </div> <div class="section__body"> <article> <img src="https://cdn2.psychologytoday.com/assets/styles/manual_crop_1_1_180x180/public/2021-04/Heart_ArtofSun_Shutterstock_124706830.jpg?itok=fKk6xqXi" width="180" height="180" alt="Art of Sun Shutterstock" title="Art of Sun Shutterstock" loading="lazy" /> </article> <p> <span><span><span><span><span><span>We are naturally drawn to a person with high EQ. We are comfortable and at ease with their easy rapport. It feels as though they can read social cues with superhuman ability. Perhaps they can even mind-read how other people feel to some extent. This effortlessness is welcome in all domains of life&mdash;at home, in social settings, and at work. Who wouldn&rsquo;t want a boss who understood how you are feeling and what you are trying to accomplish?</span></span></span></span></span></span></p> </div> <div class="faqs"> <div class="faq faq--1"> <div itemscope itemprop="mainEntity" itemtype="https://schema.org/Question"> <div class="faq--title d-flex"> <div itemprop="name" class="h3 faq--question"> Can I learn to be more emotionally intelligent? </div> <div class="faq--control-container"> <button class="faq--control"> <div class="faq--control-icon"> <svg width="13px" height="8px" viewBox="0 0 13 8" version="1.1" xmlns="http://www.w3.org/2000/svg" xmlns:xlink="http://www.w3.org/1999/xlink"> <!-- Generator: Sketch 46.2 (44496) - http://www.bohemiancoding.com/sketch --> <desc>Created with Sketch.</desc> <defs></defs> <g id="-small" stroke="none" stroke-width="1" fill="none" fill-rule="evenodd"> <g id="Tests---Listing-Page---SM" transform="translate(-490.000000, -597.000000)" fill="#2C2D30"> <g id="Left-col" transform="translate(74.000000, 162.000000)"> <g id="Table" transform="translate(0.000000, 426.000000)"> <polygon id="navigatedown" points="422.310547 16.3125 428.621094 10.0019531 427.62793 9 422.310547 14.3173828 416.993164 9 416 10.0019531"></polygon> </g> </g> </g> </g> </svg> </div> </button> </div> </div> <div itemscope="" itemprop="acceptedAnswer" itemtype="https://schema.org/Answer" class="faq--answer"> <div itemprop="text"> <p>Yes, you can. You can start by learning to <a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/sg/blog/supersurvivors/201911/building-emotional-intelligence-isnt-hard-you-think">identify the emotions</a> you are feeling as well as understanding them. If you are able to name the emotion you are feeling, you have a better chance of understanding what you are feeling. You can also learn to better regulate your emotions just by stopping and thinking before you act and judge. These skills will help you martial inner resolve and stick to what really matters in life.</p> </div> </div> </div> </div> <div class="faq faq--2"> <div itemscope itemprop="mainEntity" itemtype="https://schema.org/Question"> <div class="faq--title d-flex"> <div itemprop="name" class="h3 faq--question"> Are the emotionally intelligent higher performers in the workplace? </div> <div class="faq--control-container"> <button class="faq--control"> <div class="faq--control-icon"> <svg width="13px" height="8px" viewBox="0 0 13 8" version="1.1" xmlns="http://www.w3.org/2000/svg" xmlns:xlink="http://www.w3.org/1999/xlink"> <!-- Generator: Sketch 46.2 (44496) - http://www.bohemiancoding.com/sketch --> <desc>Created with Sketch.</desc> <defs></defs> <g id="-small" stroke="none" stroke-width="1" fill="none" fill-rule="evenodd"> <g id="Tests---Listing-Page---SM" transform="translate(-490.000000, -597.000000)" fill="#2C2D30"> <g id="Left-col" transform="translate(74.000000, 162.000000)"> <g id="Table" transform="translate(0.000000, 426.000000)"> <polygon id="navigatedown" points="422.310547 16.3125 428.621094 10.0019531 427.62793 9 422.310547 14.3173828 416.993164 9 416 10.0019531"></polygon> </g> </g> </g> </g> </svg> </div> </button> </div> </div> <div itemscope="" itemprop="acceptedAnswer" itemtype="https://schema.org/Answer" class="faq--answer"> <div itemprop="text"> <p>While some studies have found a link between emotional intelligence and job performance, many others have shown no correlation whatsoever, and the lack of a scientifically valid scale makes it difficult to truly measure or predict how <a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/sg/blog/the-personality-analyst/200909/what-emotional-intelligence-is-and-is-not">emotionally intuitive a person may be</a> on the job or in other areas of life.</p> </div> </div> </div> </div> <div class="faq faq--3 collapsed"> <div itemscope itemprop="mainEntity" itemtype="https://schema.org/Question"> <div class="faq--title d-flex"> <div itemprop="name" class="h3 faq--question"> Are the emotionally intelligent more motivated? </div> <div class="faq--control-container"> <button class="faq--control"> <div class="faq--control-icon"> <svg width="13px" height="8px" viewBox="0 0 13 8" version="1.1" xmlns="http://www.w3.org/2000/svg" xmlns:xlink="http://www.w3.org/1999/xlink"> <!-- Generator: Sketch 46.2 (44496) - http://www.bohemiancoding.com/sketch --> <desc>Created with Sketch.</desc> <defs></defs> <g id="-small" stroke="none" stroke-width="1" fill="none" fill-rule="evenodd"> <g id="Tests---Listing-Page---SM" transform="translate(-490.000000, -597.000000)" fill="#2C2D30"> <g id="Left-col" transform="translate(74.000000, 162.000000)"> <g id="Table" transform="translate(0.000000, 426.000000)"> <polygon id="navigatedown" points="422.310547 16.3125 428.621094 10.0019531 427.62793 9 422.310547 14.3173828 416.993164 9 416 10.0019531"></polygon> </g> </g> </g> </g> </svg> </div> </button> </div> </div> <div itemscope="" itemprop="acceptedAnswer" itemtype="https://schema.org/Answer" class="faq--answer"> <div itemprop="text"> <p>These people are able to mobilize and utilize their emotions, and they are motivated to manage tasks and problem-solve obstacles. They are connected to who they are and what they value in life, which are foundational for prioritizing and reaching any objective or goal. Knowing what matters is crucial for <a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/sg/basics/productivity" title="Psychology Today looks at productivity" class="basics-link" hreflang="en-SG">productivity</a>.</p> </div> </div> </div> </div> <div class="faq faq--4 collapsed"> <div itemscope itemprop="mainEntity" itemtype="https://schema.org/Question"> <div class="faq--title d-flex"> <div itemprop="name" class="h3 faq--question"> Can you test for emotional intelligence in the workplace? </div> <div class="faq--control-container"> <button class="faq--control"> <div class="faq--control-icon"> <svg width="13px" height="8px" viewBox="0 0 13 8" version="1.1" xmlns="http://www.w3.org/2000/svg" xmlns:xlink="http://www.w3.org/1999/xlink"> <!-- Generator: Sketch 46.2 (44496) - http://www.bohemiancoding.com/sketch --> <desc>Created with Sketch.</desc> <defs></defs> <g id="-small" stroke="none" stroke-width="1" fill="none" fill-rule="evenodd"> <g id="Tests---Listing-Page---SM" transform="translate(-490.000000, -597.000000)" fill="#2C2D30"> <g id="Left-col" transform="translate(74.000000, 162.000000)"> <g id="Table" transform="translate(0.000000, 426.000000)"> <polygon id="navigatedown" points="422.310547 16.3125 428.621094 10.0019531 427.62793 9 422.310547 14.3173828 416.993164 9 416 10.0019531"></polygon> </g> </g> </g> </g> </svg> </div> </button> </div> </div> <div itemscope="" itemprop="acceptedAnswer" itemtype="https://schema.org/Answer" class="faq--answer"> <div itemprop="text"> <p>In recent years, some employers have incorporated emotional intelligence tests into their application and interview processes, on the theory that someone high in emotional intelligence would make <a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/sg/blog/fulfillment-any-age/201906/is-emotional-intelligence-something-you-can-learn">a better leader or coworker</a>. However, it is not clear if these measures are accurate or even useful.</p> </div> </div> </div> </div> <div class="faq faq--5 collapsed faq--last"> <div itemscope itemprop="mainEntity" itemtype="https://schema.org/Question"> <div class="faq--title d-flex"> <div itemprop="name" class="h3 faq--question"> Can emotional intelligence be measured? </div> <div class="faq--control-container"> <button class="faq--control"> <div class="faq--control-icon"> <svg width="13px" height="8px" viewBox="0 0 13 8" version="1.1" xmlns="http://www.w3.org/2000/svg" xmlns:xlink="http://www.w3.org/1999/xlink"> <!-- Generator: Sketch 46.2 (44496) - http://www.bohemiancoding.com/sketch --> <desc>Created with Sketch.</desc> <defs></defs> <g id="-small" stroke="none" stroke-width="1" fill="none" fill-rule="evenodd"> <g id="Tests---Listing-Page---SM" transform="translate(-490.000000, -597.000000)" fill="#2C2D30"> <g id="Left-col" transform="translate(74.000000, 162.000000)"> <g id="Table" transform="translate(0.000000, 426.000000)"> <polygon id="navigatedown" points="422.310547 16.3125 428.621094 10.0019531 427.62793 9 422.310547 14.3173828 416.993164 9 416 10.0019531"></polygon> </g> </g> </g> </g> </svg> </div> </button> </div> </div> <div itemscope="" itemprop="acceptedAnswer" itemtype="https://schema.org/Answer" class="faq--answer"> <div itemprop="text"> <p>Testing for EQ in the workplace, for example, is difficult because there is no validated psychometric test or scale for emotional intelligence as there is for the general intelligence factor&mdash;and many argue that emotional intelligence is therefore not an actual construct, but a way of describing interpersonal skills.</p> </div> </div> </div> </div> </div> </div> </div> </div> </div> <div class="views-element-container"><div class="js-view-dom-id-0856885b84774c737f48ff286638d345e6dbf705ac8c34c2dc550dfa00042154"> <section class="basics--essential-reads"> <div class="h2 page-section-header">Essential Reads</div> <div class="teaser--card-inset-details--row"> <article class="teaser--card-inset-details blog_entry--teaser--card-inset-details" data-nid="5027568"> <div class="card-inset-details__image"> <a href="/sg/blog/mindful-metaphors/202411/emotional-intelligence-exploring-and-expanding"><img loading="lazy" src="https://cdn2.psychologytoday.com/assets/styles/manual_crop_3_2_600x400/public/teaser_image/blog_entry/2024-11/heart-4682762_1280.jpg?itok=nq8cHMw9" width="600" height="400" alt="" title="Gerd Altmann/Pixabay" /> </a> </div> <div class="card-inset-details__body"> <div class="card-inset-details__title"> <a href="/sg/blog/mindful-metaphors/202411/emotional-intelligence-exploring-and-expanding" title="Emotional Intelligence: Exploring and Expanding"> Emotional Intelligence: Exploring and Expanding </a> </div> <div class="card-inset-details__teaser-text"> Success in our complicated world depends upon good social-emotional skills, and metaphors for understanding the 4 domains of emotional intelligence can help. </div> </div> </article> <article class="teaser--card-inset-details blog_entry--teaser--card-inset-details" data-nid="5026994"> <div class="card-inset-details__image"> <a href="/sg/blog/feeling-it/202411/3-unexpected-signs-you-have-high-emotional-intelligence"><img loading="lazy" src="https://cdn2.psychologytoday.com/assets/styles/manual_crop_3_2_600x400/public/teaser_image/blog_entry/2024-11/beauty-2483155_1280.jpg?itok=0TUKchgL" width="600" height="400" alt="" title="Shanon / Pixabay" /> </a> </div> <div class="card-inset-details__body"> <div class="card-inset-details__title"> <a href="/sg/blog/feeling-it/202411/3-unexpected-signs-you-have-high-emotional-intelligence" title="3 Unexpected Signs You Have High Emotional Intelligence"> 3 Unexpected Signs You Have High Emotional Intelligence </a> </div> <div class="card-inset-details__teaser-text"> Want to know if you&#039;re emotionally intelligent? 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