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Weiss</a></figcaption></figure></div></div></div><div class="ab cb"><div class="ci bh fz ga gb gc"><p id="a0a8" class="pw-post-body-paragraph op oq hd or b hx os ot ou ia ov ow ox oy oz pa pb pc pd pe pf pg ph pi pj pk gw bk pl"><span class="l pm pn po bo pp pq pr ps pt fj">I</span> think it was the dead flies on the window sill that led to my father’s heart attack.</p><p id="9654" class="pw-post-body-paragraph op oq hd or b hx os ot ou ia ov ow ox oy oz pa pb pc pd pe pf pg ph pi pj pk gw bk">Not directly, I should add. Rather, they were merely another small irritant in a cumulative ocean of irritants. And when you’re a T<a class="af oo" href="https://www.webmd.com/balance/what-is-a-type-a-personality" rel="noopener ugc nofollow" target="_blank">ype A</a> personality with little patience for imperfection, all the irritants in life start to add up. They release rivers of cortisol in the bloodstream, until one day you have a heart attack.</p><p id="bef2" class="pw-post-body-paragraph op oq hd or b hx os ot ou ia ov ow ox oy oz pa pb pc pd pe pf pg ph pi pj pk gw bk">That’s what happened to my father.</p><p id="09af" class="pw-post-body-paragraph op oq hd or b hx os ot ou ia ov ow ox oy oz pa pb pc pd pe pf pg ph pi pj pk gw bk">We were all watching TV one night in the living room. Dad started to perspire, looked at my mother, and said, “Pat, I’m not feeling right. I think it’s my heart.”</p><p id="d2cf" class="pw-post-body-paragraph op oq hd or b hx os ot ou ia ov ow ox oy oz pa pb pc pd pe pf pg ph pi pj pk gw bk">We helped him over to the couch where he lay down. Mom told me to stay with him while she went to the kitchen and phoned 9–1–1. Dad looked up at me and said, “Keep a stiff upper lip, Johnny.”</p><p id="f11b" class="pw-post-body-paragraph op oq hd or b hx os ot ou ia ov ow ox oy oz pa pb pc pd pe pf pg ph pi pj pk gw bk">Because Dad was a stoic.</p><p id="029b" class="pw-post-body-paragraph op oq hd or b hx os ot ou ia ov ow ox oy oz pa pb pc pd pe pf pg ph pi pj pk gw bk">While we waited for the paramedics, I thought about the other day when Dad came home from work. He set his briefcase down in the hallway, strolled into the master bedroom to greet my mother, and then looked at the windowsill.</p><p id="4d74" class="pw-post-body-paragraph op oq hd or b hx os ot ou ia ov ow ox oy oz pa pb pc pd pe pf pg ph pi pj pk gw bk">“Pat, look at all those dead flies on the window sill!”</p></div></div></div></div></section></div></div></article></div><div class="l"></div><footer class="pu pv pw px gv ab q py jb c"><div class="l ae"><div class="ab cb"><div class="ci bh fz ga gb gc"><div class="ab cp pz"><div class="ab q lo"><div class="qa l"><span class="l qb qc qd e d"><div class="ab q lo lp"><div class="pw-multi-vote-icon fj gt lq lr ls"><span><a class="af ag ah ai aj ak al am an ao ap aq ar as at" data-testid="footerClapButton" rel="noopener follow" 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